Ooooh good point.
So far it seems to be, 50% believe it’s past trauma/just don’t like kissing, 50% believe I’m just not the right guy.
Hmmm. We do fight a lot… but things seemed to be better lately…
About your girlfriend dilemma:
If her unwillingness to kiss you indicates a bigger problem, then you have a problem. If it’s just that she simply doesn’t like kissing, I don’t think that it’s something important enough to ditch her for, as I have seen others suggest.
Of course I wouldn’t leave her over a kissing issue, she’s a wonderful girl, very bright [188 IQ], pretty, and sweet. (waiting for a “full house” style, group ‘awwwwwwwww’) I just wish she would kiss me more often, especially intimately. It’s a good way of melting into someone.
Right now, I’d settle for a peck on the cheek - any offers?
'kay, Colin, you got it.
Scotti gives you a peck on the cheek.
Then, since Scotti never learned to shut up, she offers her opinion. (I know you don’t WANT it, but this girl never DID learn to shut her mouth.)
Long, slow, sensuous kissing is the best thing in the universe. It is divine, and a delicious prelude to a joining of souls as well as bodies.
It is much more intimate than sex,IMHO, because it doesn’t happen unless you deeply care about someone. MUCH more intimate than “monkey sex” which I wish someone would explain to me, BTW?
I assume that this monkey sex thing is physical and recreational sex, and of course it is anyone’s right to do that. Having said this, I wish to say that I think that this “monkey sex” thing is too meaningless to be GOOD for anyone. It is not my belief that sex is a sport. It is a joining of two souls. Even if that is not what the two people involved intended it to be so.
JMHO, and the way I choose to live my life.
And, of course, one of the many, many reasons that I made the decision nine years ago to become and remain celibate.
Scotti
:o
Dolin Milkinson
I have to agree with Hamadryad; electricity is the precise metaphor to use when attempting to convey certain kisses… those kisses that send bolts of lightning through your veins, curl your toes, singe your hair, tumble your normally homeostatic sensory system into chaotic freefall without a strange attractor in sight…
On the other hand, there have been some women who, despite their ability to instantaneously reduce me to some positively charged, pre-verbal, quivering mass of protoplasm with a mere brush of their lip I’ve left after half a dozen dates, because they were bigots or idiots or we were otherwise incompatible.
The ability to give good lip is important, but if she’s bright (an IQ of 188 would put her in the top ½ of the top ½ of the top 1%) and she has any latent massage abilities…
Whoops, it’s midnight; I have to convert to my pumpkin state - Pinky
Sorry, I assume that this was headed my way, and I don’t get it.
Guess I am dumber than we thought?
But at least you got a cyberkiss on the cheek.
Scotti
Oops, a simulpost, sorry Dr.Pinky.
My response was to Colin.
Not that I expect either one of you to care, but I like things to be clear and honest.
Just me, I guess~
Scotti
I thought you had a D & M fixation Scottichier - Oh well 
Oh, I care deeply, Scotticher. Sorry to have intervened.
Have you ever noticed, that after 19 or so months of celibacy, the curves of the back of the couch – the breeze ruffling the lace curtains – the crunch of gravel beneath your sandals – becomes a lot more enticing?
Well, actually…No.
I find that the longer you don’t make love, the less you miss it.
Kind of sad, when you think about it!
Sorry, Colin~
My brain wasn’t linked to my typing fingers last night, I guess.
Somewhat belatedly;
Har har har, belly laugh, ho ho ho!
Is that better?
Scotti
Not the case for me. The longer I go without, the more I want it. Just about anything arouses me now: a falling leaf brushing my arm, a loose wisp of hair from my ponytail tickling my cheek, etc. Maybe it hasn’t been long enough - 6 months since my last encounter. Since the last good sex it’s been 16 months…sigh…
On kissing: I agree that it is the most intimate thing once can do with another. But in my screwy world, the man I love the best kisses with his teeth (YUCK!) and the 2 best kissers have been selfish in bed and/or psychotic and abusive.
I can so sympathize with you on that. Well in my own younger more innocent way at least. About a month and a half ago my boyfriend of 7 and a half months dumped me, now there was this thing we did, even if I was mad at him we’d go and spend an hour alone together every week. You can just imagine what we did. Though I’m still a sweet innocent virgin child. But for the two weeks before we broke up we hardly even hugged each other. So it’s been about two months and sure I’ve kissed my new boyfriend but I want to wait a while before we take it any further than that. But now I’m just hormy as hell. It’s kind of sad, it’s self imposed misery because I’m sure my boyfriend would be all for it if I suggested it to him but at this point even a hug makes me all whimpery and horny. Sucks don’t it?
Kitty
That don’t suck, that is quite beautiful . What I wouldn’t give to kiss the love of my life again, we had our own unique routine when it came to kissing. I sometimes wonder if she wishes her current lover kisses like me. I used to love to hold her beautiful face in my hands and kiss her like she was the last woman on earth, she used to giggle when I kissed the back of her neck. Her ears were especially sensitive. Never quite understood why she got all upset when I grabbed her from behind and squeezed her boobs while she was doing the dishes?