ok, to put it bluntly…
how come during sexual activity women get multiple chances at ecstasy, but for me it it “use it or lose it”???
Not looking for flippant answers, please. Biologically and evolutionarily speaking, what is the purpose of that disparity between the sexes? What is the average “recharge” time for a man?
thanks, i think.
Phouchg
Cecil has covered the topic of the female orgasm before, but I am not sure if he mentioned multiple orgasms.
Just a guess, but if the males were constantly having sex, then they would be very vunerable, and unable to protect and hunt and gather, etc.
We must blame them and cause a fuss before somebody thinks of blaming us.
Sheila Broflofski
Men have what is called in the trade, a refractory period. It varies from person to person and changes with time.
Women don’t have one.
I believe evolutionally that this came about to keep men tied down to one place and one family. If men didn’t have a refractory period, one guy could just make his way through a whole group of women and never get any real work done like finding food.
As BobT said, there is a refractory time and I once heard it can be as little as 2 minutes, so there’s hope.
Not to be graphic, but I’ve been with a guy who could only orgasm once per day and another guy (currently) whose “refractory time” is sometimes 2-5 minutes. Lucky me!
Neil, Neil, orange peel!
To elaborate a little on Dew’s statement, there are “multiple” orgasms in males, generally when the refractory period is within 30 seconds to a minute. I’ve experienced and you can too if you get my new book… but I digress.
However, think about it. A woman’s orgasm doesn’t do a whole lot to the body in way of using up fluids and the like. Do you really want to orgasm five times in 20 seconds? I’m not about to get into my own life too deeply here, but let’s just say after two of those, my evening would be good for nothing more than watching television and drinking a lot of fluids.
“I guess one person can make a difference, although most of the time they probably shouldn’t.”
I would also like to point out that age has something to do with it. When I was younger, that 5 minute deal was possible, and there was one memorable twenty-four hour period which involved SEVEN.
Now, even three times per night is a fond memory, and rarely a reality. On the other hand, the experiences themelves last considerably longer then the 45 seconds that was common when I was 17. So there’s a tradeoff. I like to think of it as quality for quantity.
I’ve generally found that if you don’t remove your appurtenance from the comfort of its enclosing environment, it stays pretty close to its extended condition and after some snuggling and nibbling is ready to seek discharge again. In fact, it’s a nice way to spend the afternoon… 
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I have read - in a Discover magazine article I think - about a theory that at one point in the evolutionary process reproductive sucess was best served by having women mate with multiple males. That’s the reason why women take so much longer to achieve orgasm than a male. If left unsatisfied they are willing to accept more partners.
Since the male wants to pass along his genes and doesn’t want to feed and protect the offspring of some other male, there is a conflict between two reproductive strategies.
The social construct of the male feeding, protecting his mate and offspring, and keeping her away from other males proved to be more sucessfull over time so we are left with a dichtomony.
Because guys have to reload.
Male orgasm & ejaculation are not the same event.
However, it appears the function of male orgasm is to inject spermies into the female.
It takes time [20 minutes] for the body to make new spermies.That 20 minutes is for the body to make new spermies not the refractory period.
If both women and men were able to achieve multiple orgasms, we’d still be living in caves.
Actually, Handy, “spermies” make up only part (probably a small part) of the ejaculate matter (“wad”). The rest consists of a lubricating liquid made by the Cowper’s (sp?) gland. THAT’S probably what has to recharge.
OBTW, men can be multiple-orgasmic, if they partially hold back when they come. I’ve gone as many as five times in a row, but that’s a mixed blessing. The pressure builds each time you partially hold back, and by the 4th or 5th one you NEED to let the whole thing fly. Plus, I have to be absolutely still and focus on something else to do it, which can put a kink (no pun intended) in the sponteneity aspect.
Hell, that’s what my evenings are like already
Well, there is certainly something said for holding off. I’m 37, and with my lover, I think I hit 5 in 24 hours. Just about wrecked me. ( She, on the other hand, seemed delighted with it…so… )
The first one does seem to be more intense, refractory period or not. But then, as I’ve said to her many times, it’s the journey, not the finish.
When I was 16, I had a refractory period of several minutes, as I recall. Didn’t MATTER- I was a kid, playing at grown up games, as were my willing partners.
Now, at 37, my head and heart are much more deeply into it. My body cannot keep up, and that’s okay with me. So far, it’s okay with her too. Thank god there is no linguinal refractory period.
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If you want to kiss the sky, you’d better learn how to kneel.
Well, once I learned about tantric sexuality…
My longest session has been 14 straight hours. I haven’t ejaculated in six months.
That’s a lie. All of it. Every single bit. It’s just because, that’s why.
I sold my soul to Satan for a dollar. I got it in the mail.
You can have sex all day long, regardless of the length of your “refractory period” (sounds like a monthly outage at a distillery…). All you have to do is devote yourself to her pleasure while you’re recharging.
Well, actually, from what I have read and learned, talked to doctors about and seen in educational films, you’re all right. (Now THAT is a first for the board.)
Currently I discovered that the male makes a couple of different types of sperm. I found that fascinating. One type gets produced if he suspects that his lady has been wandering about with another male. These are ‘killer’ sperm, who mainly, upon ejaculation, seek out and destroy any strange sperm left in her. These get produced in a higher number than the normal sperm. Plus, if he is cheating, then he produces a stronger, faster sperm for his ‘other woman.’
I guess those are to attempt to withstand the ‘killer’ sperm of her own boyfriend.
Studies of wild animals, especially birds, once thought to be monogamous have disclosed that there seems to be a genetic trait to ‘cheat’ in an effort to get the best genetic material as possible. In some birds with multiple eggs, only one might be from the original father. Now it is being thought that such an impulse might be why so many humans cheat.
When a guy is at his sexual peak, which, unfortunately, seems to arrive in his teens, he can fire until the well runs dry and still manage a dry fire. When one gets older, it is not so easy and like a previous poster mentioned, it becomes quality and not quantity. DON’T base much information on porn films either because they do a lot of cut and splice and fakery there. (Ivory dish soap makes a GREAT sperm replacement when they don’t show the ACTUAL ejaculation but just the ‘drops’ shooting down from somewhere.)
I’m sure the folks at Ivory® will be delighted to hear that.
“I should not take bribes and Minister Bal Bahadur KC should not do so either. But if clerks take a bribe of Rs 50-60 after a hard day’s work, it is not an issue.” ----Krishna Prasad Bhattarai, Current Prime Minister of Nepal
It’s the ‘pearly opalescent texture’ of the soap. Ron Jeremy, the now FAT AND HAIRY porn star/producer mentioned the Ivory Soap in a radio interview. He also mentioned that some guys can’t cum for a bit, so they often cut, have the ‘fluff’ girls work him over for a bit, and start rolling again when he can shoot. Sometimes if a guy just can’t do it, they have another who can, who is similar in build. (You ain’t looking at his face in those shots.) The ‘fluff’ girls get him energized and they roll away and get the cum shot.
He also pointed out that those famous anal to mouth shots aint what they seem because they pause to do a bit of a cleaning job before poking it in the girls face. (Smart move!)
Were the hell are we going here?
We start off with, I can’t last as long as i use too. to porn and Ivory.
I’m 35 and can last all night, and I can have at least 5 orgasms or at least ejaculat that many times. Yes more than 3 day a week. no, I’m not bragging, just proud.
Hmmm…I was under the impression that once linguine, or any other pasta, goes limp, it’s impossible to get it stiff again.