OgreFade (Oscar, The Urge, Thoughts) has been repeatedly IMing (instant messages) me and other people. If you are also the recipient of harassing IMs from him, tell him to leave you alone. If he persists in trying, any communication made by Oscar after 5/16/2000, 5:21 EDT and especially those of a threatening nature should be reported to ipayed@ucs.orst.edu (Deen Ipaye).
Lynn
Thanks for the heads-up, Lynn.
Veb
As soon as I signed on he IMed me. He thought I was Sentinel (must have clicked on the wrong link) and was asking for Sentinel’s defense. When I explained the error, he started pleading his case looking for a supporter. I just told him I couldn’t help him.
This place is getting ridiculous!
It’s not this place, Ruffian…it’s just Oscar. If you don’t want him IMing you, well, here’s the letter I sent to him and his school:
Normally, I would not post anyone’s email address. However, since this guy seems intent on IMing the whole frigging message board, I think that we all need to know who to email…and who to copy.
If anyone wishes to copy my letter, feel free. Except for my signature and title, of course!
Lynn
Bitch factor 72% and rising
[Edited by TubaDiva. Contact me if more information is needed.]
But thats the best part Lynn…
Er, question from a newbie:Who is OgreFade and why is he Imming people?
Why, indeed. Is he a stalker? A creep? A liar? A loser? A former friend who has fallen-out? … Such public condemnation of private matters requires details for those of us who do not partake in the regular SDMB soap-opera banter or the more needy features of cyberspace such as IM.
PS The Hon. Mr. Ipaye might be a tad more receptive to such a well-thought out missive if he is addressed as DEAN. That’s with an A. (Only trying to help …)
OgreFade/The Urge/Thoughts/Oscar was banned from posting on The Straight Dope. He has taken to IMing and emailing me and my fellow moderators (and apparently a lot of just plain posters). Had he confined his attentions to the staff here at The Straight Dope, I would have just sent around a memo. However, since several posters have let me know about this privately, and others have mentioned it on the board, I felt that I needed to get the word out without doing a mass email.
Oh, and “Deen” is how Ipaye spelled it on his (her?) email to me.
Lynn
Hands off my name and title!
Now I remember why I don’t list anything on my profile.
Now I remember why I am only visible in AIM to people on my Buddy List. 
Now I know why I keep myself Listed in my profile!
I wish I had some entertaining Ogre-bashing to keep my night interesting…
-Sam
Just a question for my own benefit. Did his IM’s start out as harassing or did they become that way over time? What I am asking is, did he e-mail or IM a Mod asking (nicely) that he be allowed to post again and when denied, he started the harassment? Or did he just start communicating with people for the purpose of bothering them? Feel free to e-mail me with the answer if you prefer (and if you want to answer it in the first place!) I only ask because off the board he always seemed like a pretty nice guy.
His very first e-mails, then IM’s, were whines and rants directed at people who had participated in threads where he had been chewed up (including people who had not attacked him on those threads). After he joined the banned-id-of-the-day club, he escalated to serious pestering. He has been reported to have sent well-presented and well-considered stuff, whiny stuff, and vicious (and generally incomprehensible) stuff. It seems to depend on his mood and how he perceived his relationship to the recipient.
Count me in as one of Ogre’s New Best Friends. I’ve been getting IM’s from him since he was first banned after both spelling out ways to spam the SDMB (which was taken as a subtle threat) and having multiple user screen names (and then came back when the software changed, and then got banned again, and then came back again as Thoughts, and then got banned again). His banning directly followed him being lambasted on this board for his martyrdom, whining, ignorance and stupidity at several turns, and despite several posters trying their darndest in a nice way to help the poor kid learn how to get by here, he just kept it up until things escalated (by his own hand).
The kid simply doesn’t learn.
Every IM I’ve gotten from him since involves him whining about this board, how unfairly he was/is being treated, how mean and/or non-understanding everyone here is. evilbeth, he’s never threatened or harassed me beyond just being a whiny pest (which is nothing I can’t handle), but tom~ has it right on the money - it seems to depend on his mood. One IM he’s cocky and arrogant, the next he’s goading me to guess his new screen name, the next he’s apologetic and whiny, the next he’s depressed, etc.
Oy.
I haven’t told him not to IM me because I haven’t found him to be threatening or argumentative, just mildly annoying. I did post somewhere here on the board that he “had a hard on for me,” which he took offense to (and y’all can note that he is not gay, which seems to make a difference to him), so obviously he’s still reading the boards.
If this doesn’t prove the kid is a total masochist, I don’t know what does. He comes on here and gets hung out to dry for being a whiner. His response causes him to get banned. He then keeps reading the board and IMing its members, continuing to whine. Then he wonders why people accuse him of stalking.
Oh, and this morning I got the obligatory “nobody understands me/everyone is blowing this out of proportion/everybody hates me/I’ll just slink off into a dark corner and not bother you any more/I’m sorry for being such a jerk/goodbye forever” e-mail from him.
Whatever. Until he threatens me in some way, I don’t care if he IM’s me (although he now claims he never will because of Lynn’s current action, which he calls “going off the deep end”), as he is easily ignored if I’m not in the mood.
Kid’s just a pest and doesn’t know how not to be.
Esprix
<raises hand> That would be me. I’m guilty as charged. Wow, did I misjudge this guy. Sorry all.
Hey, I tried, too. We both fucked up with him.
Esprix
Ehh. Don’t hurt yourself over it, weirddave and Esprix.
Better to try and help out someone who turns out to be a troll than to ignore a flailing newbie who might be the next [insert name of favorite poster here].
I too am guilty of trying to help this guy. I thought he was well-meaning, but now I feel like he is a bit of a stalker. The other day I posted a reply to Iswote bashing, and I hinted that Iswote might be another of Oscar/The Urge/OgreFade’s handles. He sent me an email the very next day (!!!) telling me that I was bad for thinking that and that he could never be so whiny. Yeah, cause the guy never whined.
[I am now expecting another email from this guy. Oscar, if you are reading this: If you send me anymore emails that make me feel stalked, I will, as Lynn has suggested, be sending an email like the one shown above.]
He informed me last night in a terse e-mail that not only is he never going to darken my IM’s again, but now he can no longer read the board, which is probabl a direct action of his ISP to deny him access to the SD URL.
Of course, this is all unwarranted persecution on Lynn’s part, according to him.
Whatever.
“OK, everybody, move along, nothing to see here…”
Esprix
I tried to help him as well, and I don’t feel a shred of guilt. I see it as both duty and pleasure to help new posters; if they continue to disregard our culture and standards they no longer have the excuse of ignorance or inexperience.
Since I don’t have AIM, and he either doesn’t seem to have ICQ or just has (thankfully) spared me his attention there, I haven’t had the dubious honor of speaking to him directly. He did email me a couple of times. I responded politely the first time and repeated and expanded the feedback I had given him online. The third time, I politely but firmly told him that I had neither the time nor inclination to continue any sort of interaction with him. I have not heard from him since.
As he seems to be harassing many of my friends (an unacceptable activity), should he contact me again by any means I will certainly unambiguously demand he cease talking to me and meet any violation with an immediate complaint to his ISP.
well now I feel left out, aren’t I important enough to be harassed for help by this guy??? :rolleyes: