Being married for going on 15 years (at least a couple of the happily), the current percentage is 0.
I’d have to assume the odds would be better for me in a big city, cause there’d be so many more people who haven’t met me yet and consequently haven’t had the occasion to form negative opinions about me yet.
Don’t statistics hold true only for sufficiently large populations? Tho coin flips will average out to 50% heads, you could start of with a run of 5 tails in a row. Small towns can be very insular, and if you don’t fit in for one reason or another, you simply don’t fit in. And if you screw up, news gets around. Big cities permit anonymity upon demand. You can be different people in different circles should you wish to.
I was never a big dater, and could not imagine the idea of dating at this time. Should my wife die or we get divorced, I would imagine I would have a small number of good female friends, a larger number of more casual acquaintances, and very few “dates.” I would imagine being celibate for the most part, unless it turns out some of my “friends” just wanted sex regularly. And the idea of just going out and trying to get laid anonymously seems depressing. I’d probably spend most of my time pursuing my interests, martial arts, golf, gardening, maybe joining a bowling league or book club for social reasons. If I met a prospective date through them, fine. And then I wonder which of my friends would try to fix me up? But I can’t imagine strategizing to get in a dating relationship. Of course, having kids would be an additional demand.
While I strive to be able to enjoy the company of as large a percentage of the people I meet as possible, I suspect there are very few individuals I would wish to invest the resources needed for an ongoing dating relationship. If I were being myself, I would guess 5% would be a pretty high number for a serious relationship. Probably more around 2-3%. Just going out for a good time would be somewhat higher, but certainly nowhere near 15%.
One thing that skews most of our estimates is that we judging the population in general by the characteristics of people in the circles we currently travel. It is often easy to overlook that we only interact with an extremely small and nonrepresentative percentage of the people out there. For example, most of the folk on these boards have some degree of intelligence and relatively high education, either formally or independently gained. We value intelligent discussion and communication. 50% of the population have IQs under 100. How many folk have not graduated from high school. Chances are we move in different circles than them in light of our education, career choices, etc. When you figure out the percentage of people you absolutely wouldn’t date, i.e. because they are too stupid, wrong religion, not your preferred color/ethnicity/add your own prejudices whether you admit them or not, different social strata, the numbers get pretty high pretty quick.
Now that dreary image is almost enough to get me back to work!