Could be the o.p.s daughter is fed up with immature males closer to her own age.
Perhaps she doesn’t LIKE the b/s and bravado that so many of them come out with to impress women.
Also it could be that she prefers a man who actually knows what he’s doing in bed, instead of the clumsy, fumbling around that all to many young men believe to be ecstatic lovemaking.
Many if not most women would like to enjoy orgasms NOW instead of at some time in the distant future when her partner has hopefully learned how to get it right.
But whatever, the womans twenty four for gods sake, a grown woman and just a little bit too old to be mommys little girl.
At what age, if ever, is the mother going to stop trying to run her daughters life?
I’ll make my declarations, I am an old git myself, who has often gone out with much younger women.
And while we would both enjoy ourselves, I was not in the market (then or now) for a long term, settled down type relationship.
So to calm the mothers fears, theres a reasonable chance that he might pack your daughter in, in the near future.
Though personally I wish them both the very best, if it works out.
While I agree that there’s nothing the OP can do about it, and that it’s not that big a deal, I don’t condemn her for finding it unsettling. The “half your age plus seven” rule wasn’t just made up out of thin air, but fairly accurately displays what most people think the “proper” ages for relationships are. And, according to it, the guy shouldn’t date anyone under 30, and the daughter shouldn’t date anyone over 34. Sure a few years under or over is usually not too big a deal (I’d go with 28 and 38, respectively.), but these two are well outside the range.
Of course, I’m assuming the OP actually has a daughter, seeing as she hasn’t come back to post since she began this thread. This would be a quite controversial topic on many other boards.
one ex of mine is 20 years older, another is 14 years younger, at the time the age difference between them was more years than I was old.
nobody died
nobody has any hard feelings
we are not currently in touch (over 10 years ago) but if I ran into either of them I would be more than pleased to see them and I am sure the feeling is mutual.
A friend of mine (we’re both 30 and went to school together) married a guy 22 years older than her when she was 25. He is also the dad of a guy who was in our class in school. Despite this sounding weird, they seem to be happy and have a young daughter together. You never know how things will work out.
A few short years after high school, one of my classmates got a degree in English and married our high school English teacher! So they had that in common. (He was a confirmed bachelor of around 50, lived at home with his mother till he got married to his 24 year old ex-student. They moved into their own house and had a couple of kids. Don’t know how it went, this was years ago. I must say, though, he was one of the most hilarious, witty people I’ve ever come across, and all his students LOVED his class, you never knew what he would say or do to get their attention.)
Assuming she isn’t a gold digger, a young woman marrying a geezer should have at least a pre-nup. No matter how virile and entertaining an older man is, a marriage to a young chick is his last hoorah and it is SHE who will be expected (in an ideal world) to nurse him through the ailments afflicting him in his final years. She should have something - life insurance for instance - after he passes on. Else she’ll find herself locked out of the ‘family home’ by his resentful offspring who will be fighting tooth and nail for the decorative Lenox plates, momma’s old marble topped bureau, and daddy’s US State quarters collection.
I don’t have any advice. I just wanted to say that’s creepy. It’s way outside the half-your-age-plus-7 formula. The youngest he should be dating is 35 years old. My 24 y/o daughter dated a 30 year old, and I thought it was creepy.
