It makes me uncomfortable when I entirely agree with you, Dio. Please say something insulting about Christians, polyamours, or BDSM so I can feel all tolerant and superior and evolved. 
Exactly - the last paragraph of the OP asks if giving her a ride home is enabling her drinking/irresponsible behavior in general.
I believe you did the right thing.
Seems like this isn’t the first time this has happened, & she was drinking all DAY.
She has a problem & you’re right not to enable her.
Next time I wouldn’t even let my boyfriend go after her.
Wherever she’s drinking, they can call her a cab.
This is the stuff that “the family drunk” stories arise from, and she needs to be faced with the reality of what she’s doing as soon as possible.
And if she drives and kills somebody? That means SHE drove and killed somebody. You weren’t driving drunk. Even if you ran to her aid every time she called you…that one time she didn’t let you know? and all hell broke lose? are you going to spend the rest of your life feeling guilty because you “just should have known?”
One of the first things you learn in Al-Anon is that you can only be responsible for yourself. You cannot control the actions/consequences of any other person. Sounds like your self-protection signals are working just fine, so continue to listen to your gut. It’s hard, but there’s no reason for you BOTH to go down.
Just wanted to let everyone know how much I appreciated all the input.
Sister ended up REFUSING to tell my BF where she was, apparently out of guilt that she was inconveniencing him. She came home sometime in the early morning, and left for work an hour or two after that. This was before I was awake, but I vaguely remember the dogs barking.
I will talk with her about it, and yeah, my opinion is that she should have called a Taxi to get home, and then called another Taxi to get back to her car. I agree with those of you who said that if this was a one time thing, that I would go do it. This is not a one time thing. My sister drinks very often, knows her limits, has a full time job, and should have known better. Obviously something is messed up in her life that she hasn’t told me about, because not many normal healthy people would sit at a bar for 6 hours, get plastered, and then not come home or not allow anyone to help. We’ll chat tonight hopefully and figure out what’s up. Obviously I care about her, and the reason I DIDN’T want to help her is BECAUSE I care… not because I’m a heartless bastard who wants her to die in an accident. I don’t want to enable this kind of lifestyle choice because it’s going to end up doing her more harm than good…
Also, I’ve gotten really drunk before, slept it off in the back seat of my car (that way you won’t get a ticket for DUI, as long as you aren’t in the front of the vehicle they can’t maintain that you were in charge of operating it), and when I woke up 5-6 hours later, I was as sober as I could be. So it can be done… but maybe that wasn’t an option for my sister considering the time it already was, and the time she had to be at work. That’s why taxis exist.
oh, and to the jokesters who thought somethign was fishy about my BF doing it… we are a gay couple, and my sister lives with us. So, it’s a special circumstance.
well there goes my budding fantasy of a set of boozy sisters who’re mad at each other and on need rides home.
jokes aside, the only time i’ve seen/heard of post-collegiate-aged chicks out at bars slamming drinks on a weeknight until last call are when said chicks are in a bad and lonely place in their lives. Can’t find a job, just broke up with a boyfriend, been too long since a boyfriend, death of a family member, etc.
this compounded with weight gain and/or lots of meaningless sex leads to even lower self esteem and doesn’t help the bf situation and the shame spiral grows to a shame whirlpool and finally a shame vortex. if this weekday boozing turns into a regular happening, you may be right that’ she’s got an issue she’s not sharing and maybe an appointment with a counselor is in order.
on the other hand, you’ve got your own stuff to take care of, and you are not your sister’s keeper.
For the record, I thought you were a chick because you didn’t immediately tell your sister to take a cab home. Not because you said you had a boyfriend.
Really, unless she was abandoned by the road or in danger or something it’s really inconsiderate to call someone in the middle of the night to either drive you home or fetch your car.
Daylight hours, it’s a different story. Then you should give her a lift to go back and get the car.
Irresponsible though it all may have been, wow it’s good to be 23.
My apologies for the assumption. (It did make for a nice side story though.)
Here’s something I don’t get to say every day: I agree with Skald and Dio!
If I get a call from a family member or close friend saying, “I screwed up, I’m sloshed, and I need a ride home,” I’d be there for them any time of day or night. If it becomes a regular thing, they can find another patsy. And if someone wanted me to go out at night just to fetch their car, forget it. Talk to me during the day.
That will get you a DUI ticket in Montana: you’re in the vehicle in possession of the keys, which our state legislature feels indicates “intent do drive.” That would be a very bad way to sober up.
Don’t be so sure about that.
Right. You can still get a DUI in a lot of states even if you’re in the back seat, as long as you have possession of the keys. If you have to sleep it off in the car, stash the keys somewhere else.
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Here’s something I don’t get to say every day: I agree with Skald and Dio!
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We’re all about to die, aren’t we?
Sounds like the start of a joke: Skald the Rhymer, Diogenes the Cynic and Gary “Wombat” Robson arrive at the Pearly Gates…
whew That joke could leave IMHO territory in a hurry 
That actually occurred to me! I hope I didn’t cause any offense; I was only jesting. Sorry about that…
Since when is drinking underage in any way responsible?
Who said it was? I said calling a family member for a ride was responsible if you’ve been drinking and you’re underage. Regardless of whether underage drinking is responsible or not, teens are going to do it, just like they’re going to have sex. I always told my kids to call me if they were too drunk to get home and to use condoms. Better to be realistic than end up with a kid who’s dead or a teen parent.
I would have picked her up because otherwise she might have changed her mind and tried to drive. Whether she deserves it or not, I’d rather play it safe and keep a drunk off of the road.
But I would have gone alone and not helped pick up her car. That she can do on her own when she sobers up.