Men and sex and thoughts…
Trying to verify something here. In my experience and my understanding of sexuality (at least in most men) sexual thoughts are a frequent and regular phenomena.
It may change as you get older, and it has definitely decreased as I have become more sexually experienced…as I grow and mature and my psyche becomes more and more distant from that of a sexually frustrated teen (I am 27)…but sexual thoughts are still very common in my mind. From my experience talking to my friends and observing my fellow man, I have always assumed most men have very similar thoughts as I do…with maybe slight variations in frequency.
OK here is an example. Men, when you see a very attractive woman, how often do you then imagine touching or kissing or otherwise being intimate with that woman? My understanding is it is almost a given with men that the recognition of a woman being very sexually attractive almost always is followed by at least a brief sexual thought about that woman. Maybe not always, it depends if you are busy or absorbed in other things, but almost always.
I think this happens to me and pretty much has happened to me since puberty hit. Of course it began as part of my ordinary adolescent male craving and curiousity about sex, but now is just sort of a part of being a male, kinda like shaking hands and saying hello, just happens and isn’t really important. I don’t even always remember doing it, but if I pay attention, it does happen.
It can get to another level too, where I am feeling kinda sexual and I see a woman I find very attractive, and I sort of think about being sexual with her…kinda fantasize…but that is much more significant…not an event I would hardly notice and forget…
So first, I want to know if any men or women out there experience this, and how frequently, and if they think it is unhealthy. Particularly, if you are married or in love, do you still do it, and do you think it is somehow unhealthy and an insult to the one you love that it happens.