if i was getting any kind of sex outta this, i wouldn’t have been annoyed enough to start a pit thread, believe me!
get out.
ummm… perhaps I didn’t make myself clear…
Get Out.
are you listening? ready?..
Get OUT!
Oh, I know what might help…
GET OUT!
<just my two cents worth>
Sorry 'bout that smiley.
heh.
Suggest some sort of bi-monthly room swap. It is only fair. Short of that, talk to your landlord about sub-letting your space and spend time on couches until you can find a room in a shared household or something. Usually during quarter (or sememster) changes, a lot of room opens up houseing-wise because people graduate or quit.
there is no right or wrong here!
grow up
Been there too, my friend.
From what you say, the X is more than a trifle immature. You might be very reasonable, but when she has made up her mind not to, (and that’s what it sounds like to me), it’s going to be impossible to keep those living arrangements without some emotional scarring at best.
At worst this could end up in domestic violence. You’re the man, right? That means you’re probably bigger and stronger. If her screaming turns into punching, she could call the cops and you will most likely spend some time in jail. Even if you don’t strike back.
My advice is to find someone else to take over your half of the lease, but that won’t be easy in a one-bedroom. Abandoning a lease will be expensive, but not as expensive as anger management classes and fines on top of the lease.
You should get out as soon as you can.
jack@ssi don’t think this is going to turn violent. so far our problems have been pretty small. and i doubt her screaming’s going to turn into hitting… she’ll yell about anything, but that doesn’t mean she’s super pissed off (i hated that while we were dating… me:“stop yelling! it’s not that big of a deal!” her:“oh, i’m not really pissed off, that’s just how i argue.” to her, minor disagreement=yelling as loud as you can about it. sheesh). nevertheless, i’m now freaked-out that i’m going to end up in jail for nothing. thank you very much! 
Nanno:
was that comment was directed at me, in reference to the previous comment i made? i only meant it as a joke. sorry if i didn’t make that clear.
Been there, done that, still have the T-shirt.
First, forget the letter idea. If it makes you feel better to write the letters, then do so. But you’re under no obligation to deliver them. The people that I know that have tried that (myself included) have all come away from the experience surprisingly disappointed. You put your emotions in print – a foolish move since the half-life of the letter is sufficient for your words to be used against you – and before long discover that she’s shared your thoughts with her girlfriends, a male “friend” that’s there for support, sent copies to your friends, or even posted them on the bulletin board. Even if none of this happens, all you have to do is phrase one thing poorly and she’ll pounce on it like a cat.
You claim that she “called” the bedroom. Don’t let this stand. If there is a bathroom for the apartment as well as one for the bedroom the “call” the bathroom attached to the bedroom. If she’s allowed to disrespect your living space at any time of the day or night, well, sauce for the goose… Negotiate. She gets the bedroom for a month while you get the living room. Next month the arrangement reverses.
I assume that both names are on the lease. If not, problem solved.
Have you considered some new habits, such as chewing tobacco?
Living on your own sofa for a year is a really weird way to live. Life is too short for this, and you’re entirely too young to spend the “fun” years of your life going through this hell.
As the man said, “GET OUT”.