My dad is dead

My mom just called. I knew what the call was as soon as the phone rang. He died about five minutes ago.

Well, that sucks. Sorry to hear. Condolences. Was it sudden, or did you know when the phone rang because it was expected?

I’m so sorry. Go do what you need to do…we’ll be here when you come back.

I’m so sorry, Otto. My dad died when he was in his early 50s, over 15 years ago, and I can still remember the crumpling feeling at the news, the disconnect of my reasoning for several minutes, the feeling of being lost. I’d tell you it gets better eventually, but that doesn’t matter at all right now. I could also tell you that he stays alive in important ways by you remembering him, teaching others things that he taught you, passing on stories of him - but that won’t help you now either, I suspect.

So from one “fatherless child” to another, I am sorry for your loss and pain.

I’m so sorry Otto. My father died unexpectedly, some 30 years ago; my mom slipped quietly into a long-awaited, gentle death last October; either way, the immediate pain is dreadful. Ferret Herder said it all.

I’m sorry to hear of our loss. Nothing I can say will make the pain any less, but know that you are in my thoughts.

I’m sorry for your loss, Otto.

Very, very sorry to hear that, Otto.

I’m sorry for your loss, Otto.

Sorry for you and your family.

Otto, I offer my sincere condolences. Please, take care of yourself in there (I know you’ll be looking after your Mother, and everyone else) while you are getting through this? Drink plenty of water, eat even if it tastes like cardboard, and try to sleep. Take it a minute at a time if you need to. I’ll say some prayers for all of you, I know just what you are going through right now. It isn’t easy, but you can ride this out.

ETA: Recent thread Otto made about his father for those who didn’t read it.

Wishing you the greatest love and support a human being can offer in such difficult circumstances. You’ll be in my thoughts.

Please accept my condolences. You’ve always struck me as a good man and a good son, and I appreciate how much you’ve done and will continue to do for your famiily. My thoughts are with you.

I’m so sorry for your loss, Otto. I’ll keep you and your family in my thoughts.

My sincere condolences, Otto.

Very sorry, Otto. Losing a father is painful. Many things change as a result.

Not all of those changes will be for the worse, however.

At least that was my experience.

I too am sorry for your loss Otto. If you have to get on the road today, be very careful. I just got in and they are very slick.

Thank you. No, I had not read that.

I’m so sorry. I know the hurt of losing a parent. :frowning: You and your family will be in my thoughts.

My condolences, Otto.

Robin