Yeah, my husband looked into volunteering with toddlers and preschoolers. He loves them in the same way that I love kittens, that is, there’s nothing sexual about it. However, there are just so many hoops and barriers and precautions that he’d have to take that he just decided not to bother. Instead, he plays with his great nieces and nephews, and spoils them rotten.
It’s a pity, because there are a lot of kids who could use a positive male role model in their lives, and because my husband would enjoy it.
STEP ASIDE WOMAN. I GOTS ME A CHILLIN TO DONE BE MOLESTERING ALREADY!
Please get that on video if you can.
My youtube collection is getting a bit worn. If you can get some Canadian panhandlers in the background looking shocked that would be a bonus.
You know what?
Before your absurd posts, I “might” have considered bowing to this absurd level of child overprotection…
But now???.. I WILL make SURE if some dufus like you tries to keep me out of a public bathroom…they will have to beat the crap out of me to keep me from going in…and then I’ll sue their asses off after the fact.
A 2 year old child needs to be accompanied in a restroom, no matter what its sex is. For one thing, it can’t reach the sink.
Second, I don’t know about other people, but if I’m in a rush to get to the bathroom, I do NOT have the luxury of explaining myself to a paranoid parent. I need to get in there NOW, and anyone who blocks my way, physically, is likely to get shoved aside, if I’m able to do that. YOU are the one who initiates the rudeness here, by trying to block other people from using public facilities. Don’t be surprised when your rudeness is met with more rudeness.
Most 2-year-olds aren’t even potty trained, are they?
Regarding LHoD and similar issues, the problem is that it really doesn’t take more than an accusation by some disgruntled kid for an entire life and career to be ruined, even if the teacher or mentor is exhonerated by the court. Even a pre-trial headline, “Man Denies Molestation Charges” doesn’t really do anything but make matters worse. It might not happen statistically often, but the reward for serving would have to be substantial since the risk is there.
And I’m another who goes from normal to EMERGENCY in seconds. I actually have to watch what I eat up to 24 hours before if I won’t be within easy reach of a restroom.
TruCelt, if you had a male child who was old enough to handle bathroom issues on his own (I don’t know how old that is–five or six?) but young enough where he’s still a target to pedophiles, would you prevent other men from going into a bathroom where he was? Because that to me seems excessive.
I don’t think you have the right to demand that grown adults explain their bathroom issues to you before they get a ‘pass’ to enter a public washroom.
It’s somewaht ironic that you are trying to defend a two year olds ‘privacy and safety’ but would happily ask somebody to describe their diarrhea to you.
I would think a man preventing others from entering a public bathroom might be hiding something inside. How do I know your buddy isn’t raping a little girl in there?
FTW.
If someone without a uniform is trying to physically bar me from the restroom, the only reasonable conclusion is they’re lying about something shady. Not necessarily rapin’, of course, but something hella suspicious.
Good lord, woman, get a freaking grip before you give yourself an ulcer. I’ve managed to so far raise two kids to adulthood and tweenhood, respectively, without feeling the need to throw body checks on other adults who threatened to move within three feet of them. I’m not delusional enough to think that the world owes me any special considerations or treatment because I’ve bred twice, nor that my kids are any more special than anyone else’s kids. People have to pee. Trying to stop them because OMG anyone who comes near little Precious must be a child molester!!:eek: is dimwitted, short-sighted, and assholish.
My kids’ school had this in the 80s, and we actually used it. The situation was that my husband, at the time a professional driver, was at work and 60 miles away. I was at work at my normally 45-minute commute. A snowstorm descended upon the area, the school was closing, and because of the conditions we figured it would take a minimum of 2 hours to get there.
Meanwhile the school was two blocks from our house, and our oldest kid had the key.
So one of my husband’s coworkers who was NOT 60 miles away was dispatched to pick up the little nosepickers and deliver them home.
They were the last kids there.
The password, “pepperoni,” was duly communicated to the coworker, who forgot it. When the teacher asked him what the password was he said “something to do with pizza.”
My oldest son said, “Close enough.”
The fact that the stranger drove a truck with the same logo as the one his father drove probably helped a bit.
Exactly. I have a two year old son and I would never let him go into a bathroom alone. If he is with my wife they will go into the ladies and they can always go into a stall and close the door. Frankly, it will be awhile until he can go on his own, and even then me or the misses would take him in (even if we’re just standing outside the stall).
As far as a crazy lady blocking the door, sorry, but I would also simply push past you. If you became aggressive I would call the cops and you would be arrest for assault.
This is an excellent point. Because event though I kind of get that parenting can make you do the crazy (and even though I went to a primary school where a stranger molested several girls. In the bathroom. After pulling the ‘I’m a friend of your parents’ thing), you’ve got to not only presume someone going into the loo is a molester, but that any other guy who comes across him fondling or flashing or kid whining ‘I don’t know you!’ is going to ignore it.
I suppose he could say oh I don’t know, ‘Here little Jimmy, my son, let me help you pee in this stall’ (assuming there’s even a door), but that’s where warning the kid about stranger danger and singing the ‘My Body’s Nobody’s Body But Mine’ song comes in. Or taking them in yourself, if they’re young enough.
As others have pointed out, like sexual assault, it’s much easier to pretend that the danger comes from a stranger in an alley. Because when you acknowledge the stats, if you’re already in a paranoid state, you’ve got to shift your feelings of fear from imaginary creeps and unknown people to men you know and love, rather than taking things on a case-by-case basis and communicating with your kid.