You KNOW how I feel, mipiace!
YOu know in all of my years I have never planned a break up to purposely let someone wait and wonder a whiel but this time is different…I want to let him and stew on it for a whiel. I am not answering him until Saturday. By then he will be going nuts because he will be going crazy trying to get in touch with me (to get laid) I think I will call him Saturday afternoon and have him meet me in San Marcos (Half way btw Austin and San Antonio and tell him that he gets no second chance, it’s done, over, finito, kaput (where did Optihut go?) do not pass go, do not collect 200 dollars. Working all week my ass. Who puts their house phone in the desk and doesn’t check for messages? and then doesn’t carry their cell phone? Get real.
Woo Hoo! I declare this mipiace Liberation Day! Body shots for everyone!
Yestehday, Septmbah 25th, a date which will live in infameh…
Ugh. Dave is gonna kill me for turning his thread into a male bashing ice cream fest. But ya know, it’s morphed so many times, I’m sure it’ll turn around again shortly.
I think…and, please bear in mind this is coming from someone who’s had all of 2 hours of sleep and sat up listening to thrash metal all night, feeling desperately sorry for herself…that they simply don’t know what the hell they want. Either that, or they’re all irretreivably insane. But then…God what a pain in the ass. You let your femme fatale image down, open up your defenses, and what happens? All because he smiles at you and looks at you with his whole heart in his eyes…AAAAAAAARRRRRGHHH!!! I need more caffeine. It’s only 9:30 here. I wanna go back to bed. And stay there til around October 10th.
I vote for situqation 2 - they are all fucking INSANE! (Sorry guys) everyone of 'em except the ones who hang out here that is) At least Studmuffin is. I mean he completely is certifiably a nutcase. He way lays his entire career. He should be in Korea right now or some other hotspot if he wants to something with his military career but instead he took this weird non military special duty so he could spend a year living close to me and then before he even gets here, he sabotages my trust with other women. Once he gets here, he starts to put things back on track and we have a good start he has everything slaying at his feet for his birthday and he completely BLOWS it by not calling me? But honestly this man has a track record of this. HE totally panics when things are good between us. When things are funky he will chanse me to the ends of the earth and pledge his undying love but when things get good, he panics (not my words, his!!!) and he fucks it up. I am done trying to figure it out. He need intensive THERAPY and maybe lots of psychiatric DRUGS. let him be some other woman’s heart ache 'cuz he has spent too many years as mine. You know, Wyatt told me I should have let him buy me that dress!
Well, it sounds like you’ve made your mind up. Which is good, I’m just sorry he has to lose you in order to wake up.
Thing is…I’m hooked. No sense in trying to deny it, I’m not fooling anybody. I know I’m hooked. I am deeply, madly, intensely in love with the man, and I’d do anything to hang on to him. :sigh:. And now, I’m right back to where I was yesterday, waiting. I suppose I should get some work done.
Yipes! I’m sorry y’all. At least my problems are of my own creation and thus I can blame no one for torturing me other than myself.
But youse guys, och. (yes, I’ll borrow accent pieces from just about anywhere, IANAT).
I dunno what to say. I wish that I could cross the line and bat for my own team. It seems that women know how to treat other women the way they want to be treated. Except not, I have enough lesbian friends for whom I’ve provided a shoulder to cry on. Boy, that was helpful commentary eh?
MaureenThings will eventually work out. Change is the one constant in our lives, nothing can stay the same forever, not even this “don’t touch me, don’t touch me, don’t touch me” Eventually, you guys will talk and find a way to make your peace.
mipiace I don’t think I ever said anything about studmuffin. To add to my above blathering about change, there are two ways to change things. You can either make a radical change which causes everything else to change, or you can make other changes that work to preserve the status quo. This gives you the “the more things change the more things stay the same”. I think this is the boat you want to get out of.
Studdy had a pretty good deal: a beautiful woman with a passion for him, willing to pour tons of work and energy into being with him. This let him off the hook from having to make the kind of radical changes in his behavior that were best calculated to actually making the relationship work. Ultimately, it sounds like it was too inconvenient or distasteful for him.
I am sorry for the loss of your passion, and the history that could have served as a great building block. Alas, I think Studdy thought that building block was the whole structure, and there’s no way you can build on that. I think the only way you can salvage your future is with someone else. It sucks, and i’m sorry. Anyhow, that’s my dos centavos. Hope it starts hurting less soon.
God this has turned into group therapy! I love each and every one of you from the bottom of my heart!
Thanks White ink! you are probably really absolutely right.
Maureen…it’s so great to be so in love. He will come around…I’m sure he loves you just as much.
God this has turned into group therapy! I love each and every one of you from the bottom of my heart!
Thanks White ink! you are probably really absolutely right.
Maureen…it’s so great to be so in love. He will come around…I’m sure he loves you just as much.
