Well currently I have way too much time on my hands so I decided to go on Gradfinder, perhaps one of my old classmates is listed. You know find out friends – whatever. Instead I found myself a flame war.
You see this loser < his email address > thinks I knew him in high school. I know I did not.
My love life when I was in grade 10 when I was at that high school consisted of pining over Paul who I had dated in grade 9, a mormon boy named Mark I never kissed, the man I lost my virginity to on good Friday - who was a University student - I seduced at the wave pool in order to get rid of that dreaded virginity, a boyfriend Sean from Forest Lawn who was the brother of my sister’s best friend. He chewed Cinnamon trident gum & I loved to kiss him, but did nothing more, and a boy who I knew from my dad’s neighborhood.
I got close to dating a boy named Tom, I was crazy about him, but he was a bit aggressive & it scared me.
A few years later I had a fling with someone who went to that school when I did named Michael. That again, I was in control of – I picked him up.
And sometime after that I saw Tom again and spent a few days kissing and touching – but nothing else.
Here is the e-mail exchange: (My comments to follow each e-mail -nothing in either his or my e-mail is editted)
I definitely did not remember him – and look at the lack of tact in that message! I took the message as a mistaken identity rather than going off the deep end this time simply because I knew it was not me.
1.) My past
2.) I never took bio – I had a female teacher for Chem, and I took physics
3.) I hated school & never showed up afterwards
4.) This guy was crass – the closest to a crass boy I was ever close to was Tom & he knew I never blew him anywhere or at any time – and he and nobody from the neighborhood my mom lived in even knew I had lost my virginity. I kept that a secret.
5.) The only boy I ever blew was Paul – and I never let him orgasm ever!
He replied & still thought I was that girl!
This guy was crude and desperate – that girl must have been the only one who ever blew him!
I was mad – and rather disgusted! Isn’t it a disgusting message?
Sure I wrote back – and a few of the things I said were not very nice.
I made some generalities about things I shouldn’t have.
As a teen I did think Biology was the class that stupid kids took because they weren’t any good at math and would fail Physics or Chemistry.
That neighborhood is full of white trash – I was lucky I only was there for school days. The crime rate, drug use, and other negative societal influences were way too high in that neighborhood.
I wasn’t white trash, and I hated that neighborhood. I was a small town girl, brought up with class, tolerance, and for about one quarter of the year, when at my dad’s I lived in a nice neighborhood. In some ways I must admit I am still prejudice against that neighborhood, but I would in all honesty never begrudge anyone who got out of that neighborhood – now those who stayed … Perhaps I still believe that they are in some ways at fault for their own lot in live.
I know the poor are not at fault for their own life, but also I know some people won’t or believe they can’t make the sacrifices to get further.
I should have shown more tolerance, I was angry.
I should have insulted him, not an entire class of people.
He replied again- this time really mad – what a silly man. Doesn’t he know when he is out flamed?
What a loser! This time my reply apologized for my lack of candor in insulting all Forest Lawn residents – but I continued to reiterate my own innocence in this.
I think I’ll continue the flame war while I can - just to keep me on edge - this is actually kinda fun, but I am trying to think of ways that I could avenge myself against him besides starting a blog and posting here.
The nerve of that man! I agree that if he started off by asking you questions like what year you were in at school and all that, then taht would be all right… but to start off with THAT! If I ever received such an email from someone that I didn’t know, I’d probably do the same as you did and start a flame war… though I don’t think I could do it as well as you seem to.
He was extremely crude, not to mention clueless! I think it’s a good thing you didn’t happen to know him back when you went to that school! Actually, I feel sorry for that girl he was referring to… but even more so for you!
So am I the only person, upon realizing this guy wouldn’t let it go even after having been corrected, that would have simply told him to stop e-mailing me or be reported to his ISP? Or at the very least, put his name on my blocked e-mail list so I wouldn’t have to put up with that crap anymore?
Don’t get me wrong, I’m not defending the guy, he acted like a Major League dickweasel. But if it’s annoying you and pissing you off, you can stop corresponding with him.
And lexi, not a flame, but just a tip: Usually, once you hit submit, the post goes through - usually. If I’m unsure about the post going through, I’ll highlight and ctrl-c what I wrote, then check the thread to see if it went through. At least 99% of the time it does. That other 1%, just reply again and hit ctrl-v. Saves you from double and triple posting like that.
And going off topic:
This makes no sense to me in explaining how biology is a lowbrow subject. Besides which, it is completely off topic from your OP. If you don’t want this to veer off onto a discuss of which sciences are low or highbrow (and in general, people around here love all kinds of sciences), I’d just let this one go and stick to ripping on the asshole who insists you gave him a hummer.
