Good to know, cause it won’t be heaven without them for me either.
Tony was estranged from his only surviving sibling and had been for over twenty years. A few weeks ago, hubs found a mailing address for the brother and sent him a short letter that basically said “In case you are interested, Tony is at nursing home. If you want to contact him, you might want to do it soon.”
Tony got kicked out of that nursing home for smoking in his room the dumbass and the brother managed to track him down at the VA hospital. In the end, Tony died with family caring for him.
Which is what has been saving me!
(sigh) Considering that A1C putting me at “pre-diabetic”, DoorDashing some Coldstone would be a really bad idea, wouldn’t it?
not if you do it right … believe me there are some creative ways to cheat at that
Oh, gods. My parents are doing their yearly visit to pick fruit. They will be coming here.
Please pray for me. My mother is a sociopath. She’s not supportive.
I 
all y’all, but holy bejeweled 
I can’t deal with all this AND get a new job.
Popsicle is forthcoming.
If anyone has words of strength, I would gladly accept them.
The washer is dutifully redoing last night’s load with no sign of distress, and the forgotten tool has been returned to the nice maintenance guy. Front bathroom is back in about as orderly as it gets, with my laundry stuff back where it should be.
@purplehorseshoe, do you not have the option to set limits as to how you’re treated in YOUR home or who gets to visit you? Sounds like this would be a great time to tell them, “I have to take care of ME, I cannot deal with you. I do not need or want self-invited guests at this time”.
Just leer at her evilly the entire time she’s there, saying ‘Heh, heh, heh, heh, heh.’ 
They’re my parents! There’s only so much I can do.
It’s still YOUR home. You’re an adult, you’re paying the bills, it’s your territory.
You can lie.
You have a full time job, you just don’t need to tell them that your full time job is to find another job post haste. In order to do your job correctly, you need to be working at it at least 8 hours a day. (Shower and don professional garb to show that you mean it.) If you have to, go to the library and use their computers so your folks don’t happen to drive by and see your car parked in front of your place. Libraries tend to have really good AC, btw.
You are so sorry that you can’t spend your days with your folks, but you have work to do, how about you spend time together after work over the good dinner they will be buying you. You’d like to treat them but you have to wait until you get your first real paycheck.
Jane da Cane certainly is.
I heartily endorse the job searching days at the library. Librarians enjoy the company.
I had sociopathic parents. I get it. They can’t imagine their presence not being the pinnacle of enjoyment and they run roughshod over hints and polite face saving subtleties.
We’ve still got our arms around your shoulders~we ain’t going anywhere. Vent away.
I’m pretty sure that @purplehorseshoe was talking about everyone, not me specifically.
I’m just the first one who said it was OK to lie to sociopaths, even if they are parents. I’m pretty sure shoe was raised to not lie to anyone ever, but certainly not to her parents.
Honest people don’t usually lie well under pressure, they need to have a plan and/or cover story first.
Libraries are most excellent places for hiding. They have AC, computers, restrooms and vending machines. There are stacks and stacks of reference books to hide in. Parking is free and they are open late.