Grief is the price we pay for loving so deeply.
At least he didn’t suffer.
You were a very lucky son.
My condolences to you and your family.
Yeah, that’s what I was trying to say. Thanks, Shirl.
You sound lucky to have had him as a dad. I’m sorry for your loss.
I’m so very sorry, Cartooniverse.
I lost my dad nine days before my sixth birthday…thirty-nine years ago. Not a day goes by that I don’t try to keep a little piece of memory of him in my heart.
I am so very sorry for your loss, Cartooniverse. I feel your ache and completely sympathize. He sounds like he was a great person and father. You don’t get too many people like him in a lifetime. I am happy you had him in your life, and so sad he is no longer in it.
Many, many heartfelt condolences for your loss.
I am very sorry for your loss . Compassion and Love.
My father has been not very nice, but I will still miss him when he dies.
{{{Cartooniverse}}}
My deepest sympathies.
Speaking from personal experience, there are many changes that occur after a man loses his father. It’s a painful time. But not all of the changes are bad. For me, I realized I needed to become more like the man he was, and I think I’ve made some progress in that area, over time.
My deepest sympathy. When my father died, much the same way as yours did - a massive stroke he never woke from - it left a hole that hasn’t been filled in 14 years.
Dad was a big man in town and at his work, and many, many people felt his loss, but none knew him like my sister and I did - as a very cool dad.
Sounds like you had a very cool dad too. Think of him a lot, remember the good times and the lessons learned and the laughs you shared.
And thank you for letting me do the same for my dad just now.
My deepest sympathies on your loss and grief. There is no easy way to lose your parents, no matter your age or theirs. He’s your Dad and that’s an ageless thing.
I was 45 and my Dad 78 when he died a year and a half ago. I grew up a lot after that day, having already lost my Mom 7 years before that, and having no choice. But in the moments of letting go, I was still his little girl, he was still my Daddy. And in my heart that’s how it will always be. I hope you find some peace and comfort somewhere in your world. I hope you’re able to feel your Dad with you still.
Please accept my sorrow for your loss. As time passes, you won’t forget, but the pain will diminish. I know.
My gosh. I will return in the next day or so to reply properly to all of the beautiful, thoughtful and important posts that you all have shared with me ( and one another ). I am grateful to have found a community of such thoughtful and caring heart.
In Peace,
Cartooniverse
Coming up for air, and re-reading these posts. You know how sometimes you read something and have a really glurgy response? I’d this inclination to say loudly, "We all ought to pick up the phone and call our parents right now if we can !! " But the truth is that a lof of us have lousy relationships, or none at all, with our parents. That’s the way the world runs, and I know it.
Knowing that makes me feel fortunate, because I got to enjoy a reasonably good close relationship with him.
Time is such an interesting filter. It cleans up some stuff and makes nice. I’ve spent the last week trying to unfilter, so I can remember what truly transpired between he and I over the years- especially in my childhood. Not always such a fun thing to do, is it? Nevertheless, a good idea IMHO.
One of the best takes I’ve ever heard on parent-child relationships is that your parents weren’t trying to be bad parents, or make your life miserable; in most cases, they were actually doing the best they could, just like I am doing now, living my life. That idea helped me put away a lot of my old anger at my father.
I’m sorry.
It sounds like his loss will be felt deeply by many.
My condolences.
I’m sorry for your loss. My prayers are with you and your family - especially you.
My dad was past sixty when my grandfather died, and he said it didn’t matter - he still felt like he had been orphaned.
Be nice to your kids - they’ve lost a grandpa.
Regards,
Shodan
I’m really sorry to learn of your loss. I understand what you mean when you spoke of not being ready to be a grown up. When my mom died, my sister and I both said, “We’re orphans” - my dad passed away years ago. Although I have children and have had spouses, that “eldest” title still doesn’t sit well on my shoulders. I wish you all the best in dealing with the pain. I’m glad you had years to experience your father’s love.
I am so sorry for your loss. I know words can’t really express the true depth of feeling. My Dad died very recently, and I miss him. Like you I remember so many good things about him. Your Dad sounds lovely and you were so lucky to have had such an outstanding person as parent. Sending hugs your way.
So sorry for your loss. It sounds like you knew enough to value him while he lived. My deepest condolences.