I agree about the priorities, but that’s no reason to pass up the kissing. A lady has to rest sometime!
(For a little while, anyway.)
“You blocks,
you stones,
you worse than senseless things!
O you hard hearts!”
–Julius Caesar, Act 1, Scene i
KILLING IS WRONG!!!
[sub]Oh, you said “kissing”? 
I wouldn’t know anything about that. 
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Kissing can be better than sex (note- i said “can be”). I love it, long slow, or any way.
But- you girlfreind has issues- get counseling, or get another girl- otherwise you will never be happy.
There is almost nothing I like more than long, slow, sensuous kissing. The SO used to do it as well - we used to do things like andygirl mentioned up above here.
But that ended long ago. And it hurts. More than I would have thought possible.
Very little can match a long afternoon or evening wasted with long, slow kisses. It can even transcend sex, though lovemaking with the RIGHT person can’t be matched.
sigh
I call them lazy kisses and I now I think about it I haven’t had them in awhile. Thanks for bringing it up…
Sounds like an intimacy thing with the GF in the OP. You’ll notice that there’s rarely any kissing in porno movies, and from the things I’ve read and heard (no personal experience here–I’m to poor) hookers don’t usually kiss either or if they do you pay extra. IMO, good kissing is more intimate and personal than just about any sexual act, and perhaps the GF has some problems with that.
I love long, slow kissing. Nothing gets my motor running better or faster. To me it’s an essential part of foreplay…or any play at all. 
Very appropriate sig line Giraffe!! 
I love kissing. It’s one of the best parts of a physical relationship IMHO. Long, slow, passionate kisses make me soooo hot… but only if the person is a good kisser. I’ve had sloppy wet kisses before and I can’t stand it! There’s nothing worse than having to wipe your mouth after a kiss. Yuck!
I think there has to be something going on with your girlfriend if she doesn’t like kissing at all. Did she enjoy kissing at one time or has she always been like this??
Hmmmm, kissing…
That first careful, probing, somewhat awkward kiss. nd the realization that she is, in fact, responding and not about to fight you off.
Long, slow, sensous kissing in a sunstripe on the couch, never mind that the tea is getting cold and the movie is over.
Short, pecky, playful kisses right on the doorstep with the fresh air still in her clothes and hair.
Disgustingly sloppy, wet, passionate kisses during red-hot lovemaking when you just need to be kissing but really can’t be bothered with technique.
Even chaste, teasing, closed-mouth, just-telling-the-world-you’re-MINE kisses. A whiff of her perfume, a glance and a smile - sigh.
Snorman
Maybe she doesn’t like to kiss because she is self-conscious of her own ability to kiss? Just a thought. My friend dated a guy who didn’t kiss. He was a terrible jerk though.
I have a woman friend who said she doesn’t like to kiss. It could be from an old memory of being kissed by some creepy relative in childhood.
All I can say is, work this out to YOUR staisfaction before making a long-term comitment to this person if kissing is important to you.
My SO was married for over 20 years to a woman who wouldn’t kiss him. She turned out to be quite a cold fish and only was interested in him as a “sperm donor”. After they had their second kid, she refused to let him touch her in any way for anything. 12 years later( :eek: ), she files for divorce.
When I met him, the one of the things that really turned me on was what a great kisser he is!! He still can’t quite believe that I like it! Or that he can do it “right”.
Physical compatibility is much more important than most people realize. My ex thought sex once every 4 to 6 weeks was sufficient. I didn’t agree and we wound up in divorce court and, 10 years later, he still wants to fight about these issues!! :rolleyes:
Been there, done that,
MomCat
Good, Long, SLow kissing is a great idea. My wife and I love the concept.
I’ve found that the worst kissers are the ones who have a certain technique to which they stick, come hell or high water. I generally sort of fell out the territory…because people tend to kiss the way THEY want to be kissed, so if you watch for the signals and kiss them the same way, it can be pretty electrifying. That said…
I have met a couple of people who do the same thing and this kissing ended up being a sort of slow-burn electricity, leading through stages to wanting to rip each others’ clothes off. Of course, the worst is when you’re dropping someone off at their house, you’re expected back home, and this happens. Talk about exquisite torture.
And, damn you all, I had to read this while Tark was at work. I hate all of you with passion unspeakable.
And, as a side note, an oral fixation can be a very Good Thing.
I have read hardcore porn that has turned me on far less than this thread.
Thank you Spiny Norman. I was trying to study this afternoon.
I love kissing. A lot. Its so discriptive, so mood bending. So comunicative. I love the undeniable kisses the best. The ones you just have to have…and have…and have. Where the world ends and begins with you(pl.) mmm…the slow building burn… love that Hamadryad. I do the slow, sweet, finding and flowing and following thing. With no one leading it can get really heady.
About the GF in the OP. I don’t know. If you feel she is the one keep showing her that she can trust you. That you love her purely and will continue to do so. Or ditch her and go hunt up someone with more fitting baggage.
I read stranger in a strange land when I was in high school. When it’s appropriate, that’s my favorite approach. Much to be said about purety of thought and motion.
In my experience, very, very true. Unfortunatly, when they don’t kiss you at all, how do you emulate them? Go play playstation or feed the cat?
[sigh] Coming to terms with my dissatisfaction in this relationship being directly tied to kissing has been hard.
Has anyone successfully converted a non-kisser? Or were you a non-kisser until you met that special someone that did ____?
p.s. AndyGirl, I know exactly what you mean, hours at a time with someone you love is the absolute best.
mmmmmmmmmm kissing…
yes its great stuff with the right person.
sigh I miss my Raymie…
I only get to see him once a week, but boy that one time is nice. He’s a good kisser.
I agree with Rachelle, kissing is one of the best things in a physical relationship. If you can’t kiss then what’s the point, that how most things gets started.
My ex-boyfriend was the greatest kisser, or maybe it was just how I felt about him that made me feel that way. He just kissed me and it was like a scene from one of those trashy romance novels where you got the whole butterflies in your stomach, warm all over, never want it to end, take me now I’m yours, type of kisses. But like I’ve come to realize, if you don’t trust and care about the guy then the kiss means nothing to you and you just don’t feel the same way. I have a new boyfriend now and well when we get into the long passionate lazy kisses I’ll tell you about it alrighty? Although he seems to be coming along just fine.
Kitty
Kissing (in and of itself) doesn’t get me physically excited, but I guess the best way to put it would be that it gets me emotionally excited…
So put me in for a vote “It’s good if it’s with the right person”. I mean, I guess I can see how sex is fun with no matter who (even though I wouldn’t do that), but I can’t see kissing some random person being exciting.