Sprinning off from this thread: Our dog died
Some people aren’t dog people or even pet people. Maybe they wonder what the big deal is if your pet dies. You and the pet don’t plan a future together or have a deep discussion about the meaning of life. You don’t get their advice, you don’t get their help when you move, they don’t loan you money, and so on, like a human friend might.
However there are also people who take pets very seriously, maybe as seriously as human relations. You could have a pet 15 years, lasting longer than some friendships or marriages. And you don’t find that kind of unconditional love and loyalty from a person IMO.
If your spouse dies, for instance, the common thinking seems to be not to make any major decisions for awhile because your emotions can cloud your logic. Don’t change careers, move across country, get into the next serious relationship, etc. for awhile. I think this is probably why @Whack-a-Mole recommended taking a bit of time before jumping back in.
Is it different for pets? We lost our dog on March 30 and it really hurt. But we welcomed two new pups home for a trial basis on April 9. We had a “Start looking now because it will probably take awhile” attitude about this. We thought that if the right ones came along—now or six months from now—that would be a sign.
She’s personally known and really liked some pit bull mixes and she wanted one, so check. We wanted two dogs so they would entertain each other, so check. We didn’t want neverending competition between them and these are littermates, so we hope that will work out. Years ago when we ran into roadblocks in adopting, she always said, “What’s yours will come to you.”
She’s really fallen for the pups and I think it’s a done deal. I know she still hurts for the one we lost, though.
What say you, serial pet owners? Do you mourn a certain length of time between pets? Does it depend on the pet? Have you had any regrets about getting the next pet too soon? What insights do you have about our relationship with pets?