In my (limited) experience, being disoriented it half the fun!
Mrs. 74westy also tends to startle and jerk. I’m reluctant to put myself in a position where her doing so could break my neck.
Seriously though, the situation doesn’t seem to be symmetrical, does it? (straight male speaking.) Whether it’s cultural or innate or just inherent in the power imbalance, the risk of a female feeling violated by a male starting something without her consent is infinitely higher than a male feeling violated by a female.
So, though I was immensely grateful for having this happen to me, I would never consider reciprocating without prior consent and in most jurisdictions, consent is not considered valid if given while sleeping.
Meh. While I may get flamed for this, I take the position that in a committed relationship involving regular sexual contact consent is generally assumed to be given unless specifically denied.
Obviously, use of a ball gag and/or ether may complicate this assertion somewhat.
You won’t be flamed by me. I’ll just point out that my relationship is not the same as yours and if yours is working this way then by all means proceed with gusto.
Well, with very few notable exceptions, anyone who is sleeping in my bed probably has implicit permission to initiate sexual contact with me.
Waking me up with oral sex would likely be a tricky proposition, since I’d probably have woken up by the time you remove my blanket cocoon and turn me from my favored fetal side-sleeping position.
That said, waking me up by initiating sexual contact? Hells yeah. Morning isn’t my very favorite time for sex, but if I have to wake up anyway, it beats the hell out of an alarm clock. If I *don’t *have to get up anyway, then I get to have sex, roll over, and go back to sleep, and how lovely and decadent is that?
Happened to a friend of mine in high school and she basically felt tongue raped. Even though she was sleeping with him, the guy was an all-around creep. If you’ve got a good thing going on with someone, that’s totally different, though I can’t see it working with many people’s sleep cycles. I can barely tap my SO on the shoulder without him jumping up, startled. If I were ever inclined to BJ him from slumber we’d certainly have a sexy talk beforehand. That’s all any of this takes, usually. The Would yous? and Won’t yous? and I wish-es. A sexy talk.
As for my preference– Completely asleep? Scary. A sleepy Sunday morning where I drift in and out and consent, initially? Could be good.
Yep. That’s one of the reasons we got married- so we’d always have a willing partner for whatever fondling, diddling, groping or other sexual acts we were interested in at any given moment.
Best to wait until you get home from the grocery store first, though.
My experience is that it’s probably not best to wake someone out of a **deep **sleep this way. It usually works best when a person is in that dozey 3/4 asleep place.
I was reading overheard in new york and there was a post like this, some girl said “I like sleep sex”, to which her friend responded “what”, “you know when youre sleeping and you wake up and you are having sex” “you mean rape?”
Straight female. Enjoy doing it to my partner (or did), but doubt I’d be another one that would get it in return due to my light, fetal-position sleeping. Does sound like a fun thing to try though.
Hmm, I just don’t feel very sexy when I wake up. I have to pee, I have pillow creases all over my face, I’m still wearing my dorky pajamas, and I have dried boogers in my nose. I would appreciate the thought, but I don’t think it would be pleasurable.
Plus, I’m a sleep-farter.
As for returning the favor, I guess I wouldn’t mind doing it. But I have a feeling Unsquare Dude feels about as unsexy as I do. He also has a tendency to freak out when startled awake.
Back in my crazy twenties I had a bi GF. This particular night my GF went bar hopping with some friends. I stayed home and went to bed early.
Well she came home drunk, stumbles into my bedroom and starts to preform oral on me while I was asleep. Shortly after she started, I began to wake up but not completely, actually I was just enjoying the moment. Then all the sudden I hear my GF giggle only except it was from the other side of the bed!! (this shouldn’t have been possible as I still felt a mouth down there.)
After realizing something wasn’t quite right with this picture I immediately woke up completely and finally opened my eyes. It was her drunk ass friend going to town on me while my GF watched!!
I’ll spare you the rest of the “Penthouse” details but I just think it’s funny how a woman could do this with impunity while a man certainly could not.
In any case, I can’t say I hated it, just a little taken back is all.
Curently, I wouldn’t do the surprize wake up thing with my GF. However I don’t have a problem waking her up from a dead sleep if I need some action. I just make sure to get the “go ahead” before I start.
Years ago, my college GF was a deep sleeper and come morning I was full of piss and vinegar. She had a tampon in, but with delicacy I was able to extract same without rousing her (never been bothered by a bit of blood) and slowly and carefully began oral affection. She emerged eventually into semi-consciousness, growling and buzzing without opening her eyes. My enthusiasm quickened apace, and I finally reared up and plunged my vorpal sword. Much mutual groggy groaning.
Then KA-CHUNK, nearly severing my extension, she sat bolt upright and screamed “I HAD A TAMPON IN THERE!”
Regretting the ramrod. Once I produced the evidence from under the bed, she was once more agiggle and all was well.
