I swear to God. Bodily autonomy and pockets. That’s all we ask.
Burn 'er! She’s a witch!
I’m sure your family misses her terribly.
In her honor, lemme go grab a spoon.
I mean, really, is that really just SO much to as–
{ runs from pitchfork-wielding peasants }
I gave up years ago and started buying my pants and most of my outerwear from the men’s department. Sure, the fit may not be the most flattering, but pockets. Enough pockets that sometimes I forget what’s in them and send them through the wash.
I have recently learned that men’s fucking PAJAMAS have pockets. Will never buy women’s pajamas again.
I refuse!
But I’ll gladly do the other things.
tell your mum that her frienemy is def. winning the Olympic-Parent-Contest, as she has a better child than your mum
/s
+1 on proud of you ! 
those pockets are needed to accomodate our manly parts
Drives me crazy that my husband’s pajamas have pockets and mine don’t. So I steal his. They’re comfy, if a bit long, but he doesn’t understand why mine don’t have pockets. Me either, hon. Me either.
They make 'em in slightly shorter lengths, donchaknow.
Very true. But now my need is less pressing, since I stole his. Now he needs new pjs.
Mwahaha
Another win against the patriarchy. 
woo hoo!
Ahem. I’m not sure whether I should admit this or not, but my pajamas have pockets. I didn’t buy them, but I’m pretty sure they’re women’s pajamas.
Could be they looked until they found ones with pockets.
I was so proud of my daughter when she said she wanted a wedding dress with pockets.
Disclosure: She ended up falling in love with something slinky* and streamlined, with no pockets . But the wedding was chilly (outdoors at high altitude), so for part of the reception she wore my suitcoat… with pockets!
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[*insert joke about going down stairs… I got nothin’.]
I ordered a new Land’s End heavy coat. shoudl arrive today just in time for the really cold weather we are about to have. Fingers crossed. The low on monday is -1
I’m not sure if this is a rant. I’m not sure how I feel about it.
Remember Always Late? My boss and I talked and we agreed that it’s probably better for me to take over data reporting from Always Late so I can get things the fuck in on time. I think it will be better for my mental health, but obviously taking on more responsibility is a little daunting, as I already have quite a lot. And I don’t particularly WANT to learn a new database as I’m already learning Raiser’s Edge soon, so it’s a lot of new stuff. But I DO want to get stuff in on time. The idea of having near-total control over grant reports appeals to me. And Always Late definitely needs less stuff on her plate.
Sigh.
Is there something the boss could take OFF your plate? That (or a raise) should be automatic if you’re giving a worker bee more work…
We discussed that, and hiring an intern or even two, and I have been tasked with writing the intern’s job description, so I think I’ll be able to offload some of the more annoying parts of my job (like looking for grant opportunities.) Not that I won’t give my intern fun and interesting things to do. I love teaching people about grants.
Sorta an ultra-mini rant, but dammit, my advice to Dopers thinking of making a curry dish: don’t! I love curry, but the way to consume it is in an Indian restaurant, and then get the hell out of there into fresh air!
You might think I recently made a curry dish. I did not. What I was guilty of was unwrapping a container of hot curry powder which had been triple wrapped in plastic, sprinkling a bit onto some chicken I was making, and then triple-wrapping it again. Yet that small sprinkling yesterday night is still causing the kitchen to stink to high heaven of curry. In my capacity as an ornery old fart I’m getting hyper-sensitized to annoying odors and this is pissing me off. It’s amazing how this odor lingers – there is literally nothing there that is emitting it any more; it’s just somehow permeated the atmosphere.
Yes, most young women and men do, but we also learn to avoid repeating the experience.
Please don’t take offense at what we are telling you here, but some of us are seeing red flags in you and that is why both Spice Weasel and I recommended you steer clear of hooking up with anyone for a while and learn to value yourself without a partner (even though you have been without one before, which is not the same as valuing yourself without one). I also heartily suggest you try to follow the advice of kaylasdad99, because you do seem to have a knack for codependency and you need to learn how to avoid it.
We are never, ever, too old to learn.