Sorry for your loss.
I’ve also lost my dad, jkayla. I miss him. I live each day knowing he was proud of me. That makes it better somehow. I’m sorry for your loss.
(((jkayla)))
This is hard for you. But keep trying. Someday, you will be able to smile, & even laugh again.
'Till then, post & talk to us.
So sorry for your loss jkayla. May your dear father be at peace.
Jkayla and Tygr, I am so very sorry for your loss. I’m glad for your dad’s sake that he is now in a much better place, Jkayla, but I know how badly you miss him already, and will miss him in the future. You both gave such eloquent, beautiful eulogies.
Having lost both parents and other family members, I have some idea of what you are going through right now. If you want to talk, I’m here. Hold tightly to each other, and hold onto the memories of the person he was, and you will come through this okay.
{{{{{{Jkayla & Tygr}}}}}}
Jkala, I’m so sorry. I lost both my parent’s, Dad when I was 26 and Mom when I was 35. Sounds pretty old, huh?. It still wasn’t enough. It never is.
In the years to come, you’ll probably regret the time the Tygr Cub missed with him. Both my boys missed out on their Grandfather too, Kid, the Elder by 18 hours. Yep, hours. They knew Mom, though, and at the end that was not a good thing. She’d had a series of strokes and during one of them she was way, way out of control. Extremely scary for small boys, who happened to be visiting with her when it hit. Tygr Cub will get to know Grandpa by the love and honour people so plainly felt for him. The Cub may not remember his voice and the way it felt to sit on his lap, but there won’t be any bad memories either. Hold on to that idea.
Take care of yourself too. Do what you have to, but make sure you keep your self healthy. I know how easy it is to get involved with everyone’s pain and needs and forget that you’re hurting just as much. Give yourself a little space as often as you can to just sit, relax and breathe. Cry as much as you want, if you have to. Hug the Cub, or a good cat if you have one around the house.
Remember to eat.
Love, zoogirl
Thankyou Jkayla.
Jkayla,
My grandfather died on New Years Eve, after suffering for a long time with Alzhimers. I’m sorry for your troubles.
Jkayla,
thank you for a thoughtful and caring post. I am very sorry about your loss.
My Dad is over 80 and has a mild form of Parkinsons. He is coping quite well, but is getting fragile.
My family were all scared it would be Alzheimers, because, as you rightly say, that is a terrible thing to happen to a loved one.
We are very lucky that there is a nearby hospital specialising in elderly people’s problems, and they have also arranged a friendly home help.
I know you’ll understand when I say I’m trying to prepare myself for a sad phone call sometime in the future.
Your kind words have helped me a lot.
Thank you.
You guys have been great. Knowing others have been there and survived helps. I did get the cub on video with dad as much as I could. When he was in the hospital last year, I got pictures of the two of them in his hospital bed. She didn’t mind the stuff around. They both kept trying to remove his IV. She kept him busy though.I have stories to tell her and keepsakes.
It is hard, but he is better off now.He is painless and peaceful. I have faith in that. I just keep thinking I can’t get that hug.
I do have my faith to keep me stong,ECUgrad. We are in the Raleigh area by the way.
Tygr has helped a ton. He has been answering calls, handling the cub (who is unhappy about cutting three backteeth right now) and is quite cranky.
Mom has been cranky then cries. My brother is pretty much that way too. I have Tygr to lean on and this board, and the words I write for release. It is good to talk and write.
I feel for each of you that have lost parents. I am concerned about my mom’s health, but I am trying to take care of her. She has some serious health problems too.
Glee, Parkinsons is not easy either, so I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. I had a friend’s grandmother that had Parkinsons. Hers was not mild at all though. She passed last year. It was hard on the family but they got through it.
It’s good for me to let people know about my Wonderful dad that did everything in the world to make things good for my family. How respectable he was.
Thank you all again and again…
I’m so very sorry, Jkayla and Tygr. I am happy that your dad is at peace, but my heart aches for you.
My thoughts and prayers are with you, and I hope you allow yourselves to grieve in your own way and in your own time. If you would like to vent, or cry, or talk, please email me. I’d like to help if I can.
My Love,
Cheri
Rico and I send our prayers and moral support to you and your family.
Kathy
(((((((Hugs & prayers)))))))))
I’m so very sorry. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers…
So sorry for your loss. I lost my grandfather to Alzheimers and it is hard to watch them go. My consolation was that he was not in physical pain and was actually quite content near the end. Death is sometimes bittersweet. Watching them change is sometimes harder than their death. They are missed while they are still alive.
I am afraid it will happen to more in my family, an aunt is already showing signs and I am so afraid my father will get it, although he is doing what he can to prevent it. I hope and pray for a cure for this disease, and research now is looking promising. Someday there will be a cure.
I remember my grandfather as he was, as I am sure you will remember your dad, full of life and with a strong mind.
Wishing you strength for the days ahead.
Jkayla, my mother died just last week. I am very empathetic to what you are feeling. I am so sorry. I send you my most heartfelt condolences.
You and your loved ones are in my thoughts and prayers. I send you cyber hugs.
(I was honored by the expressions of sympathy that dopers wrote in my SDMB thread about my mother, and I vowed to never again pass by one of these threads because I didn’t know what to say. )
I’m so sorry for your loss… Prayers and warm thoughts are with you…
Elly & the crew
Jkayla and Tygr, I’m so sorry for your loss… my mom died two years ago… she was only 55… she fought cancer three times and won… the final time she just couldn’t do it. it was hard to watch her suffer like that…she slept almost all of her last 6 months. my kids came out from germany (I went out to take care of her) with their dad for a few days to see her and say goodbye… they were sad that they couldn’t stay until the end, but I just couldn’t let that be the last memory they had of their grandmother. she was a wonderful, vibrant woman… a perfect grandmother… I wanted them to remember her that way. I still miss her… I think about her often. I have her wedding band and I feel really close to her when I wear it. it’s hard… but at least now they aren’t in pain.
last month we lost a close friend of the family to cancer as well… 16 month battle… and my best friend from second grade… we’ve been friends for 30 years… her mom just found out she’s got cancer and it’s spread… they don’t give her much time… so much sadness and pain…
big hugs to you from a new friend.
two days ago hubby’s grandmother died… he can’t leave the big sandbox to go to her funeral. I’m staying put because my sister is flying in for a week and can’t change her reservations.
sending you some big hugs… it’s hard…