So last night me and my lady friend went out for a few (too many) drinks.
I don’t remeber much of what happened after wo got home but this is her rendition of what happened last night.
So we get home, hop on the bed and immediately start with the foreplay. I laid back on the bed and she uh… starts to “please” me with her mouth. As she’s half way into it, she starts to hear this snoring comming from my direction. She turn to see; And sure enough, I’m completely passed out.
She tried to wake me up but it was to no avail.
Now, this woman I speak of is completely pissed at me.
I really don’t feel like it was that big of a deal.
Well a few problems, but the OP in and of itself is OK.
1 - You drank too much, look into AA.
2 - You started snoreing.
And the issue that you 2 disagreee on it is number 3.
But I see no problem while getting oral sex to drift off. She should be still able to get you off, and it is a very nice way to fall alseep. (again the snoreing issue - not good). Also (with permission beforehand), having sex with a sleeping partner coyuld be a great way to wake them up, and a great way to wake up :D.
Also I think she felt that she didn’t get ‘her’s’, which could indicate future problems in the relationship, as she may be the type who is always looking to make sure her shair is at least always equal.
I did the same thing myself once. Was working 12 hour days and only getting 5 hours sleep a night. GF came over on a friday night, we start messing around, she heads south, … and I wake up to her yelling at me for falling asleep.
Now in my mind (like SHAKES) I didn’t think it was a big deal, but she did and that’s what mattered.
To her, she was doing something special to please me and make me happy… and I cared so little about what she was doing that I couldn’t stay awake while she did it. Thus to her, it meant that I didn’t care about her.
It took some yelling and crying on her part for my sleep addled brain to figure out what was wrong, and more time on my part to convince her that was not the case* and get her to see it from my side. We finally got to sleep and I made sure that when we woke up rested the next morning that I showed her exactly how special she was to me, several times, and in every way she liked to be shown it for as long as she could stand it.
In fact I wound up proposing to her about a month or two later
I guess I’m weird, too, Green Bean – this wouldn’t have bothered me either. I’d just have let the guy sleep, then teased him about it (in a good-natured way) for the rest of our relationship – “What? You want a BJ? Hell no! I don’t want to put you to sleep!”
As for it happening – I don’t think it’s that strange or inexplicable. I sometimes masturbate to relax before sleep, and I know I’ve fallen asleep during that, so it’s hardly beyond belief that I could fall asleep during oral sex.
what she said.
also, i fallen asleep a couple of times when i’ve been on the receiving end, but only when i’m really tired. actually, IIRC, the goal one time was to see if he could get me to sleep … i was having a bout of insomnia.
In all honesty, whether or not I became angry would depend more on my mood than anything else. Sometimes I would just shrug and go to sleep myself (perhaps after a visit with Mr. Buzz Happy), sometimes I’d be livid.
Think of it this way: how would you feel if you bought tickets to the Super Bowl for a friend of yours and he fell asleep before half-time?
I can see why she’d be upset, but it’s not that big of a deal. People get sleepy, it’s just a fact.
Soldiers have been known to fall asleep during firefights. You don’t see the enemy soldiers crying that their bullets aren’t threatening enough, do you? (Um, I don’t recommend using this sort of logic in an argument)
I’ve never had a guy fall asleep while I was pleasuring him, but I don’t tend to get intimate with guys who are passing-out drunk. If your lady friend was aware that you were inebriated when she began to fellate you, I don’t think she has any reason to be angry.
and then do! 