Captain , I think you made the jump to ludicrous speed too soon. I doubt that she is in a relationship, most probably made it up on the spot to slow things down.
If she was in a relationship , Neighbor dude and wife might have casually mentioned it , as it might have explained the blocking and totally hot chick from making an oops.
But no, cockblocker says that she was into you , cockblocker hubbie gives you her number and now totally hot cute neighbor has coldfeet.
Give her a couple of weeks before you write her off , but even so take this as a good start to getting back on the horse.
Thanks Niblet, I concur - the lesson here is not in actually getting the date it is in taking the chance for once and chatting someone up. Besides, whoever she is in a “relationship” with is not as good as I am, right? Her loss.
garygnu - Thanks for the compliment and I’ll definitely use those italics in the future for internal monologues. What a prick this guy/gal is! Sheesh, sorry it hurt your widdy-biddy brain to keep my non-italic inner dialogue straight!
I’m kidding - I did consider it but didn’t want to bother with the tags
So, you met her, you flirted back and forth, she said she was going to give you her number, her friends gave you her number when they “cockblocked” you, you called her, she said she’d like to go out with you, you tried to set up a definite day, and she tells you NOW that she has a boyfriend. She’s either nuts or likes to play with little boys’ hearts. Good for you for taking a chance; hopefully the next lady you like will not be nuts or a jerk.
Nothing is clear here. At first, yes. Then the cockblock that could have been perceived as a rescue mission. Then she said she’d like to date. Then she said she has a relationship. If anything, she’s confused, or there are a lot of assumptions being made by her and Mean Joe. He could iron that all out with five minutes of straight talk if he feels she’s worth it…but I do agree with your last line…move on.
Tell that to the man who begged me - begged me - to spend the night with him. Then a week later when I asked him out said he couldn’t go out with me “that way” because he was seeing someone.
Women don’t hold the corner on the confusing market, bub.
Sorry, did I forget to put spoiler tags around that?
Now it’s me getting some ass and being all, “really?” when a guy wants my number the next day… "Well, I guess, but I wasn’t really planning on following up on this… "
I don’t remember if I tried it this way before the board update, but you can now do bold, underline, and italic tags by highlighting something and hitting ctrl + b, u, or i respectively. Unlike in MS Word (or something similar), hitting ctrl + the letter twice doesn’t undo what you did. It just makes more tags.
MeanJoe, I consulted the Oracle of Occam and the explanation as to what happened is: your friends wife, for whatever reason, doesn’t want you with her. Her initial cockblocking was not accidental. And then after she knew you were going to call her, she poisoned the well.
She is the enemy.
Occam has spoken.
But what’s done is done. If nothing else, this incident should show you that your “chatting up” skills are better than you thought. Well done.
Thanks again everyone who has followed along and given support and encouragement.
As for some of the advice to follow-up and try to find out the nature of the relationship, I’m not really going to pursue it any further. She said she is in a relationship and true or not, that is not the type of drama I want. I was hoping for a nice casual date, get to know her more, and that was about it.
I’m just going to take it as a positive that I did chat someone up, enjoyed it and it did not kill me. I do need to probably take a little more time anyway as I work through the remaining feelings about my ex-girlfriend and that break-up. If some other opportunity comes up, I’ll take it as it comes.
Thanks again everyone,
MeanJoe Heeeeyyyy… who is that cute blonde sitting here in Gate 12 at Laguardia. i don’t see a wedding ring… said my Inner Voice.
MeanJoe, first of all, I think your username is a misnomer. You don’t sound you have a mean bone in your body.
Secondly, yes you did dodge a bullet. I spent the past two months talking to a flip-flopper who couldn’t decide whether she wanted to be with me or her boyfriend. She slept with me, then chose him and cut off contact, then came back and sweet-talked me, then made out with me, then decided to choose him again and cut off all contact again. Trust me, you really don’t want to go through all of that, and these two ladies seem to have a lot in common.
Give the man a prize! That is exactly the type of drama I didn’t want and if she is sending cross signals at this early a stage I just figure it is better to move along.
As for the username, Mean Joe Greene was a childhood hero (I grew up in Pittsburgh in the 70s) and the initials M & J fit with my first and middle name. It is not a reflection upon my temperment except for when Mean Joe Greene gave the kid his jersey for the Coke. I’d totally do that if I was a famous football star with multiple Super Bowl rings.
Yup, that’s the right attitude. There are 3 billion women in the world - statistically speaking, there are probably many women who will want to date you and not have a boyfriend or be crazy.
Of course, statistically two billion of those are in China or India right now, so let’s not get too optimistic about those odds unless you’re in favour of a LTR.
