I am so pissed right now…met a guy, thought he was cute and sweet but…has a girlfriend which IMHO pretty much puts him off limitsd unless he wants to do something about that and even if he did, I am a slow moving person. I don’t feel the need to jump into being anyone’s girlfriend. He doesn’t know me and I don’t know him so how would he have any idea if he likes me or not. I just want to get to know him and granted this is a friendship with flirtation but there are boundaries I don’t want to crfoss. I saw things about h im that made me wonder if he was getting too close too quick and tried to nicely warn him, he immediately took it as a brush off so I tried to encouage him and spell out that I was interested (I think those were my exact words) but we needed to slow down, I mentioned his SO…etc.
So it seems with him that it’s an all or nothing. If I remotely encourage him then he’s flyhing headlong, if I tell him to slow down then he’s “hurt” his words. What is wrong woith men today that you can’t just take things slow? I thought MEN were supposed to be commitment phobes and women were supposed to be trying to get them to commit? I don’t care if I ever get married again or if I have a bf or not. I’d love to have a close friend to share with and if it goes further great.
But it pisses me off that he has the nerve to GO OFF ON ME like I am some sort of frilly fluffy bubble head who just set out to trick him so that I could say I broke his heart? What? Does he think I am collecting notches in my lipstick case? ARGHHHH men are ridicluous sometimes.
I don’t know about “men” being ridiculous, but that one sure is. He has a girlfriend? Then end of story- what did he want, to see her and you at the same time? String you both along, then choose who he wanted?
No big loss, by the sounds. And he “went off” on you? I hope the door didn’t hit him in the ass on the way out.
Well not all of us are evil. Simply put, he has a girlfriend, which means he shouldn’t be dealing with you or anyone else in any type of romantic capacity. Anyone that doesn’t follow that is someone you probably shouldn’t deal with, and it will be their loss.
It’s not men that are the problem, it’s this particular one. Just from the limited information I’ve gotten here, this guy sounds like an idiot. Even without the girlfriend in the mix, “Come here, go away” is never a fun game to play. I suggest you take your toys elsewhere.
Sounds like you’re better off saying BYE BYE … if the guy has this level of issues already, then you better believe he has way more issues ready to come out and bite you on the ass.
I am told there are plenty more fish in the sea, so I’d advise you take your fishing rod and see if you can hook yourself a good one!!! and if you find one there for me, hang onto him ok?
I say good riddance. And better now than once you’re involved. There are some nice guys out there… they just tend to not be so obvious so we miss them the first time around
I do feel a little bad for his GF though … wonder if she knows he was ready to two time her like that.
I know everyone says it, and I didn’t believe it until it happened to me, but the right guy will come along when you least expect it. Mine did and I’m still amazed by it every day. I’d pretty much resigned myself to being single for the rest of my life and then he dropped into my lap. I don’t think I’ll ever get over this feeling of luck that I have. I was single for the majority of my life, and this is the longest relationship I’ve ever had - I plan on having it last for the rest of my life, too:).
This guy sounds like a scuz and you deserve better. Battery-operated boyfriends are a good substitute until the real thing comes along:).
I know what it’s like to have your heart set on some guy who turned out to be a louse. I agree completely with people who say that you’ve discovered a good idiot filter. Moron blockers are wonderful things to have. Be glad that you’ve come up with one.
There are good men out there. I know, because I’ve dated and had relationships with them. (They weren’t necessarily all that well-suited to me in particular, which is why I’m still single. But they were generally decent guys, and I hope that they find the right woman for them.) A guy you want is not a guy who expects you to jump between the sheets with him on the third date. Heck, I’d be dumping his sorry rear end (and disappointed penis) myself. I’m not sleeping with anyone until I feel ready to do so, and anyone who’d not comfortable with that is not for me.
