I think it completely depends on the individual. For some men it works. For others, it’s just wrong and no matter how perfect it grows and well groomed they keep it, it just screams out “SHAVE ME!”.
I can grow a really nice moustache but my face looks better clean shaven.
There’s one kind though that never looks good… the thin, wispy ones. It’s like walking around with a sign saying “Hello, I’m in denial.”
Yes. I have had a goatee for about a year now. In the past I have at various times been clean shaven, moustache only, full beard, and goatee. The goatee and the clean shaven look work on me; anything else looks pretty bad.
Trimmed, but I sometimes get a bit lazy and it starts getting a bit bushy. Then it starts to really bug me and I keep it very neat for a couple of weeks.
I like the way it looks on me. I don’t have a very prominent chin, so it helps give my chin a “stronger” look.
Probably not, but you never know. Every time I’ve had facial hair before, it came off when I woke up one day and just decided it was time.
I think a moustache by itself doesn’t look good on most men. However, I do think that most men can get away with some sort of facial hair. Exactly what looks good on any particular man depends on many factors.
I used to have a thing for goatees but I outgrew it. I don’t find moustaches dateable at all (thanks, Zsofia!), they do look cool on some men but not ones I’m attracted to.
And there are some people, like a thin-lipped friend of mine, or Don Mattingly, or Lanny McDonald, who would look downright silly without one.
Current SO doesn’t shave but doesn’t grow much hair.
i did for 24 years, but shaved it off three weeks ago.
Bushy or trimmed?
Trimmed.
Why did you grow it?
I was 17 and most 17 yo males want to grow one. I am proud of the fact that when I decided to grow one, rather than take a bunch of crap I started a mustache growing contest in the high school newspaper (I was editor). So it became cool to grow a mustache.
Might you get rid of it soon?
Might I grow it back soon? I don’t know. My secretary said she likes the way I look without it, my mom said I look younger. I shaved it off because my hair is mostly dark and my mustache was lighter colored (like my eyebrows) and starting to grey. I though it made me look older than 42.
So I’m going to keep it off for awhile and then decide. If it hadn’t gotten lighter, I never would have shaved it off.
Plus I discovered that I have no upper lip.
Specific for straight men:
Do you think they look good on most guys?
Yeah. But in Montana, most guys do have a mustache and/or beard.
Do you wear one?
Not any more; I used to, as part of a full set when I was Oswald P White
Bushy or trimmed?
It was unmanageably bushy; my moustache bristles seem to grow out almost parallel to the ground and they were almost like a toothbrush in nature.
**Why did you grow it? **
For a Victorian theme event.
Might you get rid of it soon?
It’s gone; I shaved it off the moment the show was over and it felt sooooo good.
Do you think they look good on most guys?
No, I think they look good on only a very few guys; tolerable on most and atrocious or laughable on some (the ‘some’ portion is greater than the ‘few’)
I haven’t shaved my entire face (well, no one shaves their entire face, but you all know what I mean) since I graduated high school. Until about two years ago or so, I had the full beard and moustache, but then I shaved it back to a goatee and some sizable sideburns. It’s pretty bushy: I usually only trim it when I start accidentally chewing on my moustache while I’m eating.
I think facial hair looks good on most guys, but I’m probably biased since virtually every adult male in my family has a beard and/or moustache.
Have had a full beard from the day I got out of the service[1973] , my moustache dates from the first day after basic training. For some reason, medics were allowed to grow a moustache in tech school, but no one else. Keep the beard trimmed, rather my barber does. I go to him every 4-5 weeks and get the works. He trims it just short enough that you can’t grab the hairs easily. This will stay with me 'til the crematorium guys come to get me.
Bushy or trimmed?
Well, it’s trimmed so I’m not munching on it, but it’s pretty thick so I’ll have to go with bushy.
Why did you grow it?
A bunch of friends of mine in college decided we should all grow goatees before we went somwhere on spring break. It seemed like a good idea at the time, and it’s been on my face (with or without a beard, usually with medium-length sideburns) since - about 7 years.
Might you get rid of it soon?
I don’t think so. Shaving is so much easier when you don’t have to do the tricky bits around the mouth.
Specific for straight men:
Do you think they look good on most guys?
Not really - I tends to depend on the guy.
I definitely prefer men with facial hair; I can only think of one guy I’ve ever dated who didn’t have a 'stache at the very least.
My SO has a lovely, thick, dark mustache, which he keeps nicely trimmed. He’s also horribly lazy about shaving, so he has extensive stubble four days out of five. Even on the day he shaves, he has that five o’clock shadow thing that men with black hair tend to get. Just the other day, he mentioned he’ll probably grow a beard this winter, and I’m so excited!
My ex-husband wore a mustache and sometimes a goatee or full beard. When he shaved it all off on one occasion, I discovered that he had the tiniest mouth I’ve ever seen on a grown person. It was disturbing; he really needed the mustache to balance out his face.
I don’t care for big sideburns, and my nephew went through a phase in his teens and early 20s where he shaved all sorts of odd shapes and patterns into his beard. I could also do without the Amish-looking beard sans mustache.
Overall, I think any man who looks ok without facial hair looks better with it. Even stunningly ugly men are improved by a nicely maintained mustache and beard.
I like facial hair on most men. Well, make that most dark-haired men. I like neat beards and goatees, not usually moustaches alone.
My husband had a full, fairly bushy beard. One day, I came home from work and heard him puttering around upstairs. I got to the top of the stairs and this complete stranger with a clean-shaven baby face popped out of the bathroom. I nearly fell down the stairs. I honestly wouldn’t have recognized him if I had passed him on a sidewalk. That was a bit weird.
Anyway, he looked about twelve without the beard, so I encouraged goatee growth. It balances out his chubby cheeks, which is a good thing.
Tom Selleck is still the only man who always looks good with a moustache and no beard. That is, when he’s sporting a 'stache.
Do you wear one?
Now I do, I go back and forth between clean shaven, full beard, and mustache/goatee every few weeks. I never wear just the mustache, because it makes me look like Rufus Xavier Sarsparilla from Schoolhouse Rock, if he’d been a 70’s porn star.
Bushy or trimmed?
Don’t pay much attention to it, so I guess “bushy,” but I don’t have a lot to work with, so “scruffy” is more accurate.
Why did you grow it?
I hate shaving. A lot. I resent it, in fact. The only reason I don’t have a full beard all the time is that it looks like ass, and I hate waking up in the morning and seeing all that gray hair. I think I look marginally better with it, and without it, I look like I’m about 16 years old.
Might you get rid of it soon?
Could be. I never go more than a couple of months without shaving and starting over. It’s always a constant battle between my vanity about having so much gray hair, and my laziness for having to shave.
Do you think they look attractive on most guys?
Mustaches alone, never. But beards are a big turn-on for me, and I like the goatee-with-no-mustache thing a lot. (I can’t do it myself, though.)
Does your current SO wear one?
Don’t have one.
Any particular moustache/beard/burns turn offs?
Not a big fan of handlebars or long sideburns, and I really don’t like the soul patch. There’s also this thing a lot of younger guys are doing where they shave everything except for a little strip of hair along the jawline; it looks pretty dumb to me and I don’t see the point of it. I figure if you’re going to put that much effort into it, why not just shave it all off? It’s a lot easier.
Finger-brushed/twirled into a mild handlebar. It gets trimmed when I come out of the shower and it has fallen over my mouth.
From the time I was 18, every summer I would go one week without shaving. The summer I was 28, I actually had enough growth on my upper lip that it did not look as though I had simply not washed my face for a week. (The rest of the beard still looks as though I simply haven’t washed, lo these many years later.) So I kept the 'stache and went back to shaving the face.
I have no plans to shave it off.
I think some moustaches look good on some guys. It’s like any other fashion; some look good, some do not. (And, in a few years, the same appearances may reverse on the good/bad scale as they become associated with other eras or other persons.)
Me.
I currently do not wear a beard or moustache, mostly because I would grow in with a lot of grey hair, while the rest of my head doesn’t have more than a few grey hairs.
About twelve years ago, when I was at Sheridan College, and my hair was longer, I decided to grow the full set of beard and moustache. It seemed to go okay, but I removed it when people started to call me Jesus.
I’m generally for mustaches and beards. I don’t even mind the beard-with-no-mustache style. But one of my chums occasionally sports the mutton-chop style of beard – full beard, but he shaves his chin, kinda like those old Civil War era guys. That’s a little too weird for me.
However, I’m kinda glad my husband isn’t like one of these guys.
Do you wear one? Yes, I do, along with a full beard.
Bushy or trimmed? Always nicely trimmed. No food lodging allowed, and no lip hairs should be between me and her…
Why did you grow it? I have a strong jawline, and wanted to make it a bit less visible.
Might you get rid of it soon? Don’t think so…I have suggested it to my wife several times, and she really wants me to keep it…so it looks like it will last forever.
Specific for straight men:
Do you think they look good on most guys? Mustaches can look good on most men, but the style should carefully chosen and then even more carefully maintained. The only men who don’t look good are those with scraggly 'staches or with weak chins (so that the 'stache sticks out too far in front of the rest of the face)