I need some advice. My husband and I have a group of friends, all other couples, whom we’ve known for a long time. The husband in one of the couples, let’s call him “C”, we’ve been friends with for over 16 years. We knew him well before he met “W”, his wife of 10 years. In fact, my husband was in their wedding party. They now have three kids.
Over the past year or so it has been brought to our attention that this couple practices polyamory. While this kinda squicked the rest of us out, we mostly thought “to each their own” and it didn’t really impact us.
This couple has now decided to bring their “secondary others” to all of our social functions. They are openly affectionate with their respective boyfriend/girlfriend, and it makes several of us really uncomfortable.
This is kind of wigging me out, because I’ve always thought of myself as an open-minded and liberal person. My daughter came out gay this year. Fine. A friend in our group had a sex-change operation. OK. But it turns out I do have a line, and making out with someone else in front of your spouse seems to be it.
I don’t know what to do. I love these friends. My kids love them. They love us. But I feel wildly uncomfortable being asked to socialize with their new “second mates”. I feel like it’s a huge imposition on our circle to ask this of us. And I feel like a shit for feeling this way.
Not sure what kind of advice I’m looking for here. Go easy on me. I’m just trying to process this new reality.