Oh crap, Munch just got asked out

Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share
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And it’s all been a big set up!

First, a little background. The graduate program I’m in is a female-dominant program. I’m one of very few males. In my group of friends, I’m one of two guys that is in the program, and not married or engaged to someone else in the program.

I’ve also been single for a little over a year now. My friends keep telling me they’re going to set me up, but nothing is ever followed through on. No big deal, I haven’t been in much need of a date. I’ve become very good friends with one of my classmates, and we’ve become very close. However, she’s graduating, and will be moving away. Too bad, so sad for Munch.

My friends and I all meet up on Thursday night for a drink. Last week, we gained two new students to our group, who fit right in (which is great, since we’re graduating some people). Well, last night, I could sense that people were pushing someone towards me most of the night - nearly prearranged seating next to her, directed conversation between the two of us, etc.

Now, it should be said that I didn’t mind in the least. She’s a very nice person, very cute, and we got along well. I expected to start seeing some flirting, but didn’t. She went home at about 11:30. When I got into work this morning, I saw she had sent me an e-mail when she got home - “Here’s my number, I’d like you to give me a call.” So I do, and she asks me out.

Wow. I haven’t been asked out by a girl since college 4 years ago. I’m a big fan of girls asking guys out, and she’s very nice, so I agree. Very cool. We’re having drinks after Christmas break.

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That’s good news, Munch. I sincerely hope everything goes well.

Nice post there to start my day with, mate. :slight_smile:

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Nice work! Nothing sexier than a girl who isn’t afraid to be assertive.

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Now, if only she would beg to give you… Nevermind.

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Well, to tell y’all the truth, I’m hoping it doesn’t go great… I have a thing about dating people in the program unless I know them really well. The factors just don’t work out well:

  1. It’s a small group
  2. I have a bad habit of being a jerk after breaking up
  3. Our group has a lot of fun together

If I turn into a jerk due to getting involved with someone before I know if they’re the type of person I’m interested in, it could get ugly. Yes, yes, I know I can’t get to know her unless I spend time with her, but does that mean I have to date her? No, I’ll go out, but I won’t pursue anything beyond that (relationship wise - I’d love to spend more time with her).

Does that make me an ass?

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No, no, that’s not it. :smiley:

Seriously, man: just tell her how things need to work for you and let her decide if she can play that way. Keep the dialogue going, and I bet things will go well no matter how they turn out.

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You’re worrying too much.

Just go and have drinks with her, and don’t worry about breaking up with her yet. It’s just the first date, man! :smiley:

You don’t have to worry about commitment until at least the third date.

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Damn, you guys were right!

We had dinner and drinks last night, and things went swimmingly. Since she is the newest to the area, I was in charge of the dinner location. I kind of overstepped my range, and went for a really nice italian restaurant. Got a little nervous about it, thinking I was shooting too high.

Well, I got to the restaurant, and it was closed! Open Tuesday-Sunday. Damn. Oh well, my second choice happened to be right down the street. We did an enormous amount of talking (she barely had time to eat), she looked great, time flew by. We went across the street for drinks, only for that place to be closed. Drove her up the street to a small bar I’ve been to before, and we did even more talking.

She was the one that brought up the group dynamic issue, and it seems she’s not worried about it at all - therefore neither am I. As I told a friend of mine last week, “Screw the group!” If I had gone out on this date three weeks ago, it would have bombed. Thanks to y’all, I was really looking forward to this, and had a great time. We’re set for this Saturday.

In the “stars are aligned” department, get a load of this: On the phone last week, I mentioned a job I was applying for. She said,
“not XXX job at YYY?!?” Yeah. That’s exactly what I’m applying for. She says, “My boss is the head of the search committee for that job!”

:eek:

So now her boss is “extremely interested” in talking with me, and wants to set up lunch.

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Ooh, sounds very encouraging and fun - good luck!