Still laughing.
O.K… You put me in my place. Your father is a bit scatter-brained.
We all are, aren’t we?
Yeah, and then your kid, who you know really shouldn’t be going camping with just her friends, begs, bullies and promises. goes camping, and then at 2:00 a.m., you get a call from the police, and you have to drive 2 hours each way to pick her up from the station, that is in the middle of nowhere, and then–Oh, sorry!
This thread was about irresponsible PARENTS.
I just got home and haven’t slept yet.
You LOVE IT?? What the hell? My fear with this was that she was going to pull out a GUN and SHOOT HIM! Even though my Dad is an ass a lot I still love him. The point was he shouldn’t get that upset over traffic, it’s jut not worth it! Not to mention that I asked him NOT to do it and he did it anyway (even though he admits he shouldn’t have after the fact), talk about lack of respect :mad: If people cutting you off makes you that mad then this is NOT the way to handle that anger. Maybe you and he should go live on a planet together then ther’d be no traffic for you to get angry at.
Not much to add…just that agree with OESGal - traffic should NOT make you that mad. And CNote, I think the OP goes beyond being “scatterbrained.” Hell, my parents freaking MOVED, and they still remembered to pay for the utilities. On time. When the post office was screwing up the forwarding on the mail.
And Monster and SPOOFE (I was wondering if y’all were brothers, btw…), here’s a hug and a smooch for both of you. Sorry y’all have to be dealing with this.
SPOOFE and Monster,
Hey guys. I was reading your thread to a co-worker and she asked me what I was going to respond. I said I didn’t know that I would and she said, “You HAVE to. You know very well that those two guys need to hear some positive feedback.”
It was clearly a case of me not thinking what I had to say was of much importance…still not sure. But I do feel strongly that you (and your older brother) should be aware of something. You’re learning a hard lesson that I’m pretty confident your kids won’t. You have more common sense and sense of responsibility than your dad could dream of. You’re mad. You’ve had it with him…but between the three of you the situation was somewhat resolved. That is no small thing.
I know people make mistakes. What bothers me about your situation is that is seems that your dad has still not called. I can imagine waking up in the middle of the night and saying, shit I left those boys without water. It appears that he didn’t. I’m so sorry.
It’s not a good thing to realize you’ve got more going on upstairs than the people who are supposed to be responsible for you. I think you guys are great.
Oh…this is the pit…okay.
I think you bastards are great.
struuter
Seeing as I’m defending myself all over the place lately. I don’t need to take issue with you.
OES- I retract my ‘I love it’ line. It just struct me as funny the first time I read it.
Living it day to day? I can see how you’d get tired of it.
I’m glad you can understand where I’m coming from. Yes, living with it day to day is hell. I think that maybe if I wasn’t so personally involved in it, I might find it funny to some extent as well, I was just really upset b4.
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Some people should be sterilized because they are never going to be responsible enough to be parents. Unfortunately, these tend to be at least 50% of the parents in this country if not more. I wish I could do something about this, but alas, I have nothing to contribute except hope for a better situation in the future for the both of you.
That bites. It really, really bites, and I’d be peeved, too.
At the risk of sounding schmaltzy, resolve right now to be a better Dad to your own kids when/if you have kids. A MUCH better Dad. Commit to this. Not only is it important, it’s also damned sexy, frankly. <grin>
So, Monster, has your Dad come home yet? What did you tell him?
My parents came back yesterday afternoon. I had thought how I was going to handle it, and I decided on a civil approach to the situation.
I calmly walked up to my dad and said “Dad, the DWP people came and turned off the water while you were gone because you didn’t pay the bill. I think you should pay it now, before it happens again. The bill is $700 or so.”
What he said then was not a surprise at all. Care to guess what it was? That’s right. He says “Damn kids. I should make you kids pay for the damn bill. It’s your fault that you use your fans and radios and computers and lights. That’s why it’s so high. Dammit, irresponsible kids”.
You have no clue how fucking pissed I got when he said this. I took a breath, and with as much restraint as I could muster told him “Look dad, it’s your fault that we have a continuous leak of water from a sprinkler in the back yard. If you want to save your damn money, cough some up and fix the damn problems of the house. I’m sick of you blaming us for your own stupid-ass mistakes and laziness.”
With that I walked off, not heeding my dad’s yelling that he’s the parent and that I’m not supposed to talk back to him. Sheesh.
This explains the high water bill:
He must be using water to generate eletricity through a hydroelectric generator. You guys got a dam in your backyard?
I’m sorry you guys are having to go through this.
Hugs and prayers that things will get better are coming in your direction.
Scotti
Oh, Dave, I wish I could do something about this, like get you a vacation from your house and all that bullshit. Sadly, my paycheck from Kmart will not cover such a thing for you and your brother. Besides, where would I keep you, and what excuse do I give my mom? Good luck, stay sane.
Actually, when I really think about it, I think it’s for the better that I live with this stupid fuck. I get to see every day a firsthand experience of a true American asshole, and shows me everything I shouldn’t do when I grow up. What better example in a parent could I have?
Monster, Spoofe,
the only advise I can offer you is to start saving, and get ready to move out. Learn everything you will need to know when you are out on your own (cooking, cleaning etc.), learn how to manage your own money (which I’m sure you can), use this as a learning curve for when your out on your own.
Hey, I hate to rain on the love parade of support for two whiny adolescents, but welcome to life. Today its your dad, tomorrow your boss, the day after your fucked up kids. Guess what, you got food, money, and cars. Sounds like your dads doing pretty right by you. Sure he fucks up, so does everyone. I’d like to see you two move out, it’d give you an appreciation for your fuckup father. You rant and rave, but what did it cost you? An interrupted shower, Monster? An inconvenient trip to the DPW? Hey, no one’s denying yor father may be a flake, but he deserves more than you give him for what he gives you. And before anyone accuses me of being some aging grandfather bemoaning the lack of respect for one’s elders, I’m about three years older than you. Suck it up big boy, or you’re in for some major disillusionment.
A water company that let’s your bill go unpaid for so long that the bill gets to be $700? Uh huh, and I’m as rich as Bill Gates. I could see the bill being that high if someone left the water on constantly all month. But otherwise that would have to be a bill that hasn’t been paid in several months and I find it hard to believe any water company is that far behind. Sounds like this kid is taking you all for a ride and just wants to say how bad he’s got it. Fuck you! I widh I’d have had a dad half as interested in my life as these guys. But I didn’t and so what? Life goes on. I had my own apartment when I was 17 and this guy that’s whining is 17 and his brother is OLDER? Uh huh. Get a job and start paying bills and find out what a pain in the ass it can be when someone that “lives off of you” doesn’t appreciate the things you do for them. Fucking whining ass punks. What your dad needs to do is toss your ass on the streets and let you find out for yourself what it’s like to have to take care of yourself.
I forgot… parents are GOOD and HOLY creatures, naturally protected from any consequences or criticism. Give me a break. Letting a water bill go is not “flaky,” it’s irresponsible. And I’ve had enough of this “provide the roof over your head” bullshit. Anyone can provide that. A robot hooked up to a bank account can do that. How about caring enough about your kids to make sure that bills are paid? Talk about disillusionment. Anyone can survive in the “real world.” What’s disillusioning is the fact that someone you grew up respecting, and expected care from, is so irresponsible that they can’t do it.
As for being on your own at 17, his parents have a legal (not just moral) obligation to provide for him until he’s 18. Do us all a favor and get off that lump of dog food you call a high horse. A rant is a rant.
I couldn’t agree more. Shit, not only was my father dead, but I was paying half our rent when I was sixteen.