White Ink, you are quite correct, and I hereby declare the pity party officially kaput. Self flagellation is not attractive.
Now…if we could just coax some men back into this hot tub, we can start having some fun again.
Mo, we’re not insane. Totally MY perspective here, YMMV… if you treat us like so much dog doo-doo on the street, we’ll respond in kind. i.e. we’ll kiss your ass so we don’t get spanked again. If you treat us like Gods, we’ll get a swelled head and start to believe it, and treat you like the mortal you are… know what I mean? I don’t know if most women know the ABSOLUTE power you have over us. We are putty in your hands… like I said, Dave and Wyatt and Rocky might think otherwise. Just MHO.
mipiace, drugs always worked for me…
“Better Living Through Chemistry”
MAN! They need to upgrade to Guinea Pigs… or Ferrets… or something! These hamsters just ain’t cuttin it!
Yes, I do go to country bars, but I’m equally at home in almost any other sort of bar, as long as there aren’t big burly bikers there. 
I’m even known in a few karaoke bars around town here.
Rocky, dearheart…the last thing I would ever want to do is break your heart. What can I do to make it up to you? Shall I book the beach? ~winks~
We’ll miss you while you are gone, hurry back and be safe this weekend.
tanookie, did I see that you said somewhere you have a swing? I assume that you didn’t mean for the kids in the backyard…
I could probably give you a run for your money there. ~grins~
You know, I was wondering the same thing myself, til perusing my LJ I found out exactly what they thought, and it’s really not worth posting here. Suffice it to say some people apparently can’t stand to see long threads continually bumped to the top and they think the mods should shut us down.
Bwahahaha…6 darlin’, I think mipiace is right…and you obviously haven’t studied with the D’Bear quite long enough…
Let him twist, twist, twist, twist…and then tell him. ~grins~ I can be evil without a flogger.
Oy! I read this as Marilyn Manson the first time around. Can I tell you I was confused and more worried for ya 6?
I’m glad I could help darlin’, and sorry I was so late replying. Like I said, I was in bed by 9:30 last night. I’m paying for it now though, been up since 4AM.
Email me anytime honey…and that goes for all of you actually!
mipiace, IMHO Studmuffin’s letter to you is the email equivalent of a booty call. He wants you to be around when he has time for you and makes sure he’s unavailable any other time. He wants ya til he gets ya. This fits so many men I know. (I’m sorry, I’m not trying to man-bash…but I can feel all the men in the thread cringing with every new post ~hugs to the D’bear guys~ We love y’all) I think your plan to break up with him is a pretty good plan. You are meeting him out somewhere, so it won’t be at your house and he won’t have as much leeway to try and smooth talk you.
My somewhat-ex SO is doing exactly what you describe Studmuffin as doing. When he “had” me, he didn’t want me. He would act out, throw temper tantrums and completely took me for granted. Now that he knows I’m planning to leave, it’s all flowers and love. It’s confusing, it’s hard for me but how long do the flowers and love last? If they didn’t last the first time, why would they last after this? Eventually things slide right back down into a pattern as soon as they think you are comfortable.
~J
Mo, I’ll be the meat in ANY hot tub sammich! (pun intended…) All ya gotta do is say “Jump,” and I’ll say “How high?” 
I could add a vent of my own… but I won’t. Besides it’s too personal to vent about out here. Mipaice I think you’re doing the right thing.
if6, Some of us girls just don’t feel like we have any of the control in the relationship… or just not enough. 
That’s bizarre! I was thinking the same thing, as I typed M-o-n-r-o-e!
BTW, did ya’ll know “he” had his last last ribs removed, so he could bend over enough so he could give himself a bl… “servicing.” :eek:
**Dreamer, dear. You have ALL the control… if you would just grab it…
PIMF :smack:
YOU CALL THIS NOT INSANE??? No,no,no,no,NO! I’m nice to you, you’re nice to me, everyone is happy. See? Easy.
:giggle: There is a question here that begs to be asked. But I’m not gonna be the one to ask it…
Booty call, Booty call…Ooooooo, I’m gettin’ madder by the minute. He pisses me off too much I’ll tie his fucking ass to that four poster bed and leave him there and see how long it takes for someone to find him…and just exactly WHO it is that finds him…OOooooooooo do not piss off a red-headed Irish-Cuban with a hal-assed alcohol fetish and a full time sexual addiction.
Ass for people and their comments, hell they have been bitchin about me since I started posting here - I know the little group, the ones that don’t like our topics, our comradery and think we shoudl be barred or take it to some sleazy adult web site. Whatever - they have their life and I have mine. I don’t read their posts and if they don’t want to be offended, then they don’t have to read mine. OTherwise, they can feel free to jump in anytime! IT’s a free hot tub.
Jaade, hon, who wants us locked? Where are you looking? Did we get ourselves pitted by somebody with a bad case of thread envy? Joke 'em if they can’t take a good f***.