Damn, what a thread.
I am raising my boys to respect women. Period. It helps that they have a daddy, a grandfather, and several uncles to show them how it’s done.
As far as telling the boyfriend’s parents, that can backfire! A friend of mine found out that his 13 yr old daughter was having sex, with an older boy (17 IIRC). Tim kept his cool (miraculously) then shared what he knew with the kid’s dad. Oops. The dad went ballistic. Tim went from wanting to kill the kid but restraining himself to actively protecting the kid from his dad, who was actually trying to kid the kid’s ass in front of the other parents. Surreal.
I was sexually active in junior high, and I wasn’t ready. It did indeed have an effect on my future sexuality and I wish I’d had the self-esteem to wait. Someone mentioned that sex brings adulthood with it, and they are absolutely right.
BTW, we had “the class” in 5th grade- film strips, pictures, embarrasing lectures, the whole deal. We were 10. That was in 1977. Sex ed must have gone WAY downhill since then… At least the boys were in another classroom to avoid embarrassment and facilitate us asking honest questions (or trying, anyway).
plnnr, you’re a good dad. No step about it.