Just curious on how fucked I really am…
I am a manager at a location for a major company. A few months back, a subordinate started getting flirty with me. It was a surprise to me, as I never really work with her, and don’t actually see her at work. She only works weekends, I only work weekdays. She is married, and I’m in a long term relationship. Caught off guard, I kind of ignored her text messages for a while. She was relentless, and over a couple weeks, her texts got to the point where they were more dirty than flirty. I started with “Your married” “Sorry, that’s a bad idea, I need to keep it professional.” But eventually, I flirted back. I ended up seeing her in a bar one night, and we hooked up (Just kissing).
After that night, she relentlessly texted, sent pics, and wanted to meet up at my place. Eventually I gave in, and she came to my place and we slept together. We agreed, nothing more than hooking up, no attachments, no feelings, no talking.
We ended up sleeping together 4 more times. The girl then tells me she has feelings, how amazing I am, how we should be together, etc… I tell her no, shes married, I’m in a 8 year relationship…it would never work.
Naturally, she told a friend (Also an employee, and subordinate of mine.) Her friend is really cool with me, and likes me a lot and won’t tell anyone. Her friend advises me she talks about me constantly and obsesses over me.
After this a few months go by without issue. We still talk, she still flirts, but that’s about it until this week.
Her friend told her hairdresser with every detail - OK harmless enough, right? Well her hairdresser’s sister was working right next to her and listening in on the whole conversation. Turns out the sister is dating the subordinates brother in law. I’m thinking there’s probably no way shes not going to tell her boyfriend “Hey, your brother’s wife is fucking her boss and wants to be with him instead of your brother.” Unfortunately, her husband has serious anger issues, felony convictions, and a small arsenal. I truly fear for her safety (And I guess mine, too) if he finds out.
My question is this… Is there any chance I keep my job after all of this? Assuming if the husband finds out, work finds out. I never pursued any of this, turned her down a few times, but yes, eventually gave in- multiple times. It has not affected anything at work, I still don’t work with her, but am her direct manager. She said she’ll quit if I want her to, but I would never ask someone to do that in this situation.