My Big Fab Gay Wedding®: the alcohol question

In My Humble Opinion
41

scott_evil, your friends and family who know and love you probably will not be put out or even miss the alcohol. It’s not nazi-istic to not want the temptation for things to turn ugly on your very special day. And if any of your friends have a problem, it’s better not to have it there, yes? If you do have a cash bar, though, a small note informing them of this on the bottom of the directions should suffice, and I’m sure they will all understand. How considerate of you, though!! Not many people give much thought to their wedding day beyond what THEY want.

42

Holy heck - I love the coffee/juice bar idea!!! And like everyone said, you made a fine decision. It is written on no stone tablet that a wedding must have alcohol at it.

43

Looks like it’s already settled, so I’ll just say congratulations and add my assurance that a wedding is about celebrating the love and commitment between two people. I’m sure your friends care far more about that than they do about whether you’ll serve alcohol.

And now I’m all misty - I swear, the older I get, the more sentimental I am!

44

Congrats both of you :slight_smile:

No wedding needs anything, other than the two participants and the witness/celebrant. Everything else is extra and completely up to the two of you. Good for you both for deciding to have the wedding how you want it, rather than getting caught up in how it “should be”. Keep that in mind and you’ll have a wedding you’ll look back on fondly for the rest of your lives :slight_smile:

45

Congrats! I hope you two have a smooth, happy and truly fabulous wedding, and a long, strong, blissful marriage.

Please, if you need more advice, post more threads - I’m learning a lot here.

scribbling notes furiously in notebook marked Big Fab Lesbian Wedding

46

Congratulations to the both of you, and I wish you the best on your new life together!

Two suggestions:

  • If the reception is being held in a hotel, chances are there’s a bar near the ballroom or lobby. Let them pay for their own drinks. This is your day, remember. If they aren’t understanding, that’s their tough luck.

  • Perhaps arrangements can be made with the caterers or hotel kitchen in which each table can order beer or wine only, with a limit of x-amount per person/per table.

Hope your special day goes off better than you could have ever wished for! :slight_smile: