Well, now I have lost two of our shared friends(a couple) because I filed in small claims court against my ex.
Why did I file you ask?
He didn’t handle his share of the cleaning in moving out of the apartment which has caused me to lose all of the security deposit and the full rent. All of that comes to $1000.
Why did I lose the rent and security(which I paid in full myself)?
His cat pissed all over the rug in my office because he didn’t change the litter boxes.
The rug was ruined, and I had to rip the carpeting out. Then the floors need to be refinished.
Thus, the place has not been able to be rented.
Then, today when I informed mutual friends of what was going on, I got this e-mail:
Kirk,
Randy just told me about you taking to Adam to small claims court, and I really can’t believe that you are going to do this. In my opinion, you are being completely blind to your own responsibility, and trying to blame Adam for everything so that you don’t have to face your own demons.
You have said many times in the past few weeks that Adam “abandoned you” and “walked away from his responsibilities,” and I have to tell you Kirk, I just don’t see it. I’ve been friends with you guys for a long time now, and I am in no way blind to your relationship.
Adam did not owe it to you to stay behind and help you clean that apartment, Kirk. Don’t think that we all didn’t realized how filthy your house was or that we didn’t care because we’re your friends. Nobody wants to sit around in filth. When you guys invited us over there for dinner shortly after you moved in, your house was so filthy that I told Randy I’d never go back; and when I did come back to pick you up or whatever, you’ll notice that I NEVER sat down. For Christ’s sake, it was so bad we got you MAID service. You can’t blame that all on Adam, who was out working and the main financial contributor to the relationship.
Let me clue you in, this is how it works, one person goes away from home to a JOB, and the other person stays at home and makes the HOUSE their job. And I don’t care how lousy you’re feeling, if you’re feeling good enough to go to the comic book store or borders or the canned food outlet or sit there and rant in your newsgroups for hours, then you’re feeling good enough to clean. Because you chose to live like a pig does not make this all Adam’s fault and Adam’s responsibility. And before you say, “Well he lived here too and he was a slob too…” let me point out that I have seen Adams car compared to yours, I saw Adam’s office compared to yours, and ADAM WAS THE ONE OUT WORKING FOR A LIVING.
Kirk, let this go and stop being so damn vindictive and self centered before you lose every friend you have. No matter HOW you try and spin this, we all know that Adam IS a good person and a nice person, and I don’t think there’s anyone who really knows you guys that “blames” him for anything. It just didn’t work out, you were two very different people, and it’s OVER. Let it GO. Jesus, if you would have put this much fucking effort into your relationship, he’d probably still be around!
This is the same person who came over the day after he left to criticize me based on the crap my ex said. Now she’s spouting the same crap, and I’m back to being the gay Peggy Bundy.
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