When I got divorced from my first wife, I briefly dated a 54 year old (I was 26)
Best sex of my life, nearly (excluding the S.O.)
plus, capable of a decent conversation, fairly worldly, and a great resource to have if you’re in any kind of trouble, financial or legal (which I often was at the time)
I’m 42 now. Do the math. I still see her (socially) from time to time, and she still looks good to me. I owe her a lot. I hope she remembers the relationship with the same feelings I do.
Under different circumstances, I’d have made it more permanent, as it was, I was still looking to go out and play. Pity, maybe.
If it’s good and you feel comfortable, don’t blow it.
When I met the SO he was 19 and I was 27 and married with kids and a husband and all that… We fell in love, it’s fifteen years later and although we don’t live together any more we’re still in love, still have amazing sex, still would rather spend time with each other than anyone else…
The big difference now is that most people think HE’S the older one, go figure…
Guys my age are boring and a pain in the ass, mostly… :rolleyes:
I met my current g/f when I was 22 and she was 44. I am now 29. We are still together and couldn’t possibly be any happier. I’m OK with not having kids. Technically we still could, but it’s kinda dangerous at this point.
I went through the whole “When, I’m 30 she’ll be…” thing. Well, I’m almost 30, and we’re still happy as can be.
Sure I’m worried about whether or not I will be alone late in life (which is a significant possiblity), but I will not leave her for that reason. Heck, I won’t leave her for ANY reason.
So why aren’t we married after 7+ years? Oh, that must be another thread.
By the way, she is very young-looking for her age. Not that that enters into my concious thought, but maybe unconciously it makes it OK for me? Hmmmm…
I’m 47 and my boyfriend is 27. I resisted dating him for 8 months b/c I thought it was ridiculous. Part of me still thinks it’s ridiculous or I wouldn’t have found this forum for opinions and/or validation, but I have to say we’re effortlessly well suited and I really adore him and he seems to really adore me. Still, in my mind this is a temporary relationship. The idea of looking really old to him someday quite soon is not pleasant to me. But even though it is probably temporary – it is the best relationship I’ve ever been in. I feel like for the first time I’m just appreciating and loving a person for who he is without trying to nail down my entire future.
There’s a woman in my current practice who is 80. Her husband, and a devoted one who is the primary wage earner, is 53. They have been married for 25 years. I would guess, that people who know she is a bit older, think she is about 60. This lovely woman is recovering from a stroke, and doing well at it, because the mere presence of her spouse inspires her. He is completely committed to her well being. She tells me his previous relationships were with older women as well, as he is rather cerebral and found his age mates vacuous and boring. This woman is a role model for a number of processes, age discrepancy being only one. The stroke recovery is amazing…I credit the speech pathologist a lot, and her progressive neurologist as well. Her underlying personality is, oh, intelligence and perspicacity with humor. What a delight and a treasure.
I’m older than my husband, but only a year, and he is another stroke survivor. Shit happens, folks, age is just a number. Mitsubishi only relevant in re fertility,because thernyou have a limit with women. Men can pparentlymsire children until they are dead
This is a 12-year-old thread but what the hell. 15 years younger than my sweety. She and I will have been
together 27 years on 8/8/14. Loved every minute of it.
A twelve year old thread about dating older women? There’s something poetic about that.
In my thirties, I dated women in their forties almost exclusively. I found them much more satisfying than women my own age. None of them turned into LTRs, but not because of age issues.
Now, in my dotage, I’m finally finding women my own age to be appropriately seasoned.
I was in two similar arrangements when I was 30. One we lived together for a year or two (mainly because I needed a place to live and was a little short on resources) the other was a passing affair with a neighbor that lasted a month or two. Neither implied any permanence, both ended amicably.
I can see why a woman in her late 30’s or even 40’s would like a young man in his 20’s. Quite frankly by then most all of the “good ones” are taken.
I cannot think of a single male over 40 I know who has a degree, good job, good looking, and is a decent person whom I would want to introduce to any single ladies and I know quite a few.
Now there was one guy at work, age 42, good job-good looking, who got divorced and man… I dont know how all the females at work heard about it but they came out of the woodwork to meet him!
I think it’s fine as long as you are both attracted to each other. Same goes for older men, younger women, which for some reason has more of a stigma attached to it.
