We have been dating for about six months and it didn’t seem to bother me until two nights ago. He is fifty and I am 31.
We went out to dinner, had coffee, sat and laughed almost all night and then went back to his place to fool around. During us geting intimate in his bedroom, he started tweeking and wasn’t aroused anymore, which has never happened before. He then got up, grabbed his laundry basket and headed for the washer.
Ok, so he was probably embarassed, but he left me hanging… and with no explanation. So ten minutes later I get up, get dressed and go and find him. He said he wasn’t feeling well and that I should go home. So instead of me questioning his request, I got my purse and left, dazed and confused.
Our sex life had been great up until that point. He usually wears me out. Never one complaint in that department. He is a marathoner in the bedroom, but this night, he was tripping on something and didn’t want to discuss it, obviously.
I left his house feeling so weird and insecure about everything, with a million things running though my head, “did I do something wrong”, “why didn’t he want to talk about it”. So he calls me later at my house, about 3 hours after I left, and I told him that I was feeling insecure about what happened and he told me that he again didn’t want to discuss it, and that I was draining him. I got pissed and told him to pretty much go to hell.
So of course, being the kind of person that I am, I emailed him the next morning when I got to work telling him that I couldn’t do this anymore and that his communicaiton skills suck. He didn’t respond, but called me later on in the afternoon, appologizing for not wanting to talk about it.
And now I feel like shit, because he said that he really wasn’t feeling good, and that he had the runs, but he didn’t want to deny a blow job. But he was trying to hard to be into it, and the harder he tried to worse it got, so he got up and didn’t know how to tell me that.
I think I messed this whole relationshipup because of a little misunderstanding.
I definately showed my age in this situation…
Norah Jones knows how I feel.