Nobody’s saying that, Clint. They’re saying they don’t want to be victims of the kiddy inquisition when they tell people they don’t. It’s fine to assume, just don’t presume to tell others that they’ll “change their minds.” That’s condesending and rude and quite frankly, none of your damn business.
Clint in Wichita, I cannot have children and luckily I’ve reached an age that precludes people drilling me about it.
However, when I was of child bearing age, I found it insufferable that near strangers thought that it was acceptable to drill me about it.
NS: “Do you and Mr. Zania have any kids?”
Me: “Nope.”
NS: “Well, why not? You’d be a great mother. You’ll regret not having kiddos some day.”
Me: “Because I was raped by a hairy horde of disease ridden bikers when I was 13 and my uterus fell out-that’s why.”
I never actually had the breasticles to say that, but I was sorely tempted on more than one occasion.
I think that it’s presumptious to question people about their life style choices or to tell them that they’ll change their mind about something as important as having children.
Whether or not some one decides to give birth falls into None of your fucking business clause as far as I’m concerned
actually, it’s more like 10% - 90% (10 procent of people. male and femal, never experience a childwish).
I know there’s nothing worng with not having any children, but as I said in my first ever post in this thread: they assume their choice and lifestyle is the only “correct” one. I agree that everybody, at some stage of their life, doesn’t want kids, but what if your nearing 30, are in a steady relationship and still don’t want them? The way people around you react when you tell them you think you’ll never have kids, by choice is with disbelief and shock. That’s what ticking me off.
I think nowadays there are more reasons not to have kids then to have them.
Clint,
I, too, am agast at your definition of extreme minority. My son is Asian. In Minnesota, Asians are 2.9% of the population. They are 3.6% of the population nationally. I’ve never before considered him an “extreme” minority. I mean, I’m fully aware that less than 10% of American’s are Asian…but extreme minority would be if he turned into a Gay, Asian, Jewish Biker - ain’t many of them.
So, Clint, being in the majority gives you the right to be an insufferable asshole, does it? I’ll have to remember that the next time those pesky black people get all uppity about wanting to be treated with courtesy and respect. I mean, hell, they’re only about 12% of the population, right?
Statistics have dick-all to do with manners, buddy. Just because my friend’s been engaged four times and never gone through with the wedding, do I get to tell her, “Oh, you think you want to marry this guy now, but you’ll change your mind. Even if you do marry him, you guys will get divorced” (smirk, smirk, condescending pat on the head). Why, no, I don’t get to tell her that, unless I want to be an asshat of epic proportions. Having statistics on your side doesn’t give you carte blanche to be a rude jackass.
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Oooo, I hate that word. Here’s what Dictionary.com has to say about it:
Usage Note: Irregardless is a word that many mistakenly believe to be correct usage in formal style, when in fact it is used chiefly in nonstandard speech or casual writing. Coined in the United States in the early 20th century, it has met with a blizzard of condemnation for being an improper yoking of irrespective and regardless and for the logical absurdity of combining the negative ir- prefix and -less suffix in a single term. Although one might reasonably argue that it is no different from words with redundant affixes like debone and unravel, it has been considered a blunder for decades and will probably continue to be so. (emphasis mine).
Just to clear up the record.
(And yes, i did see your subsequent post that you hate it too…)
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We now return you to your regularly scheduled argument…er…discussion.
Just wanted to say, “Hi, Goo!!!”
“Hi, Goo! Fancy seeing you here! :)”
CiW: People will always assume you will eventually have kids.
Doesn’t matter to me what people “assume” in the privacy of their own brains. What I (along with most of the other people in this thread) am objecting to is when people think their “assumptions” justify them in the gross impertinence of contradicting other people about the other people’s expressed wishes for their own lives.
I don’t care what majority, minority, or other demographic category you fall into, that is simply fucking rude.
“Your kids are going to get interesting to me around 10 or 11, when they start being capable of having interesting conversations.”
featherlou… you only say that because you haven’t met my adorable five year old daughter, Alex.
Perhaps one day, if we ever get down to cowtown… you will.
Also-most carts in stores have a seat for small children-I always had to ride in it. When I was older, I sat down under the basket if it was the kind of cart with a shallow basket. I LOVED riding there, it was so much fun. I miss it.
Heh. I sat in the basket, and got the groceries piled on top of me. When we got to the checkout, my Nana (aka “Daycare”) would ask, “How much for little girls today?”
I thought she was a laugh riot.
Good times, good times.
Feynn, we’re going to have to have a big ol’ Alberta Dope one of these days. Maybe in Red Deer. With lots of Alberta beef, cause I ain’t scared. 
$4.99 !
I do this with my son.
Though I place the groceries around him.