Or maybe I’m just insane and imagining things. What do you make of this.
Facts first - this is my summer job, I’m a letter carrier. Otherwise I study. He is working there full time, but with his intelligence, I really think he should get back to school (I’m not trying to insult postal employees here, but the Swedish postal system is going downhill fast). Anyway, he applied to my university, and he would be taking the same classes as I, which I thought was really cool, because I think he is a great guy. After first admissions, he was still on the reserve list, so I told him he should just go on the first day and tell everyone he really wanted to get in. He told me he just wasn’t comfortable doing that, and that things like that really scared him. So far, things are normal.
Then the other day, I bring it up again. He says, maybe he’ll go if I go too and he can hold my hand (in a joking kind of way, but still). So I try to act cool and tell him to call me if he needs moral support. He says he might need more than that, wink wink.
Then the other morning he told me that I was Aurora, the Roman goddess of dawn, and I was a delight to meet in the early morning. I start to seriously wonder what the hell is going on.
There are tons of other tiny things too, and I just can’t figure him out. He’s in his 30s and as far as I know, he’s the ultimate confirmed bachelor. I really like him and I would really like to take some classes with him in the fall, and I suppose I am romantically interested too or I wouldn’t make such a big deal out of this.
So what do I do? I will try to make him come to first day of class, but knowing him, it will be hard. I guess I will just wait for second admissions and see what happens.
Anyway, that’s my dilemma. Hints, suggestions and general thoughts are welcome.
Kick him in the bollox!
Give 'im a tumble. Nothing like the old one-night stand.
What! No, I couldn’t do that. That would mean I couldn’t get down and dirty with him if things go that way. 
Um, previous reply was for Skümmet. Damn simulposts.
Ike, I don’t know. My job is like gossip heaven, which means any intense flirting on my part is kind of out of the question as well.
Am I understanding this correctly? He’s flirting with you and you are interested in him. Am I missing something??
Color me stupid, but I don’t see a problem here.
Flirt back.
Well, I guess my real problem is that I am extremely aware of the gossip factor. People at work gossip more than anyone I’ve ever met. Or maybe I’m just plain stupid.
Hmm ok ill go with Ike’s idea… do him and if he tells anyone at work and they start gossiping… kick him in the bollox! 
The people you work with seem to be suffering from intense boredom and having some hot gossip would likely improve their otherwise dull days.
Give them something to talk about, it will make them happy. Do you really need unhappy postal workers? Consider it a humanitarian gesture on your part.
If you’re interesting of him,
flirt back and don’t care about the gossip,
think of what you want and not what outhers will think.
Read my sig.
I don’t mean to be the one to rain on your parade, but I have learned the hard way that dating co-workers can be a bad thing. If you decide to go for it and things end up working out great, then I will be happy for you. But if you date this person and it falls apart, the workplace can become a rather unpleasant place to be.
Soda, it is your life, however, so do what you please. I am only speaking from personal experience. The only suggestion I could give you is to exchange phone numbers or e-mail addresses with the guy and come to some sort of mutual agreement to keep the flirting out of the workplace.
Of course, you could always do the hot and nasty on top of the Xerox machine and then pass out pictures to your fellow employees. That would definitely give them something to gossip about!
Yeah, Shadowfox, that’s exactly what I’m worried about. It’s not just a random summer job for me, I’ve been there a few years and I really like it (well, my co-workers, and such, the job itself isn’t all that wonderful).
But I think it’s funny that you say we should agree to flirt somewhere else. I don’t even know if we agree that we are flirting!
But you know what? I’ll give it some thought tomorrow. I’ll be prepared, and I’ll have something flirtatious to say when I see him. I might wear a bit of makeup, do something about my hair and that. We’ll see what happens. Hell, who am I kidding, I will downright seduce him on the floor!
If you go ahead with the Xerox thing… hook me up with a copy would you
Skümmet:
Soda, whatever other choices you make, one thing is clear: you must kick Skümmet in the bollocks.
soda,
Maybe you could ask ‘im out. Flirt with him, seduce him, screw him, or kick him in the bollox somewhere away from work. That way, you can work when you’re at work and save all the other crap for another time. I’ve got no issue with coworkers being romantically involved, provided there’s noting personal carried over into the workplace. If that’s where it starts, I strongly suggest taking it somewhere else.
What did he do that is flirting?
Well, I know a cute half deaf girl that I spent a lot of time with & Im taking sign classes & she is taking one of them, which appears to be the only time I may see her. That’s fine with me…
You might find it a bit risky because if he starts flirting with girls in the class, what are you going to do soda?
OK, are you worried because maybe he’s older than you? (I dunno, she’s going to University, he’s 30…) Are you worried because you have to work with him and the flirting makes you uncomfortable? Flirting could just be flirting, nothing more, nothing less. When he grabs your ass and tells you that you’d look better without those pesky clothes on, that would be the time to worry. And what do you mean by “I guess I’m romantically interested?” Does your heart go pitter-patter when he’s near you? Do you look at him and think: “yummy?” That’s the Swiddles Litmus. I’m with the other Dopers, where’s the rub, soda speak? (heh. GET IT? so to= soda? HAHHAHHHA. I kill me.)
Swiddles, you kill me too. Okay, lets see if I can explain things.
Tymp this might sound mighty strange to you, but in Sweden, there is no such thing as casual dating. It’s hard to explain really, but either you’re involved or you’re not. Since we don’t hang out, it would be very awkward for me to ask him out just like that. I’m really hoping he goes back to school, 'cause that way I can casually hang out with him, you know, review notes and all that good stuff.
handy that’s just the thing! Is he flirting or am I making it up? I don’t notice him calling any of the other girls Goddess of Dawn, so what do I make of that? I just don’t think he is a flirt, so his comments to me are rather unusual.
Swiddles, I’m 26 (I did all the fun stuff before college), he’s 30something, it’s not a big deal. The flirting does not make me uncomfortable, it makes me blush. My heart doesn’t jump when I see him (well not all the time) but he does something to me. I say “Yummy”. Hell, he’s played volleyball semi-professionally for almost 20 years. What can I say? He’s fine looking.
Wait, no such thing as casual dating? What kind of civilized society are we talking about here? Is this the same Sweden that gave us Abba and Ace of Base? What HAS the world come to?
Seriously, he’s cute, he’s smart, I say flirt back. Don’t grope the man, but giggle and divert your eyes, and all the rest. It’s damn hard finding someone who makes you blush in this crazy mixed up world, take advantage of every possible situation. If he makes you “Yummy,” then go get him, you crazy carbonated Swede, you.