So I recently made the plunge and got into online dating, hoping to get some quick experience dating. It hasn’t been as easy as I’d thought, but I’m quickly learning many of the ins and outs of a good profile.
I’d like to get quick experience dating and maybe make a few friends of the opposite sex, so I’m not going after the girls I like most from the get-go. So let’s say I get an exchange of messages going with a girl, basically just a typical conversation; would it be such a terrible thing if I have some lengthy correspondence with them over messages(as if to establish some sort of nascent friendship) and then meet up with them knowing I’m mostly after the dating experience and perhaps a friendship, rather than an actual relationship? If we turned out to be a great match in person, then I’m not dismissing the possibility of pursuing a relationship, but what if I’m only interested in the girl as a friend; how might I go about letting her know? If the date doesn’t go well at all, then should I afterwards simply send a polite message telling her she’s not what I’m looking for?
I guess the best thing to do would be to keep the messages brief and go straight for a phone number or meet-up? Maybe send the initial message, and if she replies, then ask a few brief questions and suggest a meet up or ask for her number in the second message? Or simply suggest a meet up in the second message, without much any conversation in the message?
And if I get their number, should I strike up conversation over the phone, or simply discuss details of a meet up? I’d know to make any meet up a fair distance between the two of us and in a public place, but what are the best bets for a first date? Coffee? Dinner? Would it be improper to suggest a stroll in a nearby park together, or some similarly cheap and easy option?
Many thanks for any help!