First, Mods, if this needs to be in a different forum, please move it…
Inspired by a comment from this thread, I present the following for your consideration:
Let me preface this by saying that the woman in question may have never received decent oral sex in her life. That said, I shall proceed with the telling of my tale…(names have been changed to protect the innocent, or not-so-innocent)…
I was visiting my best friend and his wife one Saturday evening about three weeks ago. The visit had started around 4pm, and we were having very lively conversations on a number of subjects, when the subject or oral sex emerged (arose?). At any rate, Sarah admitted that John had never really been able to bring her to orgasm with his oral ministrations. I found this hard to believe, but John readily agreed that this was the case, though it was not for lack of effort. I casually mentioned that this was a situation with which it was difficult for me to identify, since I had to date never failed to bring a woman to orgasm orally. Her interest provoked, she asked me to describe my technique, in vivid detail, so as to get an idea of what I did differently than John. I obliged by describing as follows:
First, I made it very clear that oral sex to me is something of an art form. I take great pleasure in pleasing my partner; in fact, I find that it is more fulfilling for me to bring my partner to orgasm orally than it is for me to have an orgasm myself. Well, at least as fulfilling, at any rate. That said, I proceeded to describe how, once the woman is already sufficiently aroused to allow me oral access (just diving in can be, well, abrupt), I have her lay down on her back and I approach her face-first, laying between her legs. I kiss and caress the insides of her thighs, while my fingers play along the outside of her vagina, gently rubbing, sometimes slightly opening the lips and sometimes ever so lightly brushing her clitoris, once exposed. I then proceed with my lips to kiss the tender skin on each side of her vagina, where the insides of the thighs meet the pubic area, my hands and fingers still rubbing gently as before. Next I kiss and lick the folds of her inner and outer lips, slowly working a single forefinger inside her as I do, lubricating the finger with my saliva and lightly brushing her clitoris with my tongue. Briefly, I will tongue her opening, removing my finger and inserting my tongue, working the opening for a few moments, then re-inserting my finger. With my finger thus engaged, I will gently suck the clitoris into my mouth, while I crook my finger upward, applying gentle pressure to the inside of the vagina, towards the clitoris/pubic bone. With the clitoris securely placed between my lips, I will then stiffen my tongue and flick or rub it back and forth across it, alternating between some stiff flicks and some soft rubs, while my finger (or fingers) is engaged and rubbing in sync inside the vagina. Occasionally I will stop for a moment and go back to stimulating the outside of the vagina, anus and related areas with my tongue and fingers, then back to finger insertion and clitoral stimulation. I will also go back and insert my tongue every so often, repeating the procedure I followed earlier. All of this is, of course, predicated on the feedback I’m getting from my partner. If I sense she’s not getting aroused by a particular technique, I will go back to something that was working earlier. Naturally, this doesn’t happen quickly, and can take more than a few minutes. I have, however, had this technique bring a particular woman to orgasm in under 4 minutes…which quite surprised me at the time!
After my description, which was very much as you just read, Sarah was quite aroused and extremely curious! She admitted as much to both John and me, which took me a bit aback. In fact, she came right out and said that she wanted a demonstration! John blurted out, “Hey, that would be cool!”
Now, my wife and I have discussed this situation in the past – in fact, she has been aware of, (allowed, if you will) my oral ministrations with another woman in our past. This woman was a very good friend to my wife, and my wife honestly felt there was no reason to be prudish about oral sex. Her comment was basically, “We’re all consenting adults, and it’s not like you’re actually have sex with her! Besides, why would I want my friend to not have the kind of good time that I have?” I thought that was very open-minded and rather Clintonesque of her at the time, but who am I to argue with such logic?? 
Anyway, I telephoned my wife and explained the situation to her, and she said she certainly had no problem with it, since Sarah was one of the best friends she’s ever had, and if she’s never had really good oral sex, then she had been deprived long enough!
With that out of the way, Sarah and I proceeded to the back bedroom. I won’t get into the details of what all went on, but John was not there at the beginning, opting instead to remain in the other room until Sarah was sufficiently aroused that his observing wouldn’t be a distraction. After some time (not quite sure how many minutes), I worked Sarah into a quite satisfactory orgasm! To say she was happy/surprised/excited would be an understatement, because she had actually considered the possibility that she couldn’t be aroused to orgasm by oral means.
As she came down, John exclaimed, “Damn, man, you really CAN make her cum!” I was pretty happy about it too, but the best part of it all is that apparently Sarah has managed to “train” John in what I was doing, and he is now keeping her happy!
So, all’s well that ends well, I suppose.
Ladies, do you concur that this method is likely to be adequate? Have you found particular methods that work best for you?
- Dirk