older women,younger men

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      • I haven’t ever dated anyone from my work, and I very rarely talk about my personal life. Only one female works third shift; the only time I am around any more is between 10 and 11 PM, and among 40 or so female employees, no more than eight or ten are there on any one night. So any have the chance to approach me, but the few that will engage me in conversation are married, and the ones that aren’t don’t seem interested at all -or if they are, they express it by not speaking or making eye contact with me. Plus, there’s a fairly regular amount of employee turnover, and the younger ones tend to be friskier. It doesn’t seem like they’re really looking to score (dear Lord, I hope they weren’t really trying), just that having a bit of fun helps break the tension of everyone not wanting to be there. I don’t want a 20-year-old; I want someone who acts twenty.
      • I don’t look for dates or life partners either; I just find myself goofing around with younger women almost all of the time. Sometimes they start it, sometimes I do, but I just don’t get the same attitude with older women. It seems like there’s a layer of seriousness present - as if their stakes seem higher, their cause nobler than mine. And I don’t know exactly what I want - I sure don’t walk around with a shirt on that says “marry me and let’s have kids”, but I don’t want to be picking out silverware on the second date, either. It’s as if there’s some kind of scorecard they judge me by, and I never know what I did lousy in. - MC
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      • And it’s a minor point, but I very rarely go to bars. I don’t like drinking or cigarette smoke (making bars lousy hunting grounds for me), and so I find most bars to be fairly boring places. -And they overcharge for soda. Which I don’t understand, because I don’t connect sitting on a stool for hours with soda consumption, but what do I know? Someday I will go into one and they will charge me extra for not smoking. - MC
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Okay - if you get along better with the young ones - great - why not. I thought you were saying you’re looking for serious romance with a 20-something. Have you tried to get to know some of the older ones? Maybe you’re intimidated by them and give off bad vibes and they sense it. Just because someone comes off as serious doesn’t mean they can’t loosen up when you get to know them.

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I can’t help but think that if a man were to boast about deflowering the cuteist little seventeen year old girl and hoe it was “delicious”, we would all be up in arms. I think we tend to think that men are more less vunrable to being emotionally scarred by this sort of thing, but I’m not sure that’s true.

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Thanks, Manda J0!

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Actually,I don’t want to be in control,to me,we’re both equal. My last boyfriend was 21,I was 34.Yes, I was more mature than him,but it’s not like he played candyland!We broke up,but not for that reason. When I was 25,I went out with a 37 year old who is the most immature guy ever! Age doesn’t matter THAT much,but it does some.

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