Huh. Like you ever gave me the benefit of the doubt.
(sings) Andros and Cajun, sittin’ in a tree…
eye, vagina, whatever.
Shit Uke, I already knew you were a bad person.
C K, okay, that’s all fine and dandy but I still don’t understand the thread after one of your mods closed her thread. Her thread was fine on it’s own and could have become a funny thread.
I don’t blame you but I don’t agree with the idea behind it all.
BTW, Opal had no idea I was going to be posting this thread, so if there’s any blame, it’s to be placed on me. But the inconsistancy and the wording you used was way out there considering. Cajun Man felt that it was inappropriate, yet many fine examples can be found by doing a search where her thread was weak in it’s gross-out factor compared to others.
Then you threw your thread up. It ticked me off.
I mean if it’s okay for a mod/admin to talk about shit and a member is not allowed to talk about bowel movements, then there’s an issue.
Yeah, this is your playground and we are invited but there needs to be some consistancy in the rules.
Oh and Lib that’s a fine example with that link.
That link is tasteless even to this non-Christian (I do love you Euty) and hardly compares to a simple bet on when someone, after a major surgery, will poop. My word, talking about body functions is a part of this board, it has always been and probably always will be. I can’t help to think there are other things going on in my mind. But a butt plug link that, is sacreligious (sp) to many that frequent here is okay? (No offense Euty, but I am just making a point here.)
If you think about it as an outsider, then you will understand how that looks.
A mod can post the same thing in a way different tone but a member puts it jokingly, then it’s a bad thing and must be closed.
Besides, if people can’t handle some of the weird things in life, then what the fuck are they doing on this board. This is not about being perfect little beings that only discuss tea and crumpets, this is the board for the meat of life.
For Opal to post that was not obsene, it broke no decency rules from this board in the past. Most anything goes here as long as it doesn’t harm another, etc…the closing of her thread was unwarranted and the opening of your thread was tasteless given the above.
I hope you understand where I am coming from. I don’t like making many waves, although it’s fun at times.
BTW, if anyone had a guess, she apparently pooped last night or this morning, I forget! This is a good thing that her body is recovering well. It’s a good sign.
I’m done for now.
astro nailed it to a tee. YMMV. (But you’d be wrong). He fuckin’ NAILED IT!
And, IMHO, Dex posted as a “mere mortal.”
He gets da do dat? Damn… 
Thing is, see… there are two sure fire ways to deal with that problem (pay attention astro and samclem).
1 - put me on ignore. Then you will never ever see a single other TMI post from me again, guaranteed.
2 - don’t open my threads. This is another pretty sure fire way not to be forced to deal with the “accumulated weight” of my posts.
See how easy that was? Aren’t you surprised you didn’t think of it?
samclem That’s fine and all, I agree but let them be consistant in what they close and what they don’t.
I don’t claim to be consistant either but then Cajun Man came back in here to claim that his decision was justified despite the evidence to the contrary.
Opal’s thread was not in bad taste.
The sad thing is Cajun Man doesn’t see the inconsistancy and offers no apologies towards that.
His fellow mod can post about Jesus Butt Plugs but a member can’t post a humorous thread about her surgery and when she might actually poo?
There’s something wrong with that “consistancy.”
That and an admin prolonged the agony by posting his thread about her “shit”.
< shaking head, makes no sense whatsoever. >
OpalCat writes:
Opal, first warning. We expect users to cooperate with SDMB staff. I remind you yet again that moderators do this thankless job for free. CajunMan has been perfectly clear about why he closed your thread and yet you persist in badgering him about it. Any further behavior along these lines or other violations of our rules will result in revocation of your posting privileges. We recognize that you are having difficult times but enough is enough.
I just wanted to be the first to post after ED 
Ed, I wasn’t badgering him about it, I simply wanted him to understand that I wasn’t just “making a gross thread” I specifically said that I wasn’t arguing with his decision to close it, nor have I argued with that decision on here ANYWHERE. I simply wanted him to understand why I posted the thread. (Ie, it was a serious issue to me, not a throw-away gross-out thread). That is all. Is that really worth yanking my posting priveleges!?
Question: How is OpalCat being uncooperative, when her thread has been closed already? Does this mean that she should just shut up and not address any of CajunMan’s comments?
One more thing, can you clearly outline the kind of behavior that you’re referring to, other than violations of the rules, that will result in the revocation of a members posting priviledges?
Description of The BBQ Pit
What does this really mean?
Ed, in all defense to Opal, I am the one that started this thread. I am the one with the problem.
Your Mod had a problem and stated it in a very condescending way. This distresses me, greatly. He was very rude in his response to Opal. Opal only responded in kind, much like many other’s would that have a beef to share. If your mod, Cajun, is that diplomatic, then I suggest he be more kind to those who have a problem with his actions.
Had I not started this thread, your mod would not have (apparently) taken offense to the issue, despite the fact I see inconsistancies.
If you want to threaten to ban anyone, threaten to ban me.
I completely see wrong things with what happened, including what Cajun said in this thread. I “personally” would like to see that he is on limited duty, but that’s me. Either that or he comes back with an apology to Opal for his condescending tone and his “whatever I say is right so fucking deal” attitude. I have no problem with him per se, just his attitude in this and his reactions to the thread that started this whole business. If he likes her or not, I don’t care, it’s the reaction of him that ticks me off now.
You know, there are times when people are wrong and can admit to it. Apparently this is not one of those times. He was wrong, based on one of your admin’s threads and he (Cajun) can’t own up to it.
Opal has never been in the wrong regarding this particular issue, it was your mod that overstepped the boundries coupled with one of your admins that made a poor choice given the closing of the original thread in question two hours earlier. You admin sent mixed signals over what was accepted, and the acceptance was that he can start such threads but God forbid a member start a thread that was more tame.
