GO! GO! GO!
Only something poor and pussy-whipped wouldn’t take her up on the offer of coffee. Go, check out the figure, look into her eyes.
Let it lead where you want it to lead. If you can get it on sans guilt and sans her pulling Fatal Attraction shit, then go for it.
::leads rousing round of applause for Mrs. Bus Guy!!!:::
Your being honest with your wife really inflated my already high opinion of you. Her response just proved I was right in that opinion - you would not have chosen an unintelligent woman, nor she an unintelligent man.
If you get another call, I think you will handle it without worrying now.
(And I wish my husband would take me out for a weekend of whoopie, but who would take care of the cats?)
I vehemently disagree with your line of thinking. Busguy made a promise; a committment, to his wife, they have a child who deserves to be raised without the drama of cheating parents and D-I-V-O-R-C-E. Anyone here who has ever had one of their parents cheat can tell you how much that sucks.
Hey, don’t get me wrong, if you’re single and want to play around, I say go for it. Just stay away from married folk, and if you get married yourself, keep your genitals at home.
Mr Busguy, kudos to you and your wife for handling things so maturely and honestly. I look forward to congratulating you on your 60th wedding anniversary!
Fill up a big bowl of food, a big bowl of water, clean the litterbox, turn on a radio, leave a blanket out with you and hubby’s scent on it, leave a small light on, grab hubby, go buy some champagne/wine, whatever, check into hotel, order room service, and the rest is up to you. The cats will be fine. 
Wow-just wow.
Honoring your marriage vows has nothing to do with being ‘pussy-whipped’ and everything to do with personal integrity and emotional maturity.
I think Bus did the right thing. Meeting the woman–not pussy-whipped. Telling his wife–honesty and openness in a realationship is good.
Now if he tell his wife what happened after he bangs this hottie, that will really be some kind of honesty!
Well, it seems you’re an ass. I’m sorry for your SO.
Dolores Reborn, I understand the inclination to do so, but please refrain from insulting other posters in MPSIMS. If you want throw barbs his way, please take it to the Pit.
I’m sorry.
If he chooses to not tell his wife, no mater how innocent the encounter, he will be carrying a lie of omission around. To go or not go isn’t the real issue. The real issue is honest communication in his present relationship.
Speaking only for myself, I can forgive anything except a lie. Maybe I have an especially honest partnership, but we talk about everything.
My husband has gone to meet female friends from his past. I have no problem with that. We talked about it before and after, his choice, not mine.
Love is fragile. Putting the strain of dishonesty on it can break it.
I don’t understand this POV-but I will try. I agree that trust is everything, and with that comes honesty;MBG was right to tell his wife about the potential meeting. I think that MBG SHOULD meet this woman–because he still carries some sort of torch for her. I believe that meeting her may well extinguish this torch–and maybe he’ll find a friend–and maybe this woman will find two friends-MBG and the Mrs. That’s the best case scenario.
In this thread, I see little acknowledgement that people can grow and change. Because this woman is a widow who allowed her attraction to MBG to show years ago-it is assumed that she is hot for his form now. Perhaps the issues that led her to make such a move are no longer there. That strikes me as very likely.
Well, there has been alot of water under both bridges now. She may well be lonely, but not on the prowl. She may well have her own morals and not want to eff up someone else’s marriage! We don’t know.
But to get back to the post I quoted.
Is that what is paramount, banging the hottie? That MBG should get it on with this woman? How does that serve anyone or anything in this scenario? Why is it even a consideration? Frankly, I think it’s an insult to MBG and his wife to banter the option about.
So, IS that the goal? For MBG to get his rocks off with an old flame? He could do that masturbating to an old picture or even porn–is that not also a betrayal of sorts? Or he could make love to his wife while fantasizing about Susan–is that not also betrayal on some level?
bottom line: the danger that MBG is in has little to do with physical contact with this woman–it has more to do with emotional betrayal on his part of the trust his wife places in him (and he in her, I might add). If all goes well, that trust will be strengthened and that is all to the good.
Sex just in the picture, really–it’s almost irrelevant to the deeper issues at play.
Hope I made sense , as I am working all weekend and won’t be back to explain.
I’m going to add a touch of class here.
To quote William Shakespeare:
O, that way madness lies; let me shun that; No more of that.
King Lear, Act 3 Scene 4.
Looking forward to an account of the fateful cuppa, Bus Guy. You handled this the right way, and I’ll be interested to see how things went…
So let me get this straight, you think masturbation to the picture of an ex or to porn is betrayal?
Couples have different standards of what constitutes betrayal of their union.
(Am I the only one who finds “pussy-whipped” a really offensive term? It’s the equivalent of dragging my fingernails down a chalkboard for my nerves.)
Mr Bus Guy, I salute you. You done good, mate. hugs