Can’t for the life of me remember it, but the jist was that I was a lying, cheating scumbag looking for a socialite with perfect breasts who would tolerate my infidelities and stuff like that. Then I parodied some other Match.com cliches (like the ol’ profile photo with an ex strategically cropped out) and ended with a couple sincere sentences (for those who made it that far.) This was like 15 years ago. The headline was equally non-standard. I figured, might as well stand out in some way in a sea of sameness. I’d probably cringe a bit if I saw it now, but it worked. Met some very pleasant, equally cynical, and fun women that way that were great personality matches. One is my wife, and two are still Facebook friends. It drew the attention of exactly the kind of person I would get along with.
A good point, and this seems key to me. Maybe that’s what she was referring to, someone with major financial encumbrances. It really doesn’t make sense otherwise. Two other times she references stable finances, perhaps this is the third.
From my perspective, as a woman who has had to give financial support to every boyfriend, brother, and cousin (and still does!)… asking for a potential partner to be financially stable and solidly professional is not gold digging. It’s not even asking to be taken care of. It’s asking to have a relationship free from someone else’s financial worry.
I pay my own bills and take care of my own finances, and live child free. If I tell you I’m looking for a partner who lives the same way, does that make me arrogant?
Granted, she did say she had a child but was looking for someone without a child but as others have said the grammar doesn’t really help specify whether she means “without kids” or rather “without a messy family situation.”
If she’s in her 50s she has probably given it a go with guys who have messy divorce situations, or who are underemployed, or became unemployed while they were together. She’s over it.
Maybe I just have good boundaries, but I can’t imagine financially supporting someone I’m not married to (and I’ve been married before for 25 years). I’ve had friends I’ve given money to expecting no return, but I knew them damned well and their need was pretty dire and it was exceptional circumstances. But I can’t imagine doing that in a relationship or the relationship wouldn’t go much further. I’d separate this from a living-together situation, maybe you’re the breadwinner and they provide services (cleaning, whatever) in lieu.
Welp, people are different.
Lied to her about his past. This isn’t difficult! Lots of men do this!
Okay. Perhaps I lack imagination. Perhaps I don’t lie about myself to dates. I mean, disclosure has levels, I don’t disclose everything about myself at once but an ex wife and kids seems crazy to lie about. 
You seriously need to talk to women about men. Might learn some things.
I do talk to women about men. Most of my friends are women close to my age (59).
He also recommends being tall. So you should work on that, too.
I was once told by a man with whom I become serious that, in terms of sharing expenses, he didn’t have any disposable income (after paying his monthly debts). In trying to figure out how shared living expenses, travel, etc. might be equitable, I was told that I should think of him as one would “adopting a puppy,” that is, “I’m cute, loveable, loyal, and protective.” In other words, his income would take care of him and my [retirement] income would pay for us.
No thanks!
I’m already 6’1", so I think I’ve got that covered.
Honestly, apart from owning a house, I’m pretty close.
There’s also, of course, my sparking personality and arrogance.
And sensitive? I can sit on a lollipop and tell you what flavor it is.
r/CoosingBeggars is gold for this.
Examples:
https://i.redd.it/f0ound9m6f151.jpg
Daily toothbrushing
https://old.reddit.com/r/ChoosingBeggars/comments/bqan21/my_friend_matched_w_this_guy_on_okcupid/
I still don’t get why? Is there only one woman on that site? The post raises red flags for you, then swipe left and move on with your life.
Because I’m curious what her deal is, and what the hell why not?
Being a doctor is also less prestigious than advertised. Often very long hours.
If one is more attracted to the doctor’s paycheck than to the doctor’s company, that’s not necessarily a problem.
AIUI the money varies a lot with the specialty.
And I’m guessing that the prestige of ‘marrying up’ meant more to women when they had fewer opportunities for accomplishment. As my mistake post noted, such attitudes were more common when I was growing up during the Jurassic era.