Two of my best friends are a guy I’ve known since I was 12, went through middle and high school with, and still keep in close touch with, and a girl who I met in college, immediately fell for…and the feeling was mutual, the only problem was I was already with somebody and she would not feel comfortable dating a person who’d be willing to break up with someone for her. We still stayed close, and as time went on, her romantic feelings died down, while mine increased. This has always created tension in our friendship, but never enough to ruin it. My other best friend of course always knew how I felt about everything, probably even better than she did.
They’ve met enough other a couple of times, at a couple of parties I’ve had, but since they live in different states (with me literally in the middle) they’d never run into each other without me inviting them both out. After my last birthday party, I found out that they exchanged screen names with each other. I felt uncomfortable with this, mainly because it felt like two different parts of my life were colliding together, but didn’t do anything. About two weeks later, I found out that they were planning to hang out with each other on their own. I told both of them about how this made me feel…betrayed, since they both know how I’ve felt about me getting together with her, and inferior, since he was attempting to go where I wasn’t able to, but they both insisted they were only hanging out as friends, the same way I hang out with either of them, and that I should just relax. They both promised me that this wasn’t going to lead to anything more.
Tonight, I found out through one of her fellow friends who told me with utmost secrecy that they have infact been seeing each other on a pretty regular basis, and she was telling all of her other friends that she and him were now dating, but to keep it a secret from me so that I don’t kill both of them. I did some asking around and verified this with another one of her friends. I tried to confront both of them about this, but since I was sworn to secrecy, I didn’t have any solid proof that I could use. He just kept saying that it was none of my business, and that I need to stop being so paranoid. She flat out denies it.
If what I heard is true, it means that my two best friends, two people who I’ve always trusted more than anybody, have both been going behind my back and lying to my face about something they promised me was not going to happen. I’d like to believe that what I heard isn’t true, but I’d be surprised to hear that both of these people would lie to me like that about this.
What course of action should I take? Should I just sit back and let them both keep lying to me…or wait until they get too guilty and tell the truth? Try to catch them in their own lies? Am I in the wrong to be outraged about this?
No matter what I do or don’t do, or what happens or doesn’t happen, I feel like I just lost my two best friends…to each OTHER!