We’re bound to get to the bottom of this one day!
I find it highly irritating when someone picks on your spelling as well. No one is perfect. We all make mistakes.
Counseling is best, but why not leave your cellphone out where she can look at it, then leave the room. If she is truly suspicious she might take the opportunity to go through your call log - if it is clean (and I trust it is) that might help. Ditto for credit card statements. I’ve never cheated, or been cheated on, but my understanding that this usually involves hiding the evidence, and being as open as possible would be good at easing her suspicions. But don’t push the evidence at her, or she might think you’ve scrubbed it. Let her find it.
Unfortunately, the person that needs to do something is your wife. No one can really tell her, but she’s the one that, deep down, has to start trusting you and taking you at face value. Until that happens, it’s all wasted effort. She’ll see any moment you’re out of earshot as a potential rendezvous.
In my personal case, I had to start with the statement “if she was or was not faithful, it doesn’t matter now. What matters now is what goes on from here.”
If she cannot get beyond her own trust issues, nothing else will matter.
Like double posting more than 20 minutes apart. 
Armchair psychologists made sure my 2nd (perfectly fine six months before the message board) marriage ended. Not only are they NOT qualified, they have an active Schadenfreude complex in seeing others go through pain.
You know, the loyal Jerry Springer, Soap Opera type of people.
Anything more than just a “Go see a therapist” suggestion in this thread is unwarranted and frankly, disgusts me. All of you who said “She’s cheating” should be absolutely ashamed of yourselves for even planting an idea like that in this guy’s head.
True or not, you have NO QUALIFIED CLUE and shouldn’t comment as such.
OP: Hie the immediately to a therapist.
I’ve had that happen when I posted, continued surfing, and a while later hit the back button to return to the thread. It hasn’t happened in a long time though.
If that’s the case, then what’s the point of a thread asking for advice?
Waitaminit, a message board “made sure” to destroy your marriage?
She was cheating on you. 
Classic case of projection.
Also: do her family/friends like you and trust you? Is it possible that someone is saying “I saw Dallas with another woman” and on one level she knows it’s for the business, it taps into her fears?
Though really I’m inclined to go with the “best defense” hypothesis.
Holy shit, zebra, are you me? Only difference is my “first wife” is still my wife–for now. She’s in denial but evidence is mounting.
fjs1fs, over in this thread, you say:
You and your wife sound alot like the OP of this thread, but in reverse. Are the facebook comments back in forth with her old flame the only evidence you have of mistrust? Are the communications sexual in nature? Or is it just simple keeping in touch kind of stuff?
My wife is still friends with several old boyfriends. She’s communicates periodically with them. I have met a couple of them and had meals with them. No biggie. Some people can break up with someone and just be friends.
I don’t know why there is a double-post. I didn’t intend to do that. Gosh darn it. I guess I’m not perfect. It’s awesome that you THINK you are though. Did you read the rules of the forum? I believe it said something in the terms of service about not being a jerk.
You keep believing that.
I’m good friends with all three of my exes…
I met them first as friends, it went to dating for a while, didn’t work out for various reasons, and now we’re just friends again/still.
I have no reasons to ditch them as friends just because they weren’t good life partners or bedroom partners.
Of course, my husband is also friends with most of my friends (we all met in the same group and shuffled around until we hit on workable pairings) so that might help.
I’m sorry for making you post about your marital troubles here. I won’t do it again.
That is great if you were able to do that but I don’t think it’s the norm.
Are you actually blaming the destruction of your marriage on total strangers???
Alrighty then…