It has occured to me at times that one night stands are very unfulfilling for me. IMHO I find that having sex with someone I feel close to emotionally is much more intense.
I don’t look down on anyone for having one night stands, in fact I can understand why some people do. I just wanted to know what you all think and why. I am also kinda curious if men and women feel the same way about this and why.
Please shed some light on this subject for me.
I’ve never had a one-night-stand in my life, and I wouldn’t be interested in one. I see sex as part of a relationship, not an end in itself. Twenty years ago I might have seen things a little differently–16-year-old males have different priorities–but even then I wouldn’t have cared for the concept. Nowadays, I’m not at all interested in the idea of a one-nighter.
Had a few one-night stands, but booze was always invoved. The occasional one nighter is no big deal, but I do have contempt for people who are only interested in one nighters. Seems like such a waste.
While I’ve pretty much been a “one-woman-man” most of my life, I went through a phase in my twenties where I kinda went berzerk, trying to prove something (to myself?)…I think a lotta guys do the same, trying to “score” as much as possible. I never had sex with a woman I just met though…they were acquintances from work usually, someone I knew and liked. It was never purely physical.
For me, it was okay, something I think I “needed” to do…sowing my wild oats and all that. Mostly good memories too, not a clinker episode in the bunch. Regrets? I don’t think so.
…man, after re-reading this, I feel incredibly shallow.
I was never into one night stands but that’s just me. Whatever a person chooses is fine as long as they don’t get them confused with each other.
I’m a guy, I do any & all sorts of relationships, one year, ten years, one night, two hours.
There was some discussion about this before here.
Went through a one-night-stand phase for a few months. I stopped because whatever fun there was in it was quickly dissolved by the agonizing “oh shit, how soon can I leave?” or “oh shit, how can I get rid of this person?”. I especially hated those time when I would suddenly sober up in the middle of the act and think “what the hell am I dooing and how soon can I finish?”
I had thought it would be kind of a nice, no-pressure thing after my second long-term monogamous relationship ended, but man oh man, was I relieved to end it and get back to a stable relationship.
No desire to have a one-night stand for various reasons, most of which you don’t need to know.
However. Sex can be bought. Friendship and loving, friendly kisses are much harder to acquire. Guess which I value more.
I’d settle for just about any sort of relationship at all. Certainly, I’d prefer to have a long, loving, emotionally fulfilling relationship rather than just plain sex. However, I’m desperate enough that I’d probably have sex just to get the intimacy that comes with it.
hmm… I like Clubbing, and I like meeting all sorts of other people (Femmes, femmes, femmes) and so I like one night stands, but… long relationships are great too 
Nessun desiderio avere un basamento di un-notte per vari motivi, la maggior parte di cui
non dovete conoscere. Tuttavia. Il sesso può essere comprato. L’ amicizia ed amare,
baci amichevoli sono molto più dure da acquistare. Congettura che valore I più.
I’ve never had a one-night stand. Both of my sexual partners were women with whom I had (or in the present case, am having) a sincere and hopefully lasting relationship. The first one didn’t work out (understatement of the year), but I have high hopes for the current one.
My first ‘time’ was comparatively late, especially for a guy. I waited until someone came along with whom I was able to love and was committed to the relationship.
For myself, I think anything less would cheapen me as a person.
I’ve had neither, and despite the idea I have always had that a one night stand is inherently unfulfilling, currently (as time goes on in my life and still nothing) I’d take anything, if just for the experience,
But I’d probably regret it.
Which is really… frustrating.
Kind of depends on where you are in your life and what you are looking for doesn’t it?
If you are looking for love/affirmation of your self worth then a one night stand would suck.
However if it is just 2 people enjoying each others company if only for a couple hours, no harm, no foul!
Just put the stones down and step away.
I guess I was about 17-18 when I decided that relationships just about sex weren’t for me. They seemed sort of shallow and I wanted something deeper.
Remember, you’re not only having a one night stand…you’re being one too.
There was a girl here the other day & she wanted to have sex. I asked her why & she said because she was horny.
Hope you’re sitting down guys, but I told her ‘no’.