My dad's a dumbshit

The BBQ Pit
41

Spider - Fuck you, you worthless heap of bile. You don’t know what you’re talking about when you say “he deserves more than you give him for what he gives you”. You don’t know my dad, you slathering halfwit. The reason we had food was because I bought some. The reason we were able to use cars to drive because we used our money to buy some goddamn gas. Disillusionment? Hardly.

Blockhead - What do you think I fucking said? The bill has been postponed already. Are you fucking stupid? You don’t know what my dad is like, you ignorant piece of slime-sucking shit. I may be a “Fucking whining ass punk”. I am NOT, however, whining without merit. I have a good reason to “whine”, as you put it. What, do you think I sit on my ass all day doing nothing? I wish. I have a goddamn job. It’s a thankless one, and I don’t make much money, but I work goddammit. I think I’ve experience more of the “real world” than most people my age. How do you know you had it worse than me? I feel sorry for the household that spawned a piece of shit like you.

Ishi Pishi - Same goes for you. I’m working my fucking ass off to make a decent life for myself and maybe a future family. Because I post a rant in the pit about ONE of the many irresponsibilities of my father, you think I should move the fuck out and take care of myself? Fuck you. My dad should just wake the fuck up and start taking care of his goddamn family, you inbred cretin.

For all three of you misguided assholes, and any others that agree with these brainfucked shits - You do NOT know what the fuck I have to deal with EVERY GODFORSAKEN DAY OF MY LIFE. You may have it harder than me. I’m not saying I’m the worse off in the world. I know many people worse off than me. However, I may have it harder than you, and don’t you fucking dare say otherwise. When you fully see the bullshit I have to take and deal with, then will I accept your view as valid. Until then, fuck you if you think I’m just a whining little punk.

42

Monster, my darlin’ boy-

Calm down and take a deep breath. You don’t have to care about what these people are saying!

You know the situation, we don’t. Period, end of story. Those of us who know you and your brother know that you are not whiny jerks.

You have a right to be ticked off at your father. I would hope that you still love and respect him for the good things about him, and the positive things he has done for you. And I am sure that if you think about it, you WILL realize that your dad is a good person. He may not be responsible, but he couldn’t have raised two great kids like you and Spoofe without having SOME redeeming qualities.

Everyone makes mistakes, and it sounds as though Dad made a big one. My father would never have gone on vacation and left me without water, or food in the house.

However, no one is perfect and we all make mistakes. Tell him how awful it was for you to have to deal with this one, and ask that he be more responsible in the future. Maybe this time it will sink in.

As for the rest of you, I am sorry that you have had it so bad in life. I agree, when you are forced out on your own it is a pretty bad life for awhile. Yes, the world is a hard and difficult place for a kid to be trying to make a life for him/herself.

Does that make it right for a parent to shirk their responsibilities toward their children? Just because you had parents or circumstances that forced you out into the world before you should have been, does that make it right for this parent to pull this?

Please try to have some perspective on THIS situation, and not trash this person who has a good reason to be steamed.

And, Monster, you know I love you dearly, but you do need to calm down. When you post on this board, you know that you are going to get opinions from people who have a different take on your situation than you do. A couple of days ago I told DRY that you show more maturity than alot of the adults on this board. Please prove me right?

Scotti

43

Ok.

44

Thanks, hon-

I knew I could count on you!

Scotti

45

Scotti, will you be my mom?

46

Honey, I am not your mom, but I will do whatever I can to help you through whatever you are going through. If I had lots of money, I would invite you to come and live with me here in the land of milk and honey (not everyone feels this way about the Pacific NW, but I do!) Unfortunately, I have this dinky little house that is too small for me, let alone both of us.)

I have emailed you, and hopefully we can get some dialogue going that will help you. You are beautiful, and you matter.

Scotti has spoken.

47

Um…

Bile doesn’t really ‘heap’… it kind of puddles.

:: flees ::

:: poking head around door briefly to add, ::

BTW. My dad’s a fucking asshole too.

48

People by nature all do stupid shit. Some more than others. Your father seems to fuck up a lot, and not take any responsibility for it. You’re dealing with this better than a lot of people would. I look up to you because you can handle this bullshit.

49

Stupid little kid. You are a liar and you know it. I would love to hear the “dad’s” side of this. But obviuosly the little punk doesn’t have the balls to stand up to his dad.

AND BTW- Where is the mother in all this? She is just as guilty of the offense as dad is, if indeed there is an offense. But I suspect he’s just a little whiny mommas boy.

