IMO: You don’t know if you want to marry someone until you see the reactions to stress and adverse situations, and see the facade fade from the actions. This isn’t really possible over the net.
I’ve certainly eliminated a number of women from the pool over the net, but I would never decide that this was the one over the net alone.
I just want to say again…thankyou for sharing your life stories and opinions everyone…it has helped me alot and it is greatly appreciated.
Yes, it’s quite wonderful.
I have a long story of my own, but I am pretty tired at the moment, and lacking articulation. Basically, I met her through this very website.
I saw a couple of her posts in GD, and decided to email her, we hit it off slowly, but then when we found out how much we had in common, we spoke every waking hour. Since we’re only 14, it’s kind of limited though, ever try telling your parents you found a lovely girl over the 'net? Yeah, it’s not the best thing to do. Anyways… We’ve spoken on the phone for hours, and spent entire days talking on instant messanger, I checked our autolog once, I think we have around 150,000 messages sent between us. We’ve been together around 5 months and it’s lovely talking to her every day.
I haven’t been this happy in years, we have nearly everything in common, as well as a LOT of the same experiences, we’ve traded pictures and man, she is beautiful.
The difficulty is, her mom is very strict, and wouldn’t let her even go out with someone til she’s 16, let alone some ‘stranger’ on the 'net. It’s really annoying, and keeps us apart, but its definately worth waiting 1-2 years.
By the way, we were both very wary originally, and made sure we were who we were by pictures with specific things in them and phone calls.
Neither of us have ever been in a relationship, and sometimes it bothers me of what others might think about us. Like, it’s just ‘young lust’ or whatever. I believe meeting over the internet is the best way in life, I came to appreciate her as a person, not just a beautiful woman. She’s my best friend and romantic interest, and it’s wonderful.
I personally think meeting over the internet is fantastic, and I’m glad I met her this way, because we know eachother so well now, and seeing as how we were both extremely shy before we met eachother, communication over the 'net was a fantastic way to share things.
I’m Ryle Dup’s girlfriend, formerly Topaz. I changed my name to StanDup for obvious reasons :).
We met 5 months ago, he e-mailed me, and he sounded like a nice guy. I E-mailed him back and asked him if he had a screenname. He did.
We talked for a few days, and we could have been considered more than acquantances and a little less than best friends, (y’know, the standard “Hey” “Hi” “What’s up?” “Nothing much” thing) until we found out how much in common we really had one day.
We hit it off, and from that day, we’ve been talking through IM and calling every day. The best part about it is that ( to echo Ryle’s sentiments) you love that person for who he or she is and the relationship is not based on how hot your SO is (which Ryle certainly is ^_~).
I think internet dating is a great way to get to know people, as long as you are careful in what you do and reveal to other people. Once you get to know each other better, you can start trudting them more and more as time goes on.
I met my husband in a yahoo chat room nearly six years ago. I was 15, he was 18. We chatted and emailed and talked on the phone from April to September. We met for the first time on my 16th birthday–my mom took me and my sisters to Vegas for the weekend and he flew in and we met him at the airport.
We pretty much haven’t been apart since. He moved in with us and then we got married and there ya go.
“He moved in with us”
You mean your parents?! Your parents let a 18(19?) year old guy move in with their 16 year old daughter?!?
Am I misunderstanding this?
No, you’re not misunderstanding. He moved in, slept in the spare bed, got a job, and basically paid rent. And by rent, I mean took over most of my expenses (car payment, gas, clothes, car insurance, and I had a lot of school expenses too…) He moved into a different apartment for a short time while we lived in Utah, and then we moved to California nd he moved with us and slept in the spare room…He lived with my family for 2 years before we got married…
I’m one year older than you and I understand fully what you mean. How the hell do you tell your parents??? It’s the same with me…I haven’t been a proper relationship either and I wonder what people think too…but I’m the happiest I’ve been and he feels so “right”…so I don’t care what people think.
Besides…I can wait 2 years.
Well, she hasn’t been able to, since her mom is a bit paranoid about talking to anyone on the internet. As far as my parents really know, I just have a friend who lives across the country and I talk to her a lot.
Same here:)
I met my wife in person, but we probably wouldn’t be married if not for the Internet. I moved to Seattle before we became involved; she was still in Pennsylvania. Snail mail is fine, but it was the regular, no-strings-attached e-mail contact that allowed us to get to know each other, and provided an opening for me to invite her to visit. She came for a 5-day visit and never left.
that’s nice to hear. I am amzed at how many people actually have successful relationships with people they first met over the interenet. Thankyou all and best wishes. 
that’s nice to hear. I am amazed at how many people actually have successful relationships with people they first met over the interenet. Thankyou all and best wishes.