Maybe you have a spare baby you can give him?
JohnClay. Please. For the love of all that is pure and good. Do not make babby.
Seems OK, or is OK? In the abstract it might seem OK to her to be 99% responsible for the children, but that’s without having the actual experience of a newborn (then an infant, then a toddler, and so on) to be responsible for.
You two should not have children. You two should talk to a physician about fool-proof birth control.
You two should not have children.
No no no no no.
I don’t mind getting less attention from my wife. Often she pays me too much attention.
Yes but my wife wants me to wait a couple of years.
There’s no time like the present. Go to the doctor’s office tomorrow morning and have the vasectomy as soon as they can schedule it. And ask them to make doubly sure there’s no possible way you can reproduce.
Of course and she and many of her siblings are also mentally ill.
When we house-sit for my wife’s mother my wife looks after her dog and birds. BTW I got my wife to try looking after other people’s kids/toddlers by herself.
If she decides that not getting to be a parent would be a dealbreaker, do you think you might change you mind? How do you think you might react if she asks for a divorce?
That is hypothetical since she seems to accept that I might not ever agree to have a child.
If I agreed my life might go in a downward spiral so I might agree to just about anything that would avoid divorce.
Yeah. Keep in mind she said that (if that is what she said) before she is pregnant and while she’s trying to sell you on the idea of making a baby. Do you honestly believe that in the 18 or so years after she spawns your child that not once will she ask you to spend some time caring for your child?
Run, do not walk, to the nearest place to get a vasectomy. You do NOT want to father a child.
Perhaps it wouldn’t be the best idea ever to possibly pass on any mental illnesses to your future child(ren). Just adding this to the mix.
If I were to be the father I would spend time with the kid quite a bit I just want to keep my wife’s expectations low.
I think that’s what my parents think. My wife’s mother think one is ok.
If you’ll send me a thousand bucks, I’ll rummage around on the streets and see what’s available for you.
What’s on the streets?
Go back to the old thread. Read it again. Then read it again. Let your wife read it.
Seriously, you guys have some serious mental health issues – there’s no way you should be responsible for a kid. You’re better off being the “Cool Uncle” to a friend’s kid or something like that.
That’s a very good point. I don’t want my wife to look any worse than she does already. I said that I didn’t want her to “let herself go” but perhaps she wouldn’t really be able to have much control over that.
That’s some **concrete ** points you make.
Women who really want a baby have ways to “accidentally” have birth control fail. Unless she has an IUD, she will get pregnant if she decides not to wait for your permission.
You should have had a vasectomy years ago. Full stop. Schedule one now. You two would raise a terribly broken child. Don’t do that.