So I have been with my Girl for almost 2 years. We live pretty close to each other. I work 6 days a week but see her 5 or so nights every week.
I first got concerned with how she was behaving when she had mentioned to me that she had been on chat sites talking to guys who opened the conversation asking if she was horny. She told me she never really spoke to those guys but really liked all the male attention. She admitted to speaking with random guys for hours on end up past 3 am in the morning.
I spoke to her about it and she, after a bit of persuasion decided it was a good idea to stop visiting those sites. I trust that she has honored her word…
But more recently she has found a guy on another site. This one is half way across the world and since speaking with her has found a girlfriend of his own.
What worries me is all the pet names he uses when talking to her, he is very flirtatious (she has shown me some of their comment threads in the past) and when I voice my concerns she always dismisses what I say and mention I am so cute when I am jealous.
More recently however she has been talking to him most of the way through the night, putting off important things she needs to get done to speak with him, and has what seems like a greater desire to speak with him more and more, and move their conversations to video and voice.
She tells me she is speaking with him less but I have been on her facebook, (which she knows I have access to) and I see just as many messages between them as ever… She goes to him to talk about the few bumps or problems her and I are going through which I am not very happy about seeing she should be going to her close best friends with that, or better still come to me.
Finally with him he mentions quite a bit how much he would love to come and visit her one day… something about that doesn’t sit right with me.
I am worried that even if nothing will ever happen physically or emotionally between them, she is craving a lot of male attention outside of myself and willingly goes out to seek it.
I guess I want to know if I am justified to feel the way I do about this, and what I should do. I have had an ex in the past be like her, craving male attention, but she befriended a co-worker and I found out she was sleeping with him while she was dating me, which is what ended us when I found out… SO I know I’ve been burnt and I don’t want to hold my ex’s sins against my girlfriend but that said I don’t want to turn a blind eye if she is in the wrong… Any help would be appreciated.