Over my many married years on this planet, there is something that I’ve been quite slow to figure out. Apparently, on a regular basis, I’m an inconsiderate asshole. This behaviour of mine rears it’s ugly head quite regularly. If I was to plot it out, I’d say that I’m an inconsiderate asshole for a couple of days each month - around about every 28 days or so.
It’s something I began to notice early in my married career, and it had certainly followed a pattern ever since. For most of the month, I seem to do pretty good, but then apparently I slip into this inconsiderate mode for a couple of days. I wouldn’t even notice this myself, but my wife is good enough to point this out to me in various ways during this time.
Why sometimes she is even good enough to wake me up at 2:00 in the morning to give me the opportunity to explain why I"m such an asshole, and just how I am planning to improve my behaviour.
I had sort of gotten into this routine and had developed a sixth sense, but over the past few years (as we hit our '50s), I’ve noticed that my assholish behaviour is not as predictable. I seem to be inconsiderate at random times - it is no longer cyclic in nature. Recently, if you can imagine, I peeled the carrots for dinner before the potatoes. The horror! This was clearly indicative of the fact that I did not care about our relationship.
I wonder if anyone has been in a similar situation, and if there might be any advice forthcoming about how I can improve my clearly inconsiderate behaviour.