To bad your parents didn’t make the right “CHOICE”.

50

I don’t wanna go crazy on this because obviously no one has a clue what it is/was like to have somebody else’s parents, and as that rather miserable Titus show sez, every fambily is dysfunct. There is a reason I swung on my father when I was 16, and there is a reason why I am eternally grateful he forgave me. From what I can tell, being a pops nowadays is pretty thankless. If you fuck up you get a punk kid swinging on you (me) or even worse a psycho shooting his school up. If you do halfway decent, you can be mistaken for a robot attached to a bank account. If you do great, you get a sitcom on the WB and every month one of those “tonight, on a very special episode of The Spiders, Jane has her period.” All that said and done, I really think you owe your dad a little respect. Yes, he is irresponsible, but no matter what you say about your contributions, the house, cars, radio, fans, computers, food, money, and (sorry) water is due mostly to him. You say you have a thankless job that doesn’t make much money, well, so do most of us, and it doesn’t necessartily get better. Contrary to popular belief, not any idiot can make it in the real world. You and I see the people who failed every day on our way to work. If you really believe all you say about your pops, then by all means leave. Its hypocritical to stay and live off him. Fuck what age you are, you’re intelligent, independantly minded, and willing to work. Don’t insult him, go your own way. But you won’t. We all know that. Because you may pay for gas, but he paid for the car, and you still need him to pay for college and/or whatever else comes. In 4 years and $100,000 later, then you’ll tell him to fuck off, tell him what a shitty job he did? I’m sorry, but that’s just wrong. Obviously I don’t know your sitch, but don’t talk smack about your dad and then stick your hand out for the green.

51

And you, little boy, are a true chip off the 'ol turd pile.
A chip off the 'ol block?
A dingleberry on lifes ass?

Take your pick. They all fit

btw- Tell your mom I’ll be late tonight for our rendevous. And remind her not to forget the rubber sheets and crisco!

Thanks, Dude!

52

I can remember my kids saying what an idiot I was (male, single parent).

Some years have past since then and now they have kids of their own. And the stupid, old bastard ain’t so stupid as they thought.

On the other hand, I did keep the bills paid.

filthy

53

…And have never been happier.
Monster, I was in a similar position as you- I was living at home at 16 and raising myself. I couldn’t count on my parents for anything- they were irresponsible abusive morons. So I “moved the fuck out” as some here have suggested. Guess what? There were some hard, hard years. There were times I didn’t eat. There were times I got the electricity shut off because I couldn’t pay the bills. But one thing was never there again- an irresponsible fuckwit blaming me for all of their woes. I even got blamed because I have a spinal deformation and had to go to the doctor a lot. This caused missed work and travel woes for them. Geez, sorry. I sure didn’t wish for that one…

Guess what else? They’re still irresponsible fuckwits who WISH they could blame someone else. Instead they’re forced to look in a mirror and see who’s fault their unhappiness really is.

I’m now a very happily married adult (29 years old). I pay my bills on time, went to college (paid for by me), love my husband, and work. Life is awesome now, and I will never regret moving out and saving myself more years of heartache. Nothing hurts more then having someone not only not give a fuck about you, but blatently blame you for things you have nothing to do with.

It gets better- I promise. Start saving money and get out of there.

By the way- not all parents “do their best”. Some just don’t give a fuck, and in my opinion that’s one of the PRIMARY jobs of a parent. It’s not the kids job to worry about the water bill.

The ironic part is, eventually they’ll probobly get a case of the guilties, which my parents did. Too little, too late in my book. They live 15 miles away and I see them maybe twice a year. That’s the way the cookie crumbles, I guess.

My point is, telling Monster to move out and see what the “real” world is like is an excellent idea. It was certainly the best move I ever made.

Zette

54

Spider - I think I see what you’re saying. I’m planning to move out as soon as I possibly can, but right now it would cause too much of a strain on my schooling.

Blockhead - Yes, you truly are one. How long until you get banned, I don’t know. By the way, that hurts. I’m in so much pain. I remember those very same “Yo momma ready for me tonight?” jokes from middle school. Man, what a great poster you must be. I fear your magnificent ability to post comebacks. Please spare me.

You jerk, get lost. If I’m such a “whiny momma’s boy”, then obviously I shouldn’t be worth your time, right? Or maybe you’re a dirty little troll. Who knows, we’ll find out eventually.