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What percentage of your sex life is pretty normal? That is, single partner, no equipment, positions that don’t require warm-up stretching. You know.
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When you and your partner talk about sex, what percentage of your conversations run to things not in number 1?
You mean what George Carlin called “Good old-fashioned American man-on-top-get-it-over-with-quick.”
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Happily, less than 10%
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See #1.
Sorry to subvert the whole premise of your OP, but…
Last night Mrs. Mojo and I settled down to watch our new video, The Secrets of Sacred Sex. There were several couples demonstrating all kinds of techniques to heighten the loving sexual experience, dancing nude together, nurturing one another’s feelings, raising kundalini together, pleasuring themselves and each other, etc., all done in open unabashed nudity. It was quite beautiful. It showed the varieties of sexual pleasure as perfectly wholesome, desirable, and sacred. The whole distinction of “kinky” versus “normal” sex went out the window, in fact, had no meaning. This is how I’ve always thought of it anyway, and it was nice to see my sexual ideals played out by sacred sex teachers on the video.
“Kinky” sex is just a guilty pleasure that can only take on any twisted reality in the sex-repressive atmosphere of shame and guilt about the body’s natural feelings of sexual pleasure. When all is open and unashamed, every sort of pleasure you share with your partner becomes sacred. Cunnilingus, love bites, whatever, you name it — it’s all beautiful and loving, there’s no such thing as “kinky.” See this video or read the Kama Sutra.
Midway through the video, we decided to shut it off and put its ideals into practice (of course). Here let us draw the curtain on this couple’s very private intimate practices. No, I’m not telling you any details.
Why happily? I don’t know anything about you, but the people I know who always, always, insist on some element of the exotic in thier sex strike me as being, overall, more disatisfid with thier sex lives than I. They always need to
“spice it up” and to me that looks like they aren’t getting the basics right–good sex dosen’t need alot of props or contortions to be good sex.
Now, that dosen’t mean that props and contortions can’t be fun, and I really don’t care what people do or don’t do (well, I supose I am a little curious, in a non-jugmental way: I opened this thread) but I really resent the implication you get in magazines and from people that if you don’t pull out the hot wax and handcuffs every single time you have sex you are “boring” or “repressed”— or not happy.
Somebody wiser than myself once said “it’s all good”.
Seriously I would guess the answer to the question would depend on what your personal definition of “kinky” is. I think no matter what your sexual practices are, if they are done routinely then they cease to feel kinky. Whether or not someone else considers them kinky depends on their own person point of view.
In that light, I’d say about 90% of my lovemaking is of the non-kinky variety. Just about the right mix IMHO.
Another wise man said, “Kinky involves using a feather during your lovemaking; Perverted invoves using the whole damn bird.” 
What Manda JO said.
Isn’t what’s most important is making you and your partner feel good?
It seemed to me the OP’s definition of “normal” was the traditional straight penile/vaginal intercourse, ejaculate and be done. Perhaps I read too much into it, but that certainly is not how we like to do it in the Mercotan household. I’d better have my neck and back limbered up before starting, and we both plan to be flexible when we begin because we never know just what will strike our fancy before we’re thru. Now we haven’t invited any 3rd parties to join us, but we’ve certainly let our imaginations rove, and aren’t afraid to try new things, whether they be roles, positions, devices, places, etc. And we’ve been at it together, the two of us, for 25 years, and we both agree it’s a lot more fun this way, and we’re better at it, than we used to be.
And we ruled out handcuffs and hot wax pretty early on 
We really do have a pretty serious definition problem, then. For me, kinky starts with bondage, not fellatio, and I just assumed that is also what the OP thought. Perhaps we need more clarification? But even if we are talking about the straightest sex in the world, I imagene that there are plenty of poeple out there with 25 year marriges of nothing but “straight sex” who have loved it so much they have never felt the need to improvise.
My SO and I really don’t spend time talking about what we wouldn’t do, in a sense of “Let’s not try that”.
Anything new usually surfaces while we are engaged in what we usually do. I don’t consider anything we do as kinky. We don’t use toys. Waking up sore as a result of what we’ve done happens every now and then, so maybe we should limber up first, but as we mostly begin with the idea of making love and the hot monkey sex it usually evolves into takes us by surprise every time.
single partner,
Nope, we’re both married, to each other.
no equipment,
At our age, we pretty much require a bed
positions that don’t require warm-up stretching.
Nowadays, everything I do requires warm-up stretching.
- When you and your partner talk about sex, what percentage of your conversations run to things not in number 1?
*Our conversations about sex generally run to: “Djawanna?” or “Do we have time?” *
Okay, now that I’ve got that out of my system. I’d have to say that all of our sex life is pretty normal. But that also depends on what you call normal. A Baptist minister would probably say we’re going to Hell. Most other people would think us hopelessly conservative. Yes, we know more than one position. (some of which we can’t get into any more) and yes oral sex if often involved, but that’s about as ‘kinky’ as it gets.
Like Manda JO said - if ya’ ain’t bored with it, why mess with it?
Frankly, if it brings a smile to your face when I touch you here, and do this to you, I don’t think it’s kinky.
That’s our guiding principle.
“toucha toucha toucha touch me! I wanna be dirty!”
-Janet Weiss