I started this thread which may or may not have put her (Opal) on the defense. It was your mod that decided that taking the high road was not sufficient because of whatever reason.
To this I take more offense.
I just wish that the SDMB staff would take it upon themselves just once in a while to admit that they made a mistake rather than put it upon the member in question. This bother’s me to no end. Cajun made a mistake, he needs to own up to that given the past and the future of some of the threads your mods have created. Double standard rarely sits well.
I would leave but I like and love some of the members here. I like to read up even though I don’t respond much anymore, it’s an interesting site. However, this idea that Opal badgering anyone is completely out there, in my opinion. She was responding to a poorly worded and poorly executed response by one of your mods.
If you choose for me to leave involuntarily, then so be it, but there is a double standard here that needs to be addressed internally. It doesn’t look good from a member standpoint if you understand where many of us are coming from.
I so don’t appreciate the threat to Opal for banning though. She did nothing wrong, your mod taunted her and that is so wrong in so many ways.
Oh man, if I say anymore I am surely to get banned. I am more ticked off than I was when I started this thread, it just seems so loose and so unruly how the majority of the SDMB staff have responded.
It’s kinda sad really.
Auntie Dote I probably shoudn’t say this, but I am gonna.
It’s okay for the mods to do so but not us member folk. We are just mearly peasants. (sp)
Guess I need to join the country club.
(sorry but I am ticked off right now. If one certain mod would step up to the plate and apologize to Opal, then I will let this be under the bridge.)
Oh, well in that case, I will leave you teenagers to your idea of sick humor and go be nauseous in another room/forum. Even if that weren’t offensive to the flag (which it is) it would be offensive to women. Yes, it does put the offensive thread in context, but not an acceptable one. It just wasn’t funny.
Firefly, I think you have a legitimate question, and I think I know you well enough to know you don’t engage in silly games of semantics. FWIW, here’s my take on the “bad taste” issue:
First, it’s entirely subjective, as you’ve noted. And to his credit, Cajun Man said he would close any thread he deemed to be in bad taste. He knows he’s acting subjectively, but he also knows that’s the way it goes. Ya pays yer money, you takes yer cherce. He’s got responsibilities here, and he’s got to make decisions and also perhaps take some heat for it now and then.
While we’re all adults with varied backgrounds, there are accepted standards of behavior in “polite society” (for lack of a better term). Standards have been tightened a little on the board (or in certain forums) recently, as others have noted. There are also better ways of introducing a topic. Opal has explained her rationale, in that she was nervous and sort of making light of her surgery/recovery. But it may not have read as such to some. I responded to her OP in a vein which I thought matched it, and thought nothing more of it. But had she started a similar thread about the medical implications of her surgery and how she is nervous about it, the thread would be open yet, and many hearts and flowers would be sent her way, and various experiential anecdotes would be forthcoming as well as actual medical advice. That’s the way things work. Double standard? I guess, but presentation counts for a lot, especially where something as subjective as “taste” is concerned.
In short, it may not have been so much what Opal said as the way she said it. I think most topics are not taboo around here, but the way things are stated may make them seem more acceptable.
I can’t help but think of the post I started about how stopping smoking helped me achieve bigger and better erections (a contention that Qadgop the Mercotan, who is a doctor, confirmed). I think that thread is still open, so I guess it must not be in bad taste. Again, it’s subjective, as perhaps sex is in better taste than defecation.
I can’t fault Cajun Man for closing both threads, as he saw fit to do so in his capacity as moderator. And I don’t ask for explanations, since I don’t necessarily believe any should be forthcoming. In fact, I don’t even think a moderator should have to explain why a thread has been closed. That’s their business. But then, that’s my subjective opinion, isn’t it? 
I’d sue.
Oh jebus in a tuk-tuk. Why not just wear sackcloth and ashes and get the whole martyr act over and done with?
What has he to apoligize for? Being a moderator? Not conforming to your standards of acceptable moderator behaviour?
And you’ll “let” this be under the bridge? you’ll “let”?
Here’s a cookie.
I agree, which is why I haven’t once complained here that the thread was closed. I don’t think it was wrong of me to post it, mind you. I don’t think it was “such an obvious no-no” that I should have “known better”… but I also don’t think that it was wrong of them to close it if they didn’t like it.
This whole time, my only “thing” has been that I did want him to understand why I posted it. Just a personal pride thing, I guess… I just didn’t want him to think that I was being “vulgar for the sake of being vulgar”.
Sigh. Just for the record, I was not aware that Cajun Man had closed Opal’s thread at the point that I posted. Cajun Man brought that thread to my attention earlier in the evening, and we discussed whether it should be closed. I said that I would have closed it many many posts ago.
I did not look at that thread again, but later in the evening, I thought that a thread of bodily fluids through history or philosophy or whatever would be funny, satiric, amusing, creative, disgustingly amusing. Like, when Galileo first puts his telescope to his eye, he sneezes on the lens and sees sixteen moons around Jupiter, thus changing astronomy forever.
I have no problem whatsoever with Cajun Man closing my thread.
Tech, I apologize deeply and profusely that we have different perspectives on what’s funny. I’ll never crack a joke again without seeking your approval. Never. Well, hardly ever.
True enough, there is no objective, measurable, quantifiable standard of what is “good taste.” If this board followed my standard, about three-quarters of the posts in the MPSIMS and Pit would be blasted from existence. There is a certain subjectivity in what an individual mod (or different mods) do. We are real live functioning (mostly) human beings, we are not soulless mechanized moderator programs that search for “key words” to determine whether to close a thread. Live with it, or find another playground.