Speaking of hummers:
Now that’s just mean.
Do you mean never in your mouth, or not at all? I mean you could do some oral action for a while and then do the old knuckle-shuffle for him to finish things off, but no orgasm ever?
Well, if you weren’t giving him the knuckle-shuffle, I know of one guy named Paul who sure as shit was doing it himself.
Since this war has been going on since monday, I expect yet another volley tommorrow.
I kinda wish people I did know had registered on gradfinder so far so I could chat with those who were my friends then, and get them to e-mail him back regarding this! But most of my friends were also the shy geeky type and I kinda wonder if they will ever register considering how few of us actually thought of school as anything but a social torture device.
I do wonder who this girl is, looking through my yearbook finding girls with the same first name as me:
In my grade: The first was yet another headbanger, kind of short and kind of chunky. brunnette - not strawberry blond like me - I don’t remember her very well - I think I never really met her - just shared the halls with her - in her photo you can tell she sin’t yet know how to pluck her eyebrowns in the center and needed to learn fast.
In the grade above: There is someone who I never remember even seeing in the halls that is listed with only the first initial in place of a name - she’s head bangeresqe too - and wears glasses. A black girl, with my hair color - ha - my skin color is somewhere between sallow and enemic! And that is all!
I suspect it is the headbanger girl in my grade, if it was her, I feel sorry for her.
I hope he never gets a hold of that poor girl.
I’ll keep posting in here as long as he keeps writing.
Maybe it will help calm me down - I need a place to vent my anger as you can tell from my semi-retarded triple post.
Yep, I know that, but as I stated I have been bored lately and this sort of thing kind of captured my attention - and call me a sucker for a good fight - I thought why not grind him down a bit.
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And lexi, not a flame, but just a tip: Usually, once you hit submit, the post goes through - usually. If I’m unsure about the post going through, I’ll highlight and ctrl-c what I wrote, then check the thread to see if it went through. At least 99% of the time it does. That other 1%, just reply again and hit ctrl-v. Saves you from double and triple posting like that.
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I was in a brain funk for a moment - whooops!
Maybe the school system has changed since 85/86 or is different where you are - among the geeks when I went to school biology was thought of as the low brow subject because it required no conjecture or analysis. When I was in grade 10 the curriculum consisted of memorization, and students who were not capable of the other courses which required that your grade 9 math was higher than 65% could only take biology.
There were two tracks of high school then, those who only wanted a diploma and then to work as grunts, and then those who wanted to go to university. Sure there were people who wanted to be doctors or vets or something beyond your wal-mart greeter in that class, but then I probably would have known the person from chemistry or physics. It required two sciences to get your advanced diploma and go on to university.
As well I stated that I had thought that when I was in high school - it is not a currently held opinion, since I also know that the curriculum has changed.
Laugh - We were 14 - 15 when we were together - we never got that far and I had no clue what I was doing. Plus I thought it was gross at that age. It was random stolen moments before parents came home.
Doesn’t this violate the Geneva Convention or something?
As for Spanky, he’s a troll. He most likely never went to your school, and is emailing you out of the blue. He didn’t even mention the school until after you’d supplied him with the name. Tragically, that means you lost the flamewar when you replied.
Here I had gone and written a lengthy, intelligent, thought-provoking, witty post in response to the post you wrote that starts with:
Only to find during preview that you had responded to my post and answered any questions I had, thus negating any need for the post I had written. It was a good post too, nay, it was an outstanding post.
If they gave Best Post prizes, that one would have won both the Pulizter and the Nobel prizes. Religions would have been formed around my post. Goverments would be toppled and a new, better, shinier world would have emerged from the magnificence of my post.
But then you had to ruin it all with your meager and simple “let’s-respond-to-Crunchy” post.
Damn you, lexi. You’ve ruined the world for all mankind now. I guess, in light of your unforgivable actions, at this point there’s no depth left to sink to than to continue our blowjob discussion.
So from this should I infer that you now have a clue and you don’t think it’s gross anymore? BTW, on a totally unrelated note… my parents are away right now! And since this is the Pit and flirting, while not forbidden, is looked down upon by some members, I’d just like to say… um…
Damn you again, lexi for negating the need for the best post the world would have ever seen!
Ah - but on the first e-mail - he mentioned a teacher name - and when I looked in the yearbook that teacher did exist.
It is possible he is a troll - but I don’t think so from that - he seems more to be an idiot.
And I am really bored - perhaps I need a new hobby? It is -20 C outside and I have nothing else to do.
Am I the only one that sees this as fishy? It seems inconsistent by both the poster and the “perp” (2sexy4u). If the latter, he’s just a sicko that somehow got lexi’s email somewhere, and is presumably spamming every female he can find with the same story.
Then he replies…
Sigh. I was gonna keep going, but tthis is much harder when you’re not getting paid. Besides, those who got my drift don’t need any more, those that didn’t prolly never would.
I agree with Lux Fiat. This is just some schmuck gettig a rise out of you, in the fine tradition of crank calls where the guy knows your name and something vague about you. You’re feeding the troll and he think this whole thing is a hoot. This could be anyone with access to a yearbook.
The other night, for example, the phone rings. “Hi, is this <my name>?”
“Uh, yeah. . .”
“This is J!” At this point I’m not really recognizing the voice, and I want to ask which J, but I think it might be my brother who I don’t speak with often and don’t want to insult him, so,
“Um, Ok. What’s shakin’?” I ask.
It sounds like the guy is calling from a bar. I hear people laughing in background. . .
“Oh, not much. So. . .you live in . . .Ventura!?”
“no. . .”
“Simi Valley?”
At this point I realize that he is trying to guess where I live per my area code. I keep silent. . .
“Hello?. . . Hello? Heh, she hung up! <Laughter from many guys>”
So I’m still trying to figure this out, like, did one of my friends lose their cell phone and my name was on their auto-dial list? A palm pilot or address book? Who do I know that would have me on autodial AND would lose this item somewhere elsefar away so that this guy wouldn’t be sure about my location-- someone in Portland or Seattle?
Anyway, you see how these things work. Don’t worry about this. Send e-mail to his ISP noting that this guy is harassing you.
Wisest Novel, I’m gonna have to hold off on picking out stuff that may or may not be fishy quite yet. Just because the explanation is out of order with the e-mails isn’t quite enough to set off my bullshitometer.
Point 1 you make could be quite simply a matter of cutting & pasting the e-mails in the wrong area in regards to her comments.
Point 2 you say
Uh-huh, even after she looked up Cullins (with a U) and found Cullins in the yearbook? And then you go on about a Mr. Collins. It’s a straw man. Sure the names are similar, but it’s a Mr. Cullins that was mentioned, the name Collins has nothing to do with it.
And a small nitpick, lexi is in Canada, so I’m assuming she went to a Canadian, not US, school.
Point 3 you say
And what does this do to lessen lexi’s credibility? IANAPsych, but it seems to me someone with high self esteem wouldn’t need to troll for attention.
I prefer to give people the benefit of the doubt instead of going after them when reasonable solutions are right in fornt of our faces. I may be over-trusting, but as far as I see, lexi hasn’t done anything yet to so quickly attack her credibility.
Capybara - it may be a prank by someone, but if it is, it is a prank from someone with some knowlege of that school.
Now I can’t think that it would have been anyone that I knew at that time due to the lack of his face being in my yearbook - unless he is going by a false name, and I can’t think of anyone who knew my name who would do this - very few people knew me at that school.
My current suspisions
1.) That he went to the school at some time - not while I was there but close to that time - and decided he wanted to be a net pervert.
2.) He was fooling around with the girl who has the same first name as I do.
In a way this is fun, albeit disturbing the e-mail exchange.
Coming up with a new and witty thing to say to him every day this week so far while being a touch angry has given me a chance to rant and has been a great time waster.
My goal with this is either for me to figure out who he is - or to have him give up first. One thing I always have been is stubborn.
My reason for posting was to rant - this is the bbq pit isn’t it?
I wanted to share my wacky e-mail exchange with this board - blow off some steam and perhaps get in some interesting conversation to fill up some of this time I have way too much of thanks to this sub-artic canadian winter.
Crunchy Frog - thanks.
I didn’t quite consider that Wisest Novel was accusing me of anything, just that he had not read my post and considered that the e-mails and comments are seperate entities meant for seperate audiences.
I didn’t like the words Alledged E-mail - but I understand people have to be suspicious and not believe everything they read.
I tend to type the same way I think, I follow a thread, and sometimes get ahead of myself. Or completely lost in a mess of broken grammer and dangling clauses.
I know the SDMB sometimes considers any spelling or grammatical error, non-proof-read and perfected comment to be a major faux paux. Maybe I should spend longer editting my posts and previewing and all - but I prefer a speedier interchange - so if you want clarification on certain points - ask.
