Well, at least people remember your birthday at all. My birthday has become so insignificant that I can barely remember when it is at all.
:rolleyes:
I saw the laughing icon. Hey no worries, that’s how everyone else reacts…
Go throw yourself a pity party elsewhere. Jesus.
I won’t threadshit, but I’ll let Patton Oswalt do it.
I agree with the poster that said the coworkers FB post was NOT flirting, and even if it was - so what? A little flirting is not the same as hitting on someone or coming onto them.
I’m not excusing your BF’s controlling behavior AT ALL (he sounds like a creep who should be dumped asap) but I’m curious about one thing. When you say that you went inside to show your boyfriend the FB post, how did you frame it? I ask because it sounds like you said, “Hey look, this guy at work is hitting on me?” in which case, please get over yourself a LITTLE bit. Sometimes people are just a little over the top w/ their friendliness and don’t need to be accused of hitting on you. I know a girl like this who claims that any person who is even the slightest bit friendly with her is hitting on her, including women (who obviously must be lesbians). Taking things like this the wrong way strikes me as immature… doubly so when combined w/ whining about a 26th birthday.
In any case, at least you have a shoulder to cry on at work.
mookie, enough. I hereby direct you to stop coming into other people’s threads and making remarks about your depression. You have a thread going on this topic, talk about it there.
This is a specific, direct moderator instruction and you risk getting a warning every single time you ignore it in this forum (MPSIMS) or in any other.
Good work! You have succeeded in using up all of the very genuine sympathy and empathy I had for you. Guess that proves something about you as a person – in your own mind, at least. Others would see it as being about your actions: those you take and those you don’t.
twickster, MPSIMS moderator.
I think bf is a piece of crap.
Any so-called man who isn’t in the room, kissing his gf’s butt when she’s crying on her birthday can’t be left soon enough. And, if he’s the one who caused it, it’s ten times worse. Ditch this loser now.
Best wishes,
hh
What Handsome Harry said.
And please, please, please, friend every man you meet on Facebook. And start doing stuff by yourself. And meet your co-workers for dinner after work. And stop worrying about pleasing this guy.
There is so much :eek::eek::eek: in what you type.
And listen to these people … Meggroll, you said:
I imagine that’s the family back in, where was it, New Jersey? I think maybe they have your best interests at heart.
I have two daughters (and two sons, but I venture a guess they’ll be OK) and I would NEVER, EVER, EVER want to have them tell me about a birthday like this. If they did, I’d fly to Phoenix and gather them up myself.
And that’s no joke.
JK
He’s waving a red flag and you respond by waving a white flag.
If you were my daughter or my sister or my best friend, I would have your stuff packed and in the car getting far far away from this guy in under 5 minutes.
No matter what excuses you are tempted to make for this guy, don’t. He’s no good.
Happy birthday!!!
I don’t like what this guy did at all, if he isn’t abusive then he is at least a douchelord and an asshole.
Sadly, immaturity knows no age. I know of 60+ people who act like this. 
An update, because I hate reading threads when the OP never comes back:
Things are better now, and we ended up having a long talk about insecurities and how we can handle things better in the future. We ended up having a kind of “substitute birthday” yesterday, because my cards came in the mail and he gave me the little present (which turned out to be a remote for my camera, which is pretty awesome).
Thank you everybody for your advice and your birthday wishes!
True enough. You get a bit of a pass for it in grade school because you’re still actually a kid.
Meggroll, I wish you and your boyfriend the best for the future. I sincerely hope he realizes that insecurity and jealousy will push you away faster than just about anything.
God, I love a poster who updates. Feel free to stick around and ask us for advice anytime, Megg. 
Also, his insecurity and jealousy is HIS problem, for him to find a way to deal with. Unless you’re actually running around with other guys, you aren’t doing anything wrong. You’re allowed to have guy friends and friend them on Facebook and even see them socially sometimes.
And I too love an updater.
Abuse usually occurs in cycles, so this update is perfectly understandable. Look up “honeymoon phase” and then after that, look up “denial”, because you’re in both of them right now.
Since I’m of the same mindset, I wanted to note my appreciation for you coming back.
Good luck to you.
Definitely.
And, definitely twice to what Alice the Goon wrote 2 posts up. ’
Best wishes,
hh
You know, posts like this aren’t necessarily as helpful as you would think. To me, they read more like insurance so you can say “I told you so” than genuine concern. It is far better to say you are hopeful that the guy will change, but to be careful and on the lookout to make sure, and then give those links.
I know that, when I’ve been in denial, it isn’t the people yelling a contrary view at me that convinced me, but the people who encouraged me to entertain the possibility that things were not as they seemed.
If anything, a post like yours would have made me defensive, clinging more closely to my false belief, rather than having a healthy amount of skepticism. I hope the OP is not like me.
(And, no, I will not say with 100% certainty that the relationship mentioned in the OP cannot work out. I’d just encourage her to wary. I know I would give my partner a chance after telling him about behavior I found objectionable, and I know that, in the BF’s position, I’d try to change.)
Here’s an extra wish: HAPPY BELATED BIRTHDAY!!!
Glad to hear you’re talking things through with your boyfriend! Like many others, I was concerned when I read your OP and follow